I lost someone who I thought loved me. I took on this new way of thinking & living & he left. No more sexual pleasures for God wants me to wait on my husband is what I told him. I guess that sex is all he cared about. I don’t know how to feel. Part of me thinks that him leaving was the best thing for me but most of me is sad & hurt. Should I just give it to him or should I be obedient? Why is this even a question. Putting a man before God. What is wrong with me?
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Stick to your descision
If he wants to go then let him
You can be obediant
Thank you.
Youll find the right man for you one day
Dont worry
+1 for thinking that men don’t think only for sex
and 2ndly, don’t be obidient to anyone but yourself, even your god
scratch for, *about sex
Tiny I was a little less direct than you when I thought about this subject a year ago. But this decision is not about God. It’s about you, and your own relationship with your own body and mind.
The fact is we have the power of decision for a reason, and that is that you can’t lead your life under one unique rule, nor under ten or under 50.
Every situation is different and you can decide at the end.
The most important thing is respect. If what you are doing is not going against yourself respect, then you are not offending God either.
It depends on what you believe, and what image you were raised with (of God), but the mistake I made was to force things at the point I did hurt myself to make things fit in an image of what religion and society said were right, while the relationship I was going through had its own nature, and I didn’t respected it.
don’t force things. If he left and doesn’t want to come back, it’s better like this. Maybe it wasn’t the relationship religion wanted every single lady to have as if we were all the same.
But what you have to decide is what kind of relationship you want or need right now.
And to know what is going to hurt you or to work for you: is it to keep him by your side over your religious feelings, is it to be ok with the nature of your relationship (where sex is important), or is it to let him go and look for the relationship you want.
Thanks you guys for your opinions. They are helpful.
Put your beliefs first. Everything else follows. I will tell you though the path you are taking isn’t easy. In the end though you are the only one who needs to feel good about what you are doing regardless of what you decide. If a man comes along who respects that, then he may be a keeper. There are a lot if single minded people out there though. It is ultimately your life to live.
As someone who doesn’t believe in God, I find it hard to relate.
I guess you have to do what’s right to you. However I think it’s unfair to say he only cared about the sex.
Removing the sex from a romantic relationship is a pretty damn big thing to do. I mean: for most people it’s one of the core components of the relationship, which would otherwise be more of a friendship.
So yeah, I find it hard to relate. In my world, you’re putting an imaginary being above your partner.
But whatever floats your boat.
I understand the belief, religion part. Honestly, with ANY religious backing, you’d both have to be on the same page or it’d never work. Beliefs can’t be forced or coerced really. Further more, and this is somewhat directed to Muspelhem, if sex is the key component to the relationship, there’s wasn’t much there. I mean what if illness or injury was the reason sex stopped? Then it falls apart? God or no God is really irrelevant, as long as you’re both at least somewhat in agreement.