What does being happy mean to you guys? I want to learn how to be happy so I can make someone else happy. My depression always gets in the way. I just want to be happy. I want to know what happiness feels like. Can you fall in love when you don’t love yourself?
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I’m glad you asked that, and thanks for the reminder. Yes, you CAN fall in love, even when you do not love yourself. Why? Because true love is NOT about self. Self love is malignant (just ask Narcissus). True life giving love is not self focused, but outwardly given.
Depression can get in the way of any emotions, up to and including love… but you can definitely love without loving yourself. And without being happy. To me, you know happiness when you feel it.
In my opinion, yes, you can fall in love without loving yourself. BUT I feel that puts you in danger of being taken advantage of. I’ve know people who’ve gotten into relationships and were abused and did not leave because they felt they deserved the abuse. If you love yourself, you would not think you deserved any abuse.
It’s a difference of opinion, but when getting into any relationship you do have to have some love for yourself so you can protect yourself.
” If you love yourself, you would not think you deserved any abuse.” …wise words.
Thank you. 🙂
You can surely fall in love without loving yourself, but the thing is, your lack of love for yourself might get in the way. Like hiohneh said there’s always people that can take advantage of that. There’s also people that do enter a relationship without self-love but end up developing it thanks to the person they are with, but t’s usually the other way around (lack of self-love hurts the relationship).
I might be greatly wrong about this but happiness to me are just temporary moments, i’d take having peace with myself and my life situations over being happy every time (and i do think plenty of people get confused about those). You can get happiness from a random event, a person, a hobby, etc, but you can’t be at peace with yourself out of anything but soul searching (and in the long run it’s a lot more useful).
You can fall in love but you don’t want to be too emotionally dependant or financially dependant on anyone. empty words here but you should try to have a stable income/job incase said person turns out to be an asshole, and well its not good to think low of yourself, i wouldn’t say love yourself but tell yourself that you are good