This is a serious question. Please be 100% honest, especially if you have bad news for me. I never had a girlfriend. After all the rejections and hurt I’ve gone through bec of women, I cant be objective about my looks anymore. I just hate myself.
I want to find out, if my shyness and sadness is the only reason, why I never had a relationship OR its also because i am just fuckin unattractive to women.
Could u find a guy like me in any way attractive? In my self-perception I couldnt 🙁
ps: i hope i figured out how to upload that picture ^^
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That’s an interesting question. Good luck. Hope you get the answers you’re looking for.
Lose the chinstrap (keep the mo’ though), get some thicker frames and y’know what? Feel comfortable in your own skin first before you try getting into someone else’s. Trust me mate, I ain’t that much of a looker, but I’ve landed some real babes in my time. Or perhaps (much like yourself) I’m not givin’ myself that much credit at all. Who knows?
Come to NZ. Plenty of sheilas down here who’d pounce on you like a Boxing Day sale (trust me – Kiwi women are the most promiscuous in the world).
Lol, eh, that sounds kind of gross bro.
C’mon now, I ain’t gon’ water it down for y’all.
ok i’ll consider NZ for my next holiday destination 😀 being confident, entertaining and witty around girls is not that easy with my past and my ingoing personality… its not like i never tried!
I wondered if you were the author of this post. Yep, I checked up on your earlier stuff and I s’pose it ain’t going to be easy, but you’ll get there eventually mate.
If you visit here, try coming ’round December. The Mount in Tauranga would be your best bet (went on leave there a few times – beautiful scenery and even more beautiful women) or if you’re looking for a good time not a long time, head to Dunedin (seriously, don’t stay there long as that place is bad mojo if subject to prolonged exposure).
You remind me of Gordon Freeman.
Gordon Freeman = win.
But in all seriousness I can relate to you and your insecurities. It takes time and patience, but we have to be confident with ourselves before we go looking for a committed relationship. Most people nowadays are immature and will only use you for their own selfish reasons. I learned that out the hard way 🙁 So be sure you know what you want, don’t settle for less, and be confident! 🙂
haha gordon freeman, that made my day 😀 trying to fix up myself will probably take too long, i’ll be old until then and wasted my youth by not making all the “experiences” others in my age made…
Haha glad that made your day 🙂
Yeah I hear you. You just gotta find the gal that’ll accept you for you, faults and all…the same way I have to find a man that will accept me.
Iit doesn’t happen overnight…and I know it’s hard to believe…but good things come to those who wait. So that’s all I’ve been doing really. It sucks, but it’s better then being in relationship after relationship and having nothing but heartache 🙁
Actually you have a very nice body and face. I would say you’re attractive – I’m female and I know what I’m talking about. If you want to change something, make your hair shorter, much shorter. And swap the glasses for contact lenses. You’ll look awesome. Probably the reason you’ve never had a girlfriend is because you are self-conscious. That is something that can be fixed
thank you for your kind words my lady, feels good to finally hear (ehmm read) a compliment. well, when i was in my puberty-teen years my mother suffered from severe depression, when dad left us. thats likely to be the reason i always felt insecure and sad. i always had been more of an ingoing person, who thinks a lot and doesnt mind silence. i have no problem going up to a girl, the problem is what follows… its so hard for an ingoing guy to entertain and seduce women 🙁
I’m not the demographic you are looking an answer from (a guy and heterosexual) but heck, you are a lot better looking than i am and i’ve had several long term relationships (even if they all failed) with average, bad, and great looking girls. That was back when i still had some self esteem left tho… so don’t bring yourself down, because you have no reason to (and most likely that’s what is causing the rejections).
well the reason for my insecurities in the first place lies in my early teen years. all the rejections due to my lack of self confidence made me even more insecure and ingoing. only time i am not insecure around women i like is, when i am drunk. i’ve tried to party more, but its just not my world. i dont feel like i belong there. and i am to insecure to hitting up on women in casual places.
how do you get rid of that insecurites? i feel so strongly bonded to them, that i think its just part of me.
