I’ve always been the caring person who was always there for others.
Yet that has been haunting me.
Somehow because of that people end on blaming me.
I’ve been used by people for just anything whenever they were done with my help they ditched me until they needed me again.
Can someone help me changing that?
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Yes you can change that. Stop being there so much for others and spend more of your time focusing on your own personal happiness. You deserve to be happy. it is good to help others but you shouldn’t let people step all over you. Yo deserve to be treated better than that. Set a higher standard 4 yourself. Have some fun. Enjoy your life
^^ Agreed.
Yup, what Uptown234 said. There’s a line between helping and being used. You have to watch peoples actions not their words. the words that come out of someone’s mouth is mostly Bull and used like smoke and mirrors in an illusion. But actions cannot be a lie.
Most valuable thing to learn in this situation is to be able to say no and be OK with it. As of now I actually get a sick pleasure in denying other people. Feels odd at first and like I was a bad person but since then I have at least felt more in control of what happens in my life.
It’s ok to be there for others, but not when you are neglecting yourself in order to do so.
Also, some people might see it as intrusion of their space when you worry too much about them, sad to say but it happens (and might be why they blame you afterwards). And as you say, there’s the people that use you as well, worst part is that by being readily available whenever they need it you are giving them the power and consentment to do as they please.
Even if it’s good to help people without expecting nothing in return, you do need something in return from time to time. Else it’s just people draining you and taking advantage of your good intentions.