why do they hurt me?

Parents … heh … gotta love em 😛

I find it interesting that you are so sure you’ll pass the test next time … this tells me you have the ability and capacity to basically pass the test any time you apply yourself – you ARE able. Your parents KNOW this … and it frustrates them that if you can pass the test, why not pass it THIS time and not have a need for a NEXT time? It’s infuriating and frustrating to a parent who tries to balance love and compassion with motivation – how do I get my kid, who I KNOW is able, to do what is necessary to just try … even a little?

Kids, on the other hand, don’t see the big picture yet – they don’t understand why it’s SO important to get things done in a timely manner or how those thing “fit” into the broader scheme of life and reality.

In this case, I’d say your parents are yelling, harping, pushing because they actually care – if they didn’t, they just would not give a shit. Granted – it’s a clunky, ham handed way of showing that they care but I get the impression that they do – they genuinely WANT you to do good and not embarrass yourself as opposed to only feeling embarrassed in your private family kitchen … if they could just find the magic button to push to get you going so you could SEE that they are trying to help you.

You want them to say nice things? Sometimes you have to DO nice things first … but understand that all things are not equal – you could wash the dishes or vacuum the floor and they may be grateful but it won’t change the failed test … at minimum, in school you HAVE to at least do enough to NOT fail … and if the coursework is too hard or you have trouble understanding, they cannot read your mind to know this if you don’t tell them.

It’s a two way street – communication is the key

parental dawg