I didn’t really got rid of them. It’s sad to say, but i’m pretty sure that at least in my case, my insecurities will always be there but you can learn to deal with them so they can become less of a problem, since you are not bad looking at all.
I have to point out that i was obese for most of my teen years and changed schools often so that wasn’t a really good starting point (i was rejected a lot too), but what helped in my case was that i had to learn how to fake security (i used to sing, and no one wants an insecure singer), which is not ideal, but if you fake something for long enough you can actually start believing it. Losing all the extra weight sure helped as well haha.
Once you start believing in yourself most likely girls will respond to it and that security (either fake or real) will become real, which was my case for a good couple of years. The problem with faking security? there’s always someone who can crash you back down if you don’t believe in yourself hard enough. In my case it took a couple of really bad breakups (which were both not my decision)+free (serious) bashing on both of them. But hey, you might have better luck than i did 😀
i like you “M”, you seem like a very nice person! i guess faking it, is the only thing guys like us have left in our arsenal ha 🙁 feels like a lie tho and i hate lies. but i guess living a lie is better than living in misery ^^
so i gotta work on my small talk skills with girls. i am so fucking awful at it, when i have feelings for them… guess they feel that i would like to rather jump off a cliff in such situations.
Thanks for that 🙂 but don’t get me wrong tho, it’s not about faking a personality or being something you are not, it’s just about believing that there is no problem with the way you are. And actually, there isn’t, because insecurity creates a distorted perception of yourself, which impairs you from acting normal in front of other people. If you don’t reflect that insecurity they won’t see it, so in the end you are not lying if you are being honest and just acting natural while controlling the insecurities.
If you do like many guys do and create a “persona” in order to pick up girls, it’s bound to backfire the moment you drop the act, and yeah, that can be considered to be lying. Guess it just depends on what you want.
i’d like to fuck the shit out of that post, because he is fucking awesome. i dont know why, but it actually made me feel like a lightbulb switched on in my head. what you say makes so much sense, why couldnt I see it that way in first place. thank you!
how do people post without a username?
must be some kind of bug :/
you are average like 90% of the population, its your personality and insecurity and probably fear of being rejected thats brought you to ask yourself this. To be ”ugly” you need either some sort of really proeminent feature or disfigurement or extreme acne or being obese else you just fall into the norm. So no your perfectly fine im 100% sure that the reject your experiencing is about your lifestyle and insecurity and probably that your personality is out of the norm and bothering or your just too dull or maybe too self centered to make other people feel like they have a connection
well instead of you keeping guessing… i am going to post a link in the next reply, where i shared my story. if u are interested and have enough time for this wall of text, i’d be happy if you share your opinion and adivce with me 🙂
http://suicideproject.org/2014/07/fading-away-into-darkness/
no. your not ugly. 🙂
smile, get better glasses and grow out your hair abit. get abit of a tan, you’d be quite good looking.
why would you post a pic if ur insecure
because often the truth is a prerequisite of correctly solving any problem.
if u really thought u were ugly why would u show other ppl
lol… how could you possibly avoid showing other people your appearance?
I already answered your question.
He did that to get honest opinions, aka “the truth” about what people think of his appearance, because in real life, people will often lie to avoid hurting someone’s feelings, which doesn’t help reveal the source of the problem, and only further complicates matters.
He is simply facing the problem and hoping to discover the truth; “am i ugly or not?”
My only issue with this is: how much credibility can be given to a group of desperate people with lowered expectations?
Try asking the “10’s” how you look. Then you’ll have your real answer.
Looks are subjective. So my personal group of 10s might be different from anyone else’s 10s. When you refer to THE 10s you actually talk about what is portrayed as pretty in the media or in public opinion in general (which is influenced by only few people). And in all honesty these 10s have a high rate of superficiality and lack of character. I could care less about what these people think about my appearance.
“how much credibility can be given to a group of desperate people with lowered expectations?”
