I have a huge heart and helped out the man I was/am in love with by helping him buy a car. Since we purchased it in February, excuse me, since I, he has given me very little for it. Something else came up so he talked me into getting a title loan on it for him. The car is all in my name and he wants me to tag it…which means everything will continue to be in my name. I want out from under it. It was suppose to be a few month deal and he’s doing nothing to change it. We currently are friends but every time we talk about it he just throws it in my face and says he’ll be gone. I’m tired of being used and feeling like he’s only there because of what I can do for him. So tonight I sent him a text telling him how I feel. I’m pretty sure shit will hit the fan but I can’t take being treated this way anymore. He claims I’m being this way because a week ago he said he wanted to start dating an ex of his. I don’t think that’s why.
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If he is going to continue being an ass about it and the car is in your name, then maybe you should take control of it. I mean if he’s barely put anything into it, then it’s essentially entirely yours anyway since he’s just paying for his usage of your car and not really paying toward the value of it.
It’s just my opinion, but I think he is using you because he knows he can. You seem like you have a big heart and he is using that against you because you care about him. If he’s doing that, he doesn’t care about you and you shouldn’t feel bad about leaving him without transportation.
If all that’s the case, take control of the car. If you don’t want it, sell it and get as much as you can. You will likely lose some money on it if it was newer but at least you’ll be free of two headaches.
Completely agree with this. Hope it goes well.
Completely agree with this. Hope it goes well.
I agree with copelessness. The car is legally yours and he definitely seems like he’s using you, especially if he gets defensive when you ask him to uphold his end of the deal. You deserve better than that, and he’s not worth the headache he’s causing you.
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So I sit and wait for his dreaded call to ask me what my fucking issue is….knowing him, he’ll wait until I’m at work where I am forced to say only kind things instead of what I really want to say. Am I doing this all because I’m hurt? Fed up? What? For two years now I’ve taken from my kids so I could give to him. He makes a shit ton more money than I do…I feel like an awful parent because I put him before my kids. I promised my babies that I would never do that because their dad always did it to them. God I feel awful.
So…if he calls during work. Wait until later and call him back. Don’t let him have the satisfaction of making you have a shitty day on top of having to deal with him treating you like that. If he cares about your feelings, he’ll be civil about it. If he is n’t civil about it, then you know you’re doing the right thing. Plus, if you wait to call him back, maybe he’ll simmer down a bit. If nothing else, it will be more evidence to him that you are not his dog and don’t have to come running every time he says “heel”. A relationship is about respect, understanding, and consideration as much as it about love. That goes for romantic as well as platonic relationships.
you did the right thing by sending him that text. never let any douchebag use you no matter how much you are in love with him. it doesn’t sound like he cares about you at all , you are worth more than that. keep the car and tell him to fuck off