I shouldn’t have to pick up after my fiance and his friends and they still disrespect me. I’m not their housewife, sister, mother, or anything. I also shouldn’t have to be afraid that his friends are going to just barge through the door at any moment every day without knocking, even though I told my fiance that I’m very uncomfortable with that.
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Be firm. Don’t let them abuse your hospitality that way. Especially the fiancé. If that is how it is now then what happens after you get married?
January 5th, I intend to end my life. I’ve already found the method I want to use, and now I just need to set a time. Every single day for the past year and a half, something bad has happened. I’ve still pushed forward, I’ve stuck with people I shouldn’t have, I tried cutting ties with a lot of people, I searched for new hobbies, I looked for new jobs…I feel that I’ve utilized all of my resources, and I don’t think it even matters that I’m saying these things. It’s a complete mystery why every day is something that pushes me closer to the edge.
get ur shit together and try harder
Thanks for those words. I completely needed a stranger to say something mean.
its not mean its the truth. if i could make it thru past 6 years… you can keep going
You definitely don’t have to pick up after them! I swear some guys just want their girlfriends to be their mother……. Maybe you could try just running away to a foreign country and working at McDonald’s or something until you get settled? I mean your fiance can take care of the rent and bills and all the other shit, right? :B
Koschei, that sounds nice…running away from it all…but at the moment I’m so in debt and so broke. I was laid off of my previous position, had a number of unexpected bills (some medical), I can hardly afford to drive down the street. I’m working on it, and I don’t really know why. I’ve applied to at least 30 jobs a day, went to multiple interviews…I’m either underqualified or overqualified, or not religious enough, or something…there’s always something wrong with me. So I did what I felt had to be done, getting a resume critique, working on first impressions and interview questions. Still, nothing. I have been sort of considering joining PeaceCorps if they’ll let me and I make it past January 5th.
Oh gosh, sounds like you really have done a lot….. I think Peace Corps sounds like an awesome alternative! You definitely need a change of pace, and it sucks that money is holding you back 🙁 Good luck though and hang in there; you’re bound to have at least one good thing happen soon, right?
I’ve only ever been turned down after an interview once where the guy gave me the impression the only reservation in getting the job was the assumption I’d leave. He might have been right about that but I was so furious I set out to get a job within a week and did. In fact I got two offers. Maybe you’re lacking confidence somewhere. All you have to do is find out what these people want/need to hear and tell them exactly that. Make them feel happy and you’ll get the job.
DO NOT MARRY THIS PERSON.
You are setting yourself up for a lifetime of abuse and disrespect, and it’ll get worse and worse and worse and you’ll eventually end up a battered wife. I promise you this will happen.
You’re probably afraid that he’ll get angry when you dump him. That right there is a HUGE red flag. He’ll cry, he’ll promise you everything, he’ll swear he will respect you and never do it again.
NO.
Be firm. Move on. You sound like a smart person, you can do it. Your friends and family will not understand but it’s YOUR life. Move away if you have to. You deserve someone who cares about you and respects you and puts your safety and comfort first, no his friends’.
It’s up to you. Do you want to continue this charade and then kill yourself? Or do you want to take a chance on life and move on and at least try to be happy. You have nothing to lose. One path and you’re dead, forever, the other you get to at least try to be happy.
I know it’s very hard but you can do it. Believe in yourself, believe in the future, believe that a better life awaits you, believe that you will meet someone who doesn’t make you suicidal. Believe these things because they’re TRUE. I’m rooting for you good luck!!