no other option

Hi,
I lived in poverty just like you and came from a poor family too.
Could you use whatever financial aid you do get to take a class or
how many it affords?

I’m mostly concerned about “shacking up” with guys. The reason they
shack up is because they don’t want to make a commitment and they
do skip out whenever they want leaving you (us) with all the expenses
etc. Worse, I would hate for you to get pregnant and bring an innocent
child into these conditions.

Can you share living expenses with a girl or two from school or otherwise?

If your school schedule is cut and you are working fewer or no hours,
can you pick one hobby? I want you to become good at that one thing
by practicing, and reading about it (no less than 10 books )
and hanging around other people who too practice the same hobby.
Then, I want you to start your own small business charging for it. NOw, you
earn doing something that you love. Your college and your local small business
association has tons of free resources to help you. Then, you pay for your classes
one by one in a major like your hobby or business major to help you grow your
hobby into a business.

Next, your mother is making a terrible mistake shacking up with this man for the
reasons that I beg you not to but also because its not fair to you and your siblings
to have to live with a man who is not your father and who too will likely run out on
your mom like your dad and boyfriend did to you. This man is using your mom
for sex or he would commit to her like a gentleman. Still until you children are
grown and gone, your mother and you kids need to take care of one another.
Unfortunately, too many women sacrifice morals and shack up with men only
to regret it later. Please do not follow her patterns.

As for this ugly stuff, I don’t care what you look like, I don’t care as much how
smart you are. I mainly care that you are a decent human being. Are you? I
believe you are. Despite our lousey society, you are a top notch person because
of your morals and treatment of other humans.

When you are earning your own money doing what you LOVE and are naturally good
at, then you can fix yourself anyway you like. Until then, you can get makeovers
in any cosmetic department for free. Write down the colors they select and you
like and buy them cheap at a local drugstore by finding similar colors.

As for your hair, call a local beauty school. You will be astonished at how inexpensively
they will cut your hair. Just go for the cut and skip the hair dry and all the expensive
blowdrying and styling. YOu can skip the wash and just have them spritz your hair
with water if you want.

As for job, take your resume to your college and request that a counselor in the career
department tune it up for you or help you draft it all together if you don’t have one.
Check with your college, and financial aid dept., they may have some part time jobs
avail on campus.

Hopefully, I’ve shined a light on some other options. Money will give you options and insulate you from financial crisis and afford you more happiness which is why I want you to execute a strategy doing something you already love to do. If there is nothing, then just think. Come up
with a short list of what you would love to do and then read profusely over that topic until you an expert–no less than 10 meaty-sized books–more than that.
Babysit. Call local YMCA and take babysitting class to earn certificate. Babysitters earn $12-$18 per hour depending on number of kids. Do a google search in your area. Become a nanny for a working mother and really work to love and nurture that poor child who is deprived of their parents. Be honest, reliable, punctual, sincere, creative and busy with the kids and you will be in high demand! YOu won’t believe what you ,can earn. Do me one favor, if you go this route, please leave you cell phone off, no texting or TV while kids are awake. They already lost their
mom and dad to a job, they need you to be engaged and involved. Besides that’s what youre getting paid for.

For self-help, listen to Dr. Laura. Visit her website daily, read everything available out there.
Participate in blogs with others and gain world-wide support from people just like you. Then
when you are feeling a little bit lifted, go back and return some of that support to others coming behind you.

Don’t take your life. Youve experienced so much and the rest of us need you to be a pillar to help us through. Together, we can find happiness and support each other. That is the essence
of living.

Many Smiles.

Signed—a self employed business owner, wife, mother, and financially independent who dug out shovel by shovel out of poverty!