Comments on: someone please listen http://suicideproject.org/2009/05/someone-please-listen/ share your suicide story with others Wed, 23 May 2012 21:41:35 +0000 hourly 1 By: russell hernandez http://suicideproject.org/2009/05/someone-please-listen/comment-page-1/#comment-33792 russell hernandez Mon, 01 Jun 2009 21:47:44 +0000 http://suicideproject.org/?p=1731#comment-33792 i just want to say that im kinda like you, but im in like the earlier stages and that something that is helping me is music. i just want to say that im kinda like you, but im in like the earlier stages and that something that is helping me is music.

]]> By: Hugo http://suicideproject.org/2009/05/someone-please-listen/comment-page-1/#comment-33787 Hugo Mon, 01 Jun 2009 09:16:47 +0000 http://suicideproject.org/?p=1731#comment-33787 Hi there, I feel for you. Even if you are right and you suffer from Borderline personality disorder BPD - that does not mean it can not get better. And at age of 18 your personality still develops a little. Do not expect major leaps in that, but definitely there is the space to grow. So taken you are right about the diagnosis of personality disorder - the insight is not the cure itself, but it is vital for progressing. You write in clear lines - clear thoughts - even about stuff that is messy. I see potential there. I repeat insight is not the cure itself and can be painful, but it can bring correction. We "inherit" lot of stuff - be it for good or bad, and basics of personality too, so it is not your blame or fault - well, that are the cards to play with - you can give up anytime later - but it is worth to give it a try. As I understand BPD the central issue here is that people usually have som core ideas and feelings about who they are, what they feel, what they want or what are "their" basic values. Even when they are not nice persons, or are wrong in their self image - they experience it as pretty stable and can "rely" on it - they learn to live with it. In BPD the core can drift considerably - so one has to be much more flexible and at the same time much more disciplined to stand it. To have good therapist is here vital. Friends can not do that, they are for other things, to say it so. I strongly advise to search for the therapist and be ready for the long way. Wish you strong will, good feelings and success! Hugo Hi there,
I feel for you. Even if you are right and you suffer from Borderline personality disorder BPD – that does not mean it can not get better. And at age of 18 your personality still develops a little. Do not expect major leaps in that, but definitely there is the space to grow.
So taken you are right about the diagnosis of personality disorder – the insight is not the cure itself, but it is vital for progressing. You write in clear lines – clear thoughts – even about stuff that is messy. I see potential there. I repeat insight is not the cure itself and can be painful, but it can bring correction. We “inherit” lot of stuff – be it for good or bad, and basics of personality too, so it is not your blame or fault – well, that are the cards to play with – you can give up anytime later – but it is worth to give it a try.
As I understand BPD the central issue here is that people usually have som core ideas and feelings about who they are, what they feel, what they want or what are “their” basic values. Even when they are not nice persons, or are wrong in their self image – they experience it as pretty stable and can “rely” on it – they learn to live with it. In BPD the core can drift considerably – so one has to be much more flexible and at the same time much more disciplined to stand it.
To have good therapist is here vital. Friends can not do that, they are for other things, to say it so. I strongly advise to search for the therapist and be ready for the long way.

Wish you strong will, good feelings and success!
Hugo

]]> By: ____________ http://suicideproject.org/2009/05/someone-please-listen/comment-page-1/#comment-33786 ____________ Mon, 01 Jun 2009 08:19:22 +0000 http://suicideproject.org/?p=1731#comment-33786 I cannot even tell you how similar we are. I just turned 18 and i feel like I am just beginning to realize that everyone is only here for themselves. And if I am not happy, I should do something about it, since nobody else will. My friend recently committed suicide in March. At first I was so hurt that she couldn't talk to me about the way she was feeling, but then I realized that I feel that I have nobody to talk to too. I wish I had her bravery, because I am so unhappy I feel that I am already dead. I too am thankful enough to be quite attractive, yet nobody wants to commit to me. I would love for someone to want to be with me, but I think I am just too depressing to be around quite honestly. Art is the only way I still exist, it is the only thing that cares about me. I know this is not nearly as deep and heartfelt as your writing. I just thought Id let you know basically that you are not alone, and that you should use art as a coping method every chance you get. Good luck. I cannot even tell you how similar we are. I just turned 18 and i feel like I am just beginning to realize that everyone is only here for themselves. And if I am not happy, I should do something about it, since nobody else will. My friend recently committed suicide in March. At first I was so hurt that she couldn’t talk to me about the way she was feeling, but then I realized that I feel that I have nobody to talk to too. I wish I had her bravery, because I am so unhappy I feel that I am already dead. I too am thankful enough to be quite attractive, yet nobody wants to commit to me. I would love for someone to want to be with me, but I think I am just too depressing to be around quite honestly. Art is the only way I still exist, it is the only thing that cares about me. I know this is not nearly as deep and heartfelt as your writing. I just thought Id let you know basically that you are not alone, and that you should use art as a coping method every chance you get. Good luck.

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