Comments on: Two Addictions That Will Never Be Cured.. Maybe http://suicideproject.org/2009/07/two-addictions-that-will-never-be-cured-maybe/ share your suicide story with others Fri, 30 Jul 2010 01:09:22 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Sai Chan http://suicideproject.org/2009/07/two-addictions-that-will-never-be-cured-maybe/comment-page-1/#comment-35269 Sai Chan Sun, 02 Aug 2009 14:20:23 +0000 http://suicideproject.org/?p=2630#comment-35269 jessicaxrawr, I'm only lucky and honored to have received your reply and in seeing you well. I wish someday I could show you around and share some joy. I'm sincerely waiting this day may come! Keep in touch! jessicaxrawr,
I’m only lucky and honored to have received your reply and in seeing you well. I wish someday I could show you around and share some joy. I’m sincerely waiting this day may come!
Keep in touch!

]]> By: jessicaxrawr http://suicideproject.org/2009/07/two-addictions-that-will-never-be-cured-maybe/comment-page-1/#comment-35258 jessicaxrawr Sun, 02 Aug 2009 04:42:40 +0000 http://suicideproject.org/?p=2630#comment-35258 Thanks Sai Chan. Your comment made me smile. And man, you're lucky. I wish I lived in Hong Kong! Haha, that'd be awesome. Anyway, thanks for spending so much time reading about me.. I really do appreciate that. Thanks Sai Chan. Your comment made me smile. And man, you’re lucky. I wish I lived in Hong Kong! Haha, that’d be awesome. Anyway, thanks for spending so much time reading about me.. I really do appreciate that.

]]> By: Sai Chan http://suicideproject.org/2009/07/two-addictions-that-will-never-be-cured-maybe/comment-page-1/#comment-35130 Sai Chan Mon, 27 Jul 2009 19:32:27 +0000 http://suicideproject.org/?p=2630#comment-35130 jessicaxrawr, With such a young age, so brilliant and talented. I see a genius in you. Can you prove me wrong? You remind me of the 'Dakota Fanning' in the film 'Man On Fire'. I'm a father to a daughter aged 7, living in Hong Kong. play_with_sai at hotmail.com jessicaxrawr,
With such a young age, so brilliant and talented. I see a genius in you. Can you prove me wrong? You remind me of the ‘Dakota Fanning’ in the film ‘Man On Fire’. I’m a father to a daughter aged 7, living in Hong Kong.
play_with_sai at hotmail.com

]]> By: jessicaxrawr http://suicideproject.org/2009/07/two-addictions-that-will-never-be-cured-maybe/comment-page-1/#comment-34950 jessicaxrawr Tue, 21 Jul 2009 04:52:20 +0000 http://suicideproject.org/?p=2630#comment-34950 I've tried so many times to tell someone.. to try to get someone to help. Nobody listens. They all think I'm crazy. I’ve tried so many times to tell someone.. to try to get someone to help. Nobody listens. They all think I’m crazy.

]]> By: pulling the plug http://suicideproject.org/2009/07/two-addictions-that-will-never-be-cured-maybe/comment-page-1/#comment-34613 pulling the plug Wed, 08 Jul 2009 07:25:03 +0000 http://suicideproject.org/?p=2630#comment-34613 Grownups can be really stupid about this stuff, expecting a kid to be able to handle that kind of horrible shit without any help. Sometimes you just have to say something like, "Mom, I'm just a kid. I can't handle this stuff alone. It's too much for me. If you can't help me deal with the feelings that go with growing up with a drug addict father, I need you to help me find someone who _can_ listen. And not someone who will just drug me to shut me up, or treat me like some kind of crazy person. It's _normal_ to be messed up by having a drug addict for a father. Acting like _I'm_ the problem is really unfair and it pisses me off. I need you to _help_ me, not have me locked up." Or something. You have your own words about it, that's just an idea. Can you tell your mom that you need to _talk_ about what happened with your father? You don't want a therapist, or meds, or being locked up like a loony - you just need your mom to care about how your dad's drug addiction affected you and messed you up? Those kinds of feelings are too big for a little kid to handle alone. Your mom was probably doing the best she could at the time to just get the divorce, but she needs to think about you a little bit now too. If she can't handle talking about it, she needs to help you find someone you _can_ talk to. Can you tell her how it felt to be sent off to the psych ward? Or is there any other adult you can talk to about it that you trust? Somebody who'll just listen to you and not judge you but might actually understand that it feels awful to be locked up like some kind of crazy person? I'm glad you have the strength to overcome this and that you are writing here to tell your story. It's hard to trust adults when so many of them have let you down and done crazy shit and not really been grownups at all. Is there anybody who you think might 'get' what happened to you, like a teacher or somebody? I think that's what will help the most - someone in your life who won't judge you or lock you up or give you meds, but who will try to understand what you're feeling. Grownups can be really stupid about this stuff, expecting a kid to be able to handle that kind of horrible shit without any help. Sometimes you just have to say something like, “Mom, I’m just a kid. I can’t handle this stuff alone. It’s too much for me. If you can’t help me deal with the feelings that go with growing up with a drug addict father, I need you to help me find someone who _can_ listen. And not someone who will just drug me to shut me up, or treat me like some kind of crazy person. It’s _normal_ to be messed up by having a drug addict for a father. Acting like _I’m_ the problem is really unfair and it pisses me off. I need you to _help_ me, not have me locked up.”

Or something. You have your own words about it, that’s just an idea.

Can you tell your mom that you need to _talk_ about what happened with your father? You don’t want a therapist, or meds, or being locked up like a loony – you just need your mom to care about how your dad’s drug addiction affected you and messed you up?

Those kinds of feelings are too big for a little kid to handle alone. Your mom was probably doing the best she could at the time to just get the divorce, but she needs to think about you a little bit now too. If she can’t handle talking about it, she needs to help you find someone you _can_ talk to.

Can you tell her how it felt to be sent off to the psych ward? Or is there any other adult you can talk to about it that you trust? Somebody who’ll just listen to you and not judge you but might actually understand that it feels awful to be locked up like some kind of crazy person?

I’m glad you have the strength to overcome this and that you are writing here to tell your story. It’s hard to trust adults when so many of them have let you down and done crazy shit and not really been grownups at all. Is there anybody who you think might ‘get’ what happened to you, like a teacher or somebody? I think that’s what will help the most – someone in your life who won’t judge you or lock you up or give you meds, but who will try to understand what you’re feeling.

]]> By: kate http://suicideproject.org/2009/07/two-addictions-that-will-never-be-cured-maybe/comment-page-1/#comment-34598 kate Tue, 07 Jul 2009 23:26:56 +0000 http://suicideproject.org/?p=2630#comment-34598 very good. very good.

]]> By: lillie http://suicideproject.org/2009/07/two-addictions-that-will-never-be-cured-maybe/comment-page-1/#comment-34587 lillie Tue, 07 Jul 2009 19:36:47 +0000 http://suicideproject.org/?p=2630#comment-34587 wow. you had some fucked up shit going. as for the whole addcition thing, one of my close friends died from overdose on drugs and watching her go down hurt that i couldnt save her i know what you mean. im glad your trying to get help and if you give it a shot you can reach it. keep those good friends close as you can there what you really need. if you want someone to talk to, ask for my email and you have it. wow. you had some fucked up shit going. as for the whole addcition thing, one of my close friends died from overdose on drugs and watching her go down hurt that i couldnt save her i know what you mean. im glad your trying to get help and if you give it a shot you can reach it. keep those good friends close as you can there what you really need. if you want someone to talk to, ask for my email and you have it.

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