Yup. Not only because of lowered expectations but also because of “kindness” or “politeness”. Just look at the evidence: Everyone wrote the OP looks nice, not a single negative opinion was given. That’s because people want to encourage the OP to be more self-confident about his looks (I’m not saying he looks bad). Imo though more compliments aren’t going to help him with his problems which from what I read in the OP’s other post are more about his view on women and the expectations he has.
well, several people didn’t like my glasses tho 😛 you think even on the internet this kinda survey is blurred? i regularly see people on the internet losing their inhibition to say hurtful things due to anonymity.
anyway I know I gotta work some personal things out too, I just got more motivated to work on them though…
Actually, when i say “10’s,” i’m referring to his subjective 10’s, as in “those he finds most attractive.”
But exactly: the opinions of those superficially pretty people with inferior minds and absurd judgment criteria, don’t hold much weight with me.
If those you find most attractive, do not find you attractive, that’s a problem… for you, not for them. And that problem is something those of us who experience it, have been struggling to solve, for quite a while, while those who say things like “well that’s your problem” and casually dismiss it, clearly have no understanding of the situation, or even any desire to address it.
Personally, i don’t think the appearance in question should be an issue. It’s most likely an issue with how “typical 10’s” judge people, and why they use the criteria they do (e.g. social conditioning).
Many women are very beautiful in their own way, although norms of our society would say otherwise (like slim is hot – chubby is unattractive) In fact I am not very picky. I don’t care about hair colour, skin colour, height and that stuff. I also find chubby girls attractive (many of my friends dont). At the end its all about charisma and personality to me.
Anyway I just realize how often I think a girl seems sweet and then tell myself “ahh she’s gonna feel your insecurity, you start to bore her and at the end you gonna get rejected or friendzoned anyway” and then walking up to her becomes impossible…
what if people told you that you were ugly, then what, u knew they wouldnt so u posted this, u know ur good looking, stop pretending u think ur ugly
if they tell me I am rather unattractive bec of this and that, then I would try to change my appearance and wouldn’t be so hard on my ingoing personality anymore. clevername put it in a nice way, that kinda “survey” just doesnt work in reallife, bec nobody wanna hurt me face to face.
Anyway I guess the reason I am lonely is likely to be my ingoing personality then. Gotta find a way to fuckin change that. 🙁
I think you are already very handsome, just as you are. There is absolutely nothing that you need to change physically about yourself. You are quite attractive, so perhaps you just need to work on some inside things like self esteem and self confidence (I have the same issues). And while people may initially be attracted to the physical, a long term relationship is sustained by what is in the heart and in the mind.
you are not ugly. That for sure. If you don’t feel ok with yourself maybe just have a makeover… I don’t know get contact glasses, make your hair shorter… idk. But you’re NOT UGLY
srry op…
accepted 🙂
Super cute! I would totally date you
:* and I would totally fuck up that date 😀
I’d let you fuck me…you’re hot..
You have a boyfriend…
:O while unfaithfulness is a turndown for me, I appreciate your comment ^^
very attractive
It’s obviously the porn thing you posted last night that’s holding you back and your hatred of women that’s keeping you from getting a gf. Cuz it’s not your looks
do not blame this man for the way society has conditioned him.
He said last night that he hated women. Were you not present for that conversation?
And why do you think that happened?
Do you think he would be watching porn excessively if women were treating him well?
Excessive porn happens because women are typically shallow and overly judgmental of otherwise decent men.
Guarantee it.
The problem is that women are socially conditioned as young girls, which is what makes so many of them turn out to be superficial bitches, who then go on to treat decent guys like garbage, which in turn causes those guys to retreat into themselves, and in the oppressive loneliness generated by those circumstances, they resort to porn (very often, not always, and some people get carried away with it).
Men are also socially conditioned as boys to view woman as objects. When said men abuse and assault women, they create the type of women who will seek this abuse out in later relationships. Not superficial, just damaged. Listen, as a huge porn addict myself who’s into some real weird stuff (I can’t believe I’m writing this), I can’t disagree with kreckis, it does make it extremely hard to enjoy being with my partner when he’s into very vanilla sex. And at the same time, clevername, porn is not always natural but your also right, having a healthy sex life reduces the amount of porn needed lol >.>
And society did not make him watch porn to the point where it became an addiction which is what he said not me or make him have sex with transsexuals either.
So are you trying to justify your condescension of someone who has reacted detrimentally to abusive social conditioning?
Because it seems like you are.
