My girlfriend doesn’t want to see me anymore as of yesterday.
She’s 20 years older than me, and is dealing with a lot of shit from her past marriage. I wanted move in and take care of her, which she wanted, too; but she’s stopped trying with us, and has decided to focus on the problems she had before we met.
I found myself briefly considering other women, but I feel numb. I loved her! I gave her everything I had, and I feel like I’m betraying her by considering other women! I feel like if I wait one more week, she’ll message me back and want me in her life again.
I feel stuck. I feel like there’s nothing left for me. If I find another woman, I’ll still always love my first love. I can’t live like this: every waking hour of the fucking day thinking about this shit!
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Give yourself a few months (six months alone after a breakup is good) before you try moving on with anyone else. If you really loved her you’ll need time to get over her, and time to “find yourself” again (or “live it up” as a single person).
She could still change her mind; don’t contact her at all for the next month or so unless she contacts you. If after about a month she hasn’t said anything you might want to send a message “hey, I was thinking of you; how are you” and see what happens.
It’s like this: let her go, and if she really likes you she’ll come back if you respect her space. If she doesn’t return, you might be heartbroken but at least you won’t be clinging to false hope. Good luck, hang in there.
Don’t worry about the age thing by the way, that’s only an issue if the two of you make it an issue. Lots of women get with younger men, and it’s not as much of a rarity these days. It doesn’t matter what anyone says to you about the age differences – if you’re both consenting adults, it’s no one’s business but your own.
Yesterday?! It’s not over dude; don’t give up. Women are emotional creatures. I once had a girl break up with me because we were getting to close and she didn’t like that she cared so much about me. When I expressed my confusion and tried to get a better explanation out of her, she backtracked and begged me to forget that she said anything.
So whatever emotional pain that you’re going through, she’s feeling it 4 or 5 times worse. If you want to be with her, you have to be a man and be her shoulder, her rock. Bury whatever emotions you’re feeling and try and be there for her in any way you can. I don’t know the situation or how much contact you guys have, but try and talk to her and let her know that you’re not going anywhere. I mean, if she’s trying to get back with an ex or something then obviously you have to move on, but if there’s no other guy, maybe what she needs from you right now is support and not a boyfriend to have to worry about please. Be her friend and when she’s ready, things will get back on track. anyway, good luck to you.
if it is an ex just walk the fuck away… don’t become like me… after she figures u forgive her she will come with crap that she is older and needs something else… and then again… and again… again… again.. and fucking again…. just walk the fuck away! WHILE YOU still CAN