I try and try

Sorry to hear about your situation. I do agree extroverted people have an advantage. I’m normally introverted but learned to be more extroverted since that’s about the only way to get anything worthwhile. People usually don’t come after you to offer love/romance, decent job, etc…we have to make that effort.

I don’t know what to suggest to you. I’m in my own little hell-hole and wanting to end my life. I used to be more attractive when I was younger, but now I’m in my 40s, losing hair, overweight and it’s difficult for me to meet anyone because as mentioned, I’m introverted like you and lack the confidence-because I feel unattractive. Plus, most people are after 20-30 yrs olds (though I look younger).

I don’t want to kill myself, but I’m very lonely. I can’t really settle for anyone I’m not attracted to (like some people do). Also I thought I might’ve had something with a girl within my social group but she dumped me for someone else which put me in a tail-spin. I never expected to feel so awful and basically get an anxiety attack after finding out. I never used to be like this-probably because I felt I had other opportunities.

One upside for me is that on the odd occasion when I do get out there, some girls seem to show interest and my friends have even pointed that out. So I just have to have to courage to approach them. Still I’m in a bad, bad way right now. My head’s still hurting from finding out.

Perhaps if you have some acquaintances, it may help you just to go out and do things. They might not be your friends but if you ask, they may have a hook-up for a job. People do that all the time. You can also learn to be an extrovert when you have to (like I did), to get what you need.