Lmao. Guys don’t turn to porn cuz they cannot get girls. What did they do before computers? I was in college when the internet was just coming out so please. And most girls are not all that. Most are not supermodels. And he’s good looking. Everyone said so even me and I’m picky! So he could’ve gotten plenty of ass! It’s obviously his personality. And he probably isn’t straight which is why he got fucked by trannys! And girls see right through that shit! So lets keep it real. And when a guy is a little awkward and weird and we think he might be gay or bi we run.
Harsh tone, but I thank you for that, honest opinions is what I need…
About that tranny thing, we gotta be clear. I would never get in bed with somebody, who looks like a guy. After several years of porn abuse, I still dont watch gay porn (and porn can do that to you). In fact those trannys were looking damn feminine and hotter than the average women in my country. That was important for me. I didnt fuck them, bec I got ED, I cant fuck them. So I let myself fuck.
And your right, its very likely to be my personality. I have a hard time being self confident, entertain and seduce women. I also stopped trying most of the time recently… gotta fix my porn problem and depression anyway first, i guess…
“Lmao. Guys don’t turn to porn cuz they cannot get girls.”
Oh yes they do. I’m male, you’re not. Do you presume to tell me you know better than i do?
Before the internet, magazines existed. Ask anyone, they’ll confirm it.
Not sure what supermodels have to do with this discussion… or why you’d bring it up.
Just because you say someone’s good looking from one picture on the internet (and with your questionable judgment no less), that doesn’t mean the women he’s been exposed to would agree with you.
Honestly, girls are quite often full of shit, and THINK they “see through” stuff, when really they’re just inventing fantasies based purely on ignorance and emotion, and then acting on those imagined fantasies, as if they were true.
Also! You just admitted that you think “a little awkward or weird” translates to “gay.”
Clearly your mind is malfunctioning, and has been for quite some time.
Girls are quite often full of shit? Unfortunately all genders invent fantasies, it’s dubbed the ego-centric bias. This is fast turning into a baseless argument.
I’m not saying men aren’t ever full of shit, i’ve certainly met quite a few who were. But i haven’t spent my life observing other males’ behaviors, because that’s not what interests me.
Lots of men and lots of women are often quite full of shit. Where does it come from? We all are born into a world that was modified by those who came before us, from what it was when they were born into it.
When the idiots are the majority, and the majority sets the standards, what result should we expect? Idiocy.
ah clevername it’s good to have you back sir 🙂
And KinGin, keckis’s tone is harsh but it is also very ruuudeeeee. How can I even try and argue that some woman are alright when every woman is hurting the cause. sigh. Has anyone else seen the masturba tion cross? Hilarious….
Why all the girls vs boys stuff recently? I just think men need to get their spines back.
I wonder what’s so wrong about porn. If a guy has natural impulses and is not in relationship, is it that bad? and if a guy is in a relationship, and he also has impulses that can’t be fulfilled due to life (incompatible schedules, sometimes a regular sex life is not possible due to health issues etc), what so wrong about it? I know i would rather watch porn and kill that impulse by myself instead than cheating like so much people prefer to do nowadays. The thing is controlling it so that it doesn’t rule your life completely.
And i don’t know, you can call me out on this one if i’m wrong, but aren’t women more prone to experiment with bisexuality and homosexuality than guys? because if you find that so wrong in men i would like to know why it’s not wrong in woman. Double standard?. This post turned into a judgemental mess.
I do have to admit tho… the OP has to work to overcome his porn addiction and the hatred he has created towards women, nothing good can come out of those two, no matter the cause of them.
Both genders are full of shit, and i’ve seen both men and women getting mindfucked thanks to abuses and egomaniac behaviors from their partners, but even if i try to be unbiased what kills that balance for me is so many women (and i say again, not all!) that act like they are entitled to get away with it or cover it up with no consequences just because of their gender. And yeah, i do think that society plays a big part on that.
We can always blame society in general, and to some extent that may even be true. But it’s always our own responsibility to change our lives no matter how much society or other factors may impair our efforts. A single man can’t change society, you just have to acknowledge the way it is. There is no point in putting all blame on something you don’t have an influence on and therefore stopping all efforts at getting better.
