Friends become strangers

Yes I think that’s becoming more common, there was some recent study about how people are becoming lonelier. And why wouldn’t we? Growing up, we valued relationships more, learned to get along better and we put up with people’s bad behaviour.

Now we end long term relationships because we didn’t like some words in a text msg. We lead more insular lives and we don’t have to tolerate anyone we don’t like. But the problem is that many people are flawed and once you start culling the herd because of their imperfections, eventually you’re left with no one.

It’s a double-edged sword. I think about the friends I had in grade school-we had a lot of fun together but there was also much animosity as well. Sometimes we romanticize the past and I realize now that I probably wouldn’t have kept them as close friends today.

Like you I connect with family and people at work-fortunately I get along with most people there, just a few bad apples I avoid. However I’ve drifted from my friends-I used to go clubbing almost weekly, now it’s been ages…but I’m hoping when I turn my life around, get back into shape, get a better job, that I’ll make new/better friends to do things with. Life is strange that way…even with girlfriends, one day you’re talking about marriage and being together forever, then things fall apart and she’s off with another guy.