There’s a lot of posts that go through here, so I expect that the people who read this post didn’t read my earlier one… I promised to say something if I somehow didn’t go through with my suicide. Well, long story short, my ex-girlfriend stopped me, and said to me that she ‘loves me’ and ‘cares’ about me deeply. I knew in the back of my mind that she had to say that whether it was true or not, and my gut told me it wasn’t. However, my heart needed to cling onto anything in that moment to help me survive. After going to the hospital for a few days, I am back and I will be seeing several doctors on an out patient basis.
After getting home today, my ex-girlfriend told all her friends a total lie… and now friends all of the sudden have taken to social media and other communication to say that I am out to hurt her physically. The worst part is, her friends are my friends too… and as far as I can tell, all of them believe her, and at the moment I have no friends, absolutely none. I don’t have a “good ‘ol friend” from back in the day that was a part of a different group of people, or anything like that. Her friends were all of my friends, even the ones who didn’t originally know her have taken her side.
I love her, I really do… I’d forgive her for doing that if she would just take me back. I’m just afraid that she believes her own lie and will put a restraining order on me… I’m sorry if this story sounds really one sided, but this is everything I know, and I want to get it out there for anyone to comment on. I really need to hear from someone that knows my pain but can look at this as a third party…
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It was to be expected that she would freak out after you drop such a thing on her.
Don’t know why she went this far though.
Did you try to ask her what she’s trying to pull by doing all that?
Did you try and make it clear to her that you’re not planning to do anything to hurt her?
Maybe the friends are associating you hurting yourself with you possibly hurting her for some reason (idk i’m just speculating maybe i’m wrong). Either way, its probably best if you just focus on your own needs and forget what “friends” think. I think she might not know how to handle the whole thing either, but I don’t know why she’d tell her friends erroneous info, maybe she’s sad/frightened?
She knows perfectly well that I wouldn’t hurt her ever, she hugged me and kissed me after she found me with a gun. If I really wanted to hurt her, it would be clear to anyone that I could have.
I don’t know what she’s trying to pull by doing that, but it’s possible that her parents are giving her hell for helping me or associating with me anymore (her parents hate me). If she was given a ton of crap from her parents for helping me or talking to me, I could see her perhaps trying to get back at me by turning my friends against me to make me feel the pain I gave her… Do you think that could be possible?
I don’t know you know her the best, but that would be very odd for her to do that, ie, cause you more pain when your already suffering and have issues. My first impression would be that she’s afraid. Don’t take this the wrong way at all, but when your dealing with things like suicide or anything like that, even if you know 100% the person would never hurt you, you may still be scared as in “what if”. I mean maybe she’s venting to friends indirectly (in generic descriptions about it all being scary lets say) and friends are saying it in those words basically. Or she’s confused.
Personally this shouldn’t be about her. If she’s one of the best and only things in your life right now I totally get it but try to focus on your own well being. Maybe talk to her, tell her that your just incredibly unhappy but she should know that you would never ever hurt her ever no matter how sad you get. IDK.
Turning your friends against you would be an act of either being sadistic/cruel/gossip or just being frightened in general and venting, or confused in general. Can’t really imagine any other scenarios to do that.
I fucking hate social media and this is one of the reasons why. Facebook, my space, twitter, kik, they should be wiped from the internet or moderated better. People have pages against them and liked by others, I hate David or Paul is a peadophile. Its a fucking disgrace and shows what people really are capable of when hidden behind a monitor or dragged into mob mentality.
I’m sorry to hear this, maybe its time for deleting Facebook and finding some new friends. Your real mates wouldn’t believe her story or think badly of you. Your real friends will be siding with you.
Its a hard concept, but maybe it should be done.
I’m battling custody issues to see my kids. The ex has told some horrible stories about me to keep my visitation low, that way she gets more money from welfare. I want 50/50, but that means she won’t get maintenance from me. That’s her only motive, money.
She fabricated stories to get me to react with anger in front of court or the mediator, but I won’t let her get the best of me. I can’t move on with my life until custody is settled and she knows that, she knows I want to get on with life.
Your girl doesn’t seem to have a reason to get back at you. Maybe you scared her and she felt like she was in danger or maybe she likes the attention of being a victim. We don’t know, but you’ve had some great advice and that’s what I’d suggest to, forget about what your friends or others say and focus on you and getting better.
Wish you well.