“I have a hard time being self confident, entertain and seduce women”
You should probably think less about sex, “seducing”, porn, how much you hate women (whether justified or not), gender roles, boasting in front of girls to get their attention, being a “manly man” … that’s not what matters in a relationship. What is important is true friendship, enjoying the company of another person, being there for them instead of them being there for you. That’s what you call love btw. Sex is just a “bonus” which is enjoyable, but which cannot be the foundation of a good relationship.
If your problems with sex addiction (or masturbation addiction) are getting out of hand (and they probably are if you’re already paying for prostitution as a 23-year old) you should get professional help BEFORE trying to start a relationship with a girl.
Also as a final note: Posting this picture doesn’t cast a good light on you; it’s more fishing for compliments and boasting one’s ego than anything else (don’t take this as an insult). There are probably better ways to help with your problems.
yes, i have found a therapist who also specialized in the field of sexuality and sex addiction. i just have to get over myself and notify her. i am just afraid others notice what i am up to or that she says i need meds for my mental state or something…
it wasnt my intention to fish for compliments, honestly i wasnt sure what reactions to expect. however reading some of those compliments felt good, i cant deny that at the end of the day 😀
Amen sister.
Brother…
It’s okay, people usually think I’m a girl because of my name^^
And rude or not I speak my mind. And if you’re getting fucked by a guy who looks like a girl but you know is a guy it’s still a guy!
I posted something regarding that but it got send into moderation… is it really such a bad thing that people experiment at some point in their life? i haven’t but i’ve had gay and bisexual friends (male and female) and they’ve had no problem carrying on with their life after they decide which sexual preference they’ll keep for good. Does experimenting leaves a permanent stain in their “record” if they did? in that case, how do girls get away with it? i always thought they were more prone to experiment with their sexuality, so i’d find it a bit stupid if they really use it as a criteria for discarding people.
This post is turning into the dark ages, eventually we’ll start talking about witches and colonization.
This really is, honestly keckis you are getting out of hand, no it is not ok to be rude.This is not the place for hate or gospel. Please review the guidelines of SuicideProject and brief yourself. I made a post about exactly this and you also seemed to miss that hint completely.
Amen brother! Even better. And what I meant by the supermodel thing is most girls don’t look that good and they know it. So the whole superficial thing is crap. You know how many single girlszare sitting home wishing they had a guy that looked like this yahoo that’s addicted to porn fucking dudes that would just give her a call?
and the only thing stopping them is that they are so convinced that no one could like them due to their less than stellar (based on impossible standards) aesthetics… which don’t matter nearly that much to most of us.
I can’t tell you how many times i’ve tried and failed to get a “reasonably attractive” girl to accept that she isn’t ugly just because she’s imperfect. They don’t want to hear that shit, at least not from me. And i could blast a tirade about why they don’t want to hear that from someone like me, and how that is the part of most of them that makes them unattractive, not their sub-perfect looks.
I would have zero problem finding beauty in a healthy woman who actually understands me, appreciates who i am as a person, and actually enjoys being close to me.
Unfortunately, no such person exists. At least not according to the evidence i’m able to observe.
So very true…
I have to point out, usually those insecure types tend to expect a fake answer. As in they know you are overdoing it to make them happy and they will say they won’t believe you, but it will boost their ego so they will take it if you insist a while.
Tell them the truth? prepare to receive a can of whoopass and in some cases, to be ditched for a guy who will disguise the truth as they desire.
A lot
Because you guys are addicted to the hot chicks in porn!!! Lmao
what is that about?
Didn’t i just say something completely contrary to your comment here?
I can find beauty in a *healthy woman who actually understands, appreciates, and enjoys being around me… who i really am, not some bullshit facade that i would have to create just to impress people who have ridiculous standards, both for themselves and others.
Translation: looks are not even close to the top of my priority list.
Do i like aesthetically pleasing females? Of course i do! But i also realize those who are aesthetically gifted, tend to be intellectually and emotionally stunted, because the favors they receive just for looking great, allow them to bypass the need to develop as a human being. And then they behave in ways that result in people hating them. I dislike people like that, regardless of gender.
