Can someone please give me some advice!
My boyfriend broke up with me after two years it would have been three on the 18 and it hurts like hell and two days later he got a new girlfriend he wasn’t cheating on me with her he just found some girl that liked him and they got together after he dumped me. The worst part is that i have to see them making out in the hallways and its just been two days after our brake up i still love him and this hurts so much seeing that. I have all my classes with them!! you can’t imagine the levels of pain I’m in. WHAT SHOULD I DO? IS SHE A REBOUND? WILL HE COME BACK TO ME? WILL HE MISS ME? SO MANY QUESTIONS!!
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Unfortunately, young boys are fickle. They tend to just want whatever makes them happy at that very moment. I call him a boy because he is obviously NOT a man. Until guys get to be about 25 ish, they tend to be extremely impulsive as a general rule. I know you just gave this boy your heart and soul. However, if you were my best bud I would tell you straight up that you need to take a deep breath and step back and watch for a while. I know it hurts, but if you watch his behavior you will see him for what he truly is. That may be someone who just needed to get something out of their system and will be back, or you might also see someone that is just a bouncy ball looking for the next feel good moment to present itself. Give him time without you and give yourself time without him and just try to take in the bigger picture for a while.
Its a tough situation. If he left you and was out of your life > then I would say well just get him out of your mind and find another boyfriend. But if they are in your school and even some of your classes that does in fact cause you to go through a lot of pain about it and maybe jealosy and so forth. I don’t know what to tell you. As far as what is he going to do. Like is he going to come back to you. I doubt it. Its possible but from experience I will say its about 95 percent doubtful he will come back to you.
Just stop looking at them and find another boyfriend.
He found someone else you can too.
Its just the way life goes sometimes. Relationships dt always last forever.
you have to move on. Im sure there are other guys in your area that would be interested in you
mingle with them and find another guy and flirt.
good luck
Don’t worry. I love you!
Don’t worry. This may sound lame, but he isn’t a true guy who had loved you deeply, since he had the guts to show off with another girl in just a few days! I hope you get over him now or you have to get over him someday in the future. So let it be now. Find new friends and then you show him how much you don’t care if he can’t understand your feelings.
Hey there,
To the first commenter, you make it seem like all guys are like this, which I should say, we’re not. Now, I’m not saying most of us aren’t this way, because we sure can be, but let’s be honest, girls, in my experience, are just as bad, if not worse.
To the original poster: Sometimes feelings can be quite strong. The fact that you guys actually were together for 2 years is good. You might have loved him, and he might have loved you. It sounds like to me, however, that for him at least, this was infatuation. Infatuation can be strong at first, but it wares off eventually. Tlue love never is lost. Most of the time, it takes quite a bit of time for that feeling to grow.
I had one girlfriend once. Looking back at it, we both made quite a few errors in the month and a half relationship. I was depressed, and she had other issues.
So one day, I was having a bit of a tough day. A good friend was mad at me, I was getting made fun of by this one punk, so I thought, why don’t I call my girlfriend? She’ll make me feel better, right? Well, she said that day that it was time for us to come to a close. We exchanged the words I love you many times, but right after she left me, she found a new guy, a few days later. It hurt quite a bit for me. I was clingy, this much I’ll admit, and missed her a lot after the relationship was over. I was very expressive about this as well, so she knew the truth.
Later, she would move to Florida, and I haven’t heard from her in quite sometime.
All this being said, I know your story all too well. Since then, I have tried to ask others out, tried to go on dates, but I’m always in the friend zone, and the girls I choose are never interested. I should say that most of them have also been quite unfriendly to me, but that’s beside the point.
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I know your hurting its not easy to just move on when you give someone your soul…but a wise man once said when a person shows you their character believe them…when one door close another opens everyone will let u down in life one way or another…the only person you can fully trust is Jesus…Proverbs 3:5 lean on, trust in, and be confident in the Lord with all your heart and mind and do not rely on your own insight or understanding.
I went through the same exact thing. My advice is..move on because he won’t come back and distract yourself, it’ll make the pain easier to handle. He has a rebound because he wants to move on, so you should too. It’ll get easier seeing them make-out in the halls. And in the classes. I had to do it and i went to a very small school. It felt like a knife in the heart but i did it and you can too. Good luck