Have you learnt some pivotal life skills from a relative or older friend?
Has a friend or family member taught you some life skills that you swear by now?
Have you learnt some life skills over time as a result of harsh life experience?
Your contribution could be the one thing someone needs to hear to prevent the thought of self harm and maybe lift them from their depression.
I take people by face value, I never trust the testimony of others when determining an opinion on someone. I’ll listen and respect their comment, but at the end of the day, I’ll make my own decisions on who is trustworthy or genuine. You can miss out by listening to the majority without making am effort to find something out for yourself.
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Good questions.
Have you learnt some pivotal life skills from a relative or older friend?
Pivotal? Idk. The most important thing my parents taught me was to treat others the way I want to be treated.
Has a friend or family member taught you some life skills that you swear by now?
I have a motto/mantra: question everything. My dad was always one to ask questions nobody could immediately answer, so I guess I picked that up from him.
Have you learnt some life skills over time as a result of harsh life experience?
Do not make anyone your everything.
Do not pay for s__t you can’t afford. (*cough* college)
Before doing anything serious, think three months ahead.
Oh and do you.
Cheers.
Good advice. Treat others the way you would want to be treated. Simple enough, I don’t want to be treated like shit so I won’t treat others that way. Yet it seems like such an effort to extend any kind of gratitude, respect, courtesy or basic assistance these days.
My family taught me the value of money and to live within your means. Sometimes your money doesn’t even cover your means, but you must be prepared to face hard times and deal with them without complaint. Usually easier said than done.
Before I started to get healthy, this kind of reflection was clouded and filled with negativity, but I’m now able to comment, confident that my rapid mood swings aren’t answering for me. You could imagine the difference in thought between high and low moods.
A friend. My close mate, no longer with us, taught me a lot. We lived together for some time and you pick up on traits. He showed me that you accept all into your life, whether you know them or not, treat them like family. If they betray you, so be it, you’re no longer friends, but others who share opinions and values stick around and become close. By discriminating because someone likes hip hop, or looks a bit awkward or doesn’t fit in most places, you could be losing the best friend you ever had before you even knew them.
Life skills? When living in your car, pick your car parks wisely, a 3 am wake up from the police or someone throwing a brick at your car isn’t the nicest way to wake up.
I learned a few things along the way of my 46 years. Take it for what it is and maybe some of these can be of benefit to someone. They are in no particular order and the list is a mirror of my personal beliefs for varying reasons.
Take risks and be open to new or unfamiliar activities.
Expect nothing from others to avoid disappointment.
Never obligate others to do anything.
Be polite and respect others.
Treat others the way they would like to be treated.
Always try to be unbiased and be helpful to those in your life – people appreciate that.
Never give advice unless it is asked for (or a life/death situation)
Never lie to people for any reason (except for something like a surprise birthday party).
Always put 10% of your earnings into a retirement fund.
Do something regularly to benefit your health (run or lift weights?)
Take pride in your personal hygiene.
Take pride in your work.
Take a class every year or two (Communication skills, parenting and financial courses make a good foundation for you and your future/present family).
Always have pen and paper for remembering everything.
Keep note and be aware of your personal weaknesses so they might be overcome in time.
Accept yourself and others (we all have things we are good at).
Question everything.
Speak your mind and never be afraid of confrontations at school or work.
Remember – 3 people can keep a secret as long as 2 of them are dead.
Harm nobody and obey the law.
Allow your spouse to help make decisions (if you have one).
What matters to your spouse should matter to you.
Be aware of your surroundings (for safety).
Get involved in things that matter to you – people can bring change to the world.
Humor yourself and others.
Don’t treat everything as a joke – realize the seriousness of any situation.
No hard drugs-marijuana and alcohol are OK after work or on a day off (if legal).
Never drive when under the influence.
Be a responsible driver and leave your phone alone until you are safely pulled out of traffic.
Be a good listener and only say what you mean to say.
Turn all your negatives into positives – it can be done.
Always keep your word!!!!!!!!!!!
Always wear your running shoes when out at night.
Hang on to your smaller bills so you can tip the delivery guy.
Put some integrity, empathy and change in your pocket every day after getting dressed.
Drive only when necessary and fill all tires with ********.
Never buy the extended warranty.
Never buy on credit.
Never tell a soul of the gold you have stashed away!
If you are lonely – get a dog.
Listen to public radio
Always bet against the home team.
Buy used cars and trade them in every two years.
Buy two houses so you can rent the other one.
Be frugal and use things sparingly.
Don’t waste time regretting.
Show appreciation.
Eat fruits and vegetables for better digestive health.
Be happy and smile – others will remember that about you.
Nice list. There are some decent guidelines to live by and great general advice.
Listen to public radio is great. If you’re into independent or unusual music, check out 3D radio. 93.7 if you live in Adelaide, but you can stream online.
It can take years of trial and error and years of being burnt to compile a list of positive lessons learnt and sometimes it takes the experience to learn these skills and truly live the way you have suggested. Appreciation for what we have and what we could have and achieve through hard work and perseverance.
I appreciate the time you took to respond and hopefully others can take something from it.
Thank you.
Life will always be unsatisfactory. Adjust your values to endure this reality or die.
It doesn’t have to be. We can make it as satisfactory or as unsatisfactory as we wish. Its how we view the world and those in it and how we react to difficult situations and hardship.
Our values, which we developed over years of living, should never be changed or adjusted to suit others. They are our values that we learnt from our parents, family, friends and the community, sports, scouts, camps, whatever.
I hope you find satisfaction in yourself and what you endeavour.
Good luck.