I have never once asked out someone who is “stereotypically beautiful”. I don’t even find women that look like that especially attractive. Too much make-up. None at all (or very little) is actually better in my opinion.
It’s something else that does it for me. I’m not sure what it is. I suppose “personality” would cover most of it, but that doesn’t cover all of it. I mean, I thought they were beautiful, but it wasn’t just outer appearance. There was always an inner beauty – a radiant glow about them.
Intelligence, warmth, and thoughtfulness are far more attractive to me than some nude form.
It’s more about what they think, why they think it, how they use it, how they behave towards me… how they move, more than anything else.
I would have no problem with a somewhat overweight girl if our personalities clicked. I just can’t do the whole “obese” thing. Although if an obese girl with a great compatible personality happened to show up in my life, i’d give her a chance anyway, because people can lose weight, but it takes a lifetime to build a compatible personality.
You weren’t here for his original post last night. This isn’t about experimenting. He said he was addicted to porn and was into watching women getting degraded cuz he truly hates women. And says he has ed from the pirn and can only be with trannys. Then today he’s on here posting s pic asking girls if he’s cute. I had a problem with the deception once I found out it was same guy is all. And then clever said society made king this way. That’s when it turned
Got it. Sorry for the mixup, will reread that post again (read yesterday but my mind was a bit scrambled), just commented since it sounded really judgemental, but i see your point.
to be fair, he also said something along the lines of “i enjoy seeing them experience a type of pleasure i could never give them,” and he has already clarified that the tranny thing was an escalation of porn obsession, and not something occurring in real life.
I feel like you’re allowing your emotional bias to cause you to misrepresent the facts here.
It’s all good. The guys are jumping me cuz they feel sorry for him and think girls are evil which is fine. But I’ve dated all types of guys and I give most guys a fair shake. And I keep it real. He created this. And there is help. Specialized help. He needs sex addiction treatment and meds. Bottom line
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He can be with whomever he chooses. He saud ge went to prostitutes. And that they were transsexuals. And that he had ed so he got fucked. That wasn’t misconstrued. I told him that makes him bi not straight so to keep it real. And that if he really is seeking help he needs a sex addiction therapist and meds and needs to stop watching porn. Enough already. We are beating a dead horse
well maybe i misread… i could have sworn he said the tranny thing was only in porn.
Idk, i’m not into all that weird shit, but i try not to judge anyone too harshly just for being into weird shit.
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Bookmarked for future reference.
wow that got out of hand, anyway some more and less interesting posts in there!
bi-sexual or not, who cares, i don’t see how that plays any role here. fact is i wouldnt sleep with somebody who looks like a guy.
i know now that if i work on my addiction and my social appearance towards women i’ll might have a chance of not dying alone and bitter…. and its not hate towards women per se (in retrospective thats a lil too strong of a word), its more like frustration and a grudge for giving me the feeling of not being lovable. i’ve never let a women feel that grudge verbally or physically. thats not my nature after all.
maybe porn abuse let me objectify women more, stretched my sexual preferences and took a blow on my perception of my own manliness, when giving me ED. i can’t help myself feeling as a victim, as I didnt know what i am getting into here, when I was young and broken.
But now I’m wiser and everyday I keep suffering from my addiction, is my own fault. So lets take some actions and hope everything turns around before i really give myself up and fade away into darkness 🙂
/facepalm
I was going to write something, but you won the internet today with this comment.
ouch. simply facepalming what supposed to be my final comment and honest conclusion on this topic kinda hurts dude.
how did i qualify for that? 🙁
I found it funny because i assume it was a facepalm regarding all the drama and the various directions the discussion took (several had nothing to do with the main discussion, lol) and the timing was perfect haha. Nothing wrong with your conclusion and i’d say it’s a pretty good one, add to that “not forget to look for professional help” and you’re set.
