Im tired of medication and psychiatry sessions I’m slowly watching everything die around me or walk out of my life and i just want to get better but i cant save myself . How did it get better for any of you
Im a recent graduate and its hard not having structure. In order to feel any emotion or fill my boredom i have given in to impulse decisions,unsafe decisions and have alienated everyone important to me. I have watched my life fall to pieces in weeks. I just lost my bf of 5 years and im struggling to see the point. Im know people will say there are plenty of fish in the sea. But. What i lament most is if i were not for this sickness in my brain none of the events in the past months would have happened and i would be set for life and happy and not alone
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why dont you tell us more about you? everyones path into depression is different, so too must the path out of depression be. for me i think what helped me was mainly this place, and its members. i realised that i was on my path, to where i was meant to be going, not necessarily where i wanted to be or go but where i was meant to be and where i was meant to be going. i learned to trust whatever was leading me, be it a god, the universe or my own subconcious mind recognizing the path my concious mind couldnt see and i learned to surrender to whatever was guiding me and trust it knew what i didnt. Ive gotta admit after that things have started to look up, not perfect but better. its amazing how much better the world looks when you change your perspective im going to butcher a quote i read once. “yesterday i was smart so i tried to change the world today i am wise so i am going to change myself” personally if i was you the first thing i would change is this nonscence notion you need saving or that you cant save yourself. you are where you need to be. when you relax and let whatever is out there guide you along your path you will come to realise you dont need saving.
Peace & Love
Not where you wanted to go but where you needed to be. I hear that a lot care to elaborate?
its like you know when your young and you have a vision of where you want to end up, nice job, wife/husband, kids etc. thats the whole where you want your life to go. i believe that the reason for our life is to become content. every person is born with something missing. our goal in life is to discover what that is and fill that hole in our life and become content. we are lead to believe by society that that hole will be filled with the above mentioned nice job, nice partner, nice kids etc. For some people thats true, all those things will fill that hole and make them content. those things become both where they want to end up and where they need to end up in order to be content. for others (like myself) thats may be what i believed i wanted to fill that hole in me, but i realised its not what i needed to fill that hole. so i have to trust whatever guides me to know what i need to become content. there will be moments of contentment in my life, as there will be in yours and that, as far as im concerned is us realising we are exactly where we need to be in that moment. i hope that explains what i meant, if not ask again 🙂
I didn’t get better, if anything, I’ve just tried redirecting my energy. Not sure its working tho…
(Besides, I’m not even sure what ‘better’ means, but that is a different discussion ^_^)
I’ve had a couple of major depressions in the past, and I managed to get better after each one (although only temporarily, ie 5 years at most before my next major depression).
It takes a lot more than just medication.
Besides medication, I did CBT, support groups, daily one hour power walk, healthy diet, no drinking drugs or ciggs, lots of vitamins and supplements, basically I became a health nut.
Plus- daily gratitude journal, daily positive thoughts journal, active work in changing my negative self talk. Reaching out to friends, including ones I’d lost contact with.
It’s a fucking lot of really bloody hard work.
For me, it would work for a while, I would be genuinely content, and then slowly but surely I’d start to lose my grip on things again. Then a slow spiral into deep depression where I lose everything. Then having to do all that hard work again.
I’m in my worst depressive episode yet, been unable to function for about 3-4 years now, and I don’t have it in me to go through all that effort again, only to once again lose everything I worked for.
If you’re young, it’s definitely worth it though. Put in the work and you’ll see the results. I think I’m a particularly hopeless case, most people I think are able to get truly better. Best wishes to you.
Depends on what you call better. I’ve had bouts of depression a couple of years at a time, separated by some years in between (i’m past 30 now). I can relate to what coquelicot mentioned above. I got better, then things would happen and again, back to depression. That doesn’t mean it’s the same for everyone tho, i’ve met (and talked) to people that have gone depression free for decades, and with no end in sight.
The one i’m currently at is a lot more complex than the others tho since besides depression i have deteriorating health issues so it adds to it, but that’s why i said it depends, because if i’m honest i’m just not caring anymore and that in turn translates to “better”. So i’d say that whatever floats your boat or seems to help you, give it a try, you never know if you are one of those that get (mostly) out of it until you try.