Tonight I’ve realised how utterly alone I am, think I’ll cry myself to sleep thinking of love that’ll never be, I’m so lonely, so frightened of the future.
I have social anxiety, and I am very lonely. Not long ago i used to have a girlfriend, she was my World! i’d know her since she was little. we’d been going out two years, and I did absolutely everything to make her happy! I put my heart and soul into our relationship. Well… it all changed in just two weeks, what I thought was impossible happened… and she fell for this other guy and ended up cheating!! Im discuted and so upset! its been going on day after day. Now I am so lonely again. worse than before actually, because ive gone from being so emotionally rich when i was with her to being left with myself and feeling so empty. Its horrible, shes out having fun, she finds it so easy to socialise, meet uther guys and make friends & im stuck with myself!
My social anxiety has me by the neck, at uni, ill go and sit in my car during free hours sometimes because I am not able to talk to someone & make friends, its like if i was scared to. Its really deppresing. between loosing my girlfriend and not being able to make friends… its umberable, a constant torture.
Your not alone, and your not the only one with this problem. Try to keep your head up and think that things will change, because you never know what can happen.
I’m sorry about the break-up and in such a difficult way for you. I know things can change, seen it in my past but sometime we can get so dragged down in life and not see this as possible anymore, but it’s always possible. I find it hard to find friends like you, and I, too, sit in my car, I prefer doing this to sitting in the canteen with the others, I suppose I’m a loner, I do try and change, force myself, but it’s so hard to do.
Nias! I’ve read your comments, you encourage and offer comfort to so many people. Did something in particular trigger these feelings? Maybe we can help. If not, we’ll at least listen.
For what it’s worth, I had been feeling a bit better, but this week has been a huge setback. I don’t know your story, but I understand the fear, sadness and loneliness. Keep posting. Maybe we can all help each other feel just a little bit less alone in the world.
I believe things can change in life and I always try to reflect that in my comments. I suppose last night depression got the better of me, seeing the family next door going out for the evening and wishing I had a family so I could do the same. Like GeoPin, I suffer anxiety being around others so fear I may be forever alone, but I’m trying to overcome this, it’s hard as you can imagine, I’ve always struggled to talk to those around me. I’m feeling better now, I’m sorry for your setback, keep trying and I hope you can get back to feeling better. Thank you for your concern, comments from you and others on SP show I/we are not alone in the world.
Thanks so much for the kind words, nias 🙂 The social anxiety, I experience that too. Enough that I don’t really have any kind of social circle and I’m *usually* content with that. This year has been one of the worst in my life, though.
Are you doing anything specific to try to overcome the anxiety, or is it just more of a general effort to interact more? Have you considered (or are you taking) some kind of medication that might take the edge off? Psychotropic drugs aren’t for everyone, but the right medication, for the right person, can be a game-changer.
I’m glad you’re feeling a bit better. If you start feeling poorly again, we’re here 🙂 You’re always welcome to email me, if you like.
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I have social anxiety, and I am very lonely. Not long ago i used to have a girlfriend, she was my World! i’d know her since she was little. we’d been going out two years, and I did absolutely everything to make her happy! I put my heart and soul into our relationship. Well… it all changed in just two weeks, what I thought was impossible happened… and she fell for this other guy and ended up cheating!! Im discuted and so upset! its been going on day after day. Now I am so lonely again. worse than before actually, because ive gone from being so emotionally rich when i was with her to being left with myself and feeling so empty. Its horrible, shes out having fun, she finds it so easy to socialise, meet uther guys and make friends & im stuck with myself!
My social anxiety has me by the neck, at uni, ill go and sit in my car during free hours sometimes because I am not able to talk to someone & make friends, its like if i was scared to. Its really deppresing. between loosing my girlfriend and not being able to make friends… its umberable, a constant torture.
Your not alone, and your not the only one with this problem. Try to keep your head up and think that things will change, because you never know what can happen.
I’m sorry about the break-up and in such a difficult way for you. I know things can change, seen it in my past but sometime we can get so dragged down in life and not see this as possible anymore, but it’s always possible. I find it hard to find friends like you, and I, too, sit in my car, I prefer doing this to sitting in the canteen with the others, I suppose I’m a loner, I do try and change, force myself, but it’s so hard to do.
Nias! I’ve read your comments, you encourage and offer comfort to so many people. Did something in particular trigger these feelings? Maybe we can help. If not, we’ll at least listen.
For what it’s worth, I had been feeling a bit better, but this week has been a huge setback. I don’t know your story, but I understand the fear, sadness and loneliness. Keep posting. Maybe we can all help each other feel just a little bit less alone in the world.
I believe things can change in life and I always try to reflect that in my comments. I suppose last night depression got the better of me, seeing the family next door going out for the evening and wishing I had a family so I could do the same. Like GeoPin, I suffer anxiety being around others so fear I may be forever alone, but I’m trying to overcome this, it’s hard as you can imagine, I’ve always struggled to talk to those around me. I’m feeling better now, I’m sorry for your setback, keep trying and I hope you can get back to feeling better. Thank you for your concern, comments from you and others on SP show I/we are not alone in the world.
Thanks so much for the kind words, nias 🙂 The social anxiety, I experience that too. Enough that I don’t really have any kind of social circle and I’m *usually* content with that. This year has been one of the worst in my life, though.
Are you doing anything specific to try to overcome the anxiety, or is it just more of a general effort to interact more? Have you considered (or are you taking) some kind of medication that might take the edge off? Psychotropic drugs aren’t for everyone, but the right medication, for the right person, can be a game-changer.
I’m glad you’re feeling a bit better. If you start feeling poorly again, we’re here 🙂 You’re always welcome to email me, if you like.