/facepalm at the arguing. First yeah you should visit a doctor or whatever for the porn addiction. Lots of women (and men) are treated as sexual objects in porn. It may warp your view of women. Also maybe go and point out womens flaws if/when you talk to them e.g. ‘teeth are crooked. Bad hair.’. Its not a nice thing to do, but yeah that has worked for some males. But please do get treatment for the porn addiction. It is ok for males to look at porn but not all the time. As for girls, maybe your not their type, or they just dont like you, or not interested, or shallow (last is likely). Be presentable in what you are wearing. Dress casual or whatever, mainly be neat and tidy… And dont overdo it. If you can afford it go to europe or something and try to talk to girls there. Maybe? Sorry for my crap advice..
actually I am from europa (austria) and dont be sorry for your advice! every constructive, well-meant advice is genuinely useful to me! high five!
you are? I thought you were american lol
because of my well-spoken english? :pokerface:
i’ve been 2 weeks in cali and vegas not long ago tho
loved the picturesque frisco and the gambling paradise vegas <3
and so many adorable women of all different kind of races!
2 fast food restaurants on every corner disgust me tho… 😛
yeah thats why, really good english. Glad you enjoyed your trip there. Dont like huge servings of greasy food. Yuck. Never been there tho. Maybe one day. Hmm, so its very multicultural there? Nice
thx, if u really think so ^^
well in austria there are less fast food restaurants – more supermarkets, more non-fast-food restaurants and something called “Wirtshaus”, where you can eat “Wiener Schnitzel”, “Kaiserschmarrn” or other typical austrian foods (mostly meat or sweet dessert, but generelly less fatty) and drink lots of spirits and beeeeeer! 😀
i’d say in austria it’s less multi-cultural (we have way less asians, latinos, black people here – unfortunately)… people with immigration-backround tend to be more like people from germany, albania, croatia, turkey.
sounds like good food, but could have more multi cultural people. Lol
your word in gods ear!
austrian women tend to be a little lame and narrow-minded sometimes. latinas and black women have some temper and fire! and asians have a cute shyness going for them.
ah, thanks for your insight. im eurasian myself. but at the end of the day, if shes a nice woman, thats what matters, i guess. hehe
i posted that other comment by accident. Sorry if i appeared to be an insensitive asshole
Wow, just read that entire thread, someone give me a medal!
Gender wars are worse these days than they even were before. I was a feminist in the late seventies early 80’s, we were idealists who wanted to break down the bonds of social conditioning for both women AND men. Somewhere along the line, feminism seems to have become corrupted…like pretty much every other ‘ism’. Guess it’s the way of the world.
I do know what you guys mean when you talk about women’s sense of entitlement, and using their ‘victim’ status to gain unwarranted and undeserved privileges. Also the casual; men-bashing that goes on and never gets addressed, because they’re, like, women.
I feel so sorry for young men nowadays, the ones who can’t seem to get a girl for love nor money.. I hate to say this though, but I personally feel disgusted by all sexuality nowadays…complex reasons to do with me being bitter and twisted from life experience, doesn’t reflect well on me at all.
You’re a decent sort KinGinYellow, despite the porn, and you love and respect your mother. That goes a long way with me. And in terms of appearance, no, nothing much to worry about. It’s something you’re doing rather than something you’re being. I wish you the best, and hope you will act on some of the good adivice that surfaced in this thread.
*handing over an imaginary medal*
Thank you for taking the time to read all that and thank you for posting this reply, a reply that gave me goose bumps and also made me fight a bit against those tears wanting to come out. Somehow you moved me, I didn’t think that was so easily possible nowadays.
I too, wish you all the best!
Definitely something changed along the way regarding feminism and the whole gender wars as you call them, somewhere along the 80s-90s. As someone who grew up on those decades i can definitely say there’s several people from that generation that is “stuck in the middle” and won’t fit anywhere since values and standards for both men and women have changed overnight. Even more, it strikes me that you share the same points of view as my mom and grandmother, even word by word on some parts (the sexuality part comes to mind). If i could i’d send you a medal as well 🙂
Hey, I’m glad I made a difference KGY. And M, yeah, I’m old school, lol. I prefer men'[s company to women’s anyway…of my grand total of 2 close friends, both are men…though old habits die hard and I still feel uppity if I feel women as a whole are being degraded.
I think you are handsome just as you are. there is nothing wrong with your complexion or glasses.
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