I don’t get how people claim suicide is selfish. those people have never felt the pain that some do. at this point in my life I don’t see any other way out of all this, I’m so sad and alone, suicide seems like the only thing that I can do. I am not selfish, I’m just hurting, and I don’t know how much more I can take in this world..
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Actually, I’ve always thought of suicide as a selfish act, but never understood the negative connotation. As you’ve expressed, sometimes the hurt becomes too much to bear, and in that instance one should be able to exercise free will and end his/her suffering.
It’s an extremely complex situation for many who find themselves wanting to disappear, reader11.
I have two sons ( 15 & 18 ) who are aware of my severe depression ( the past four months have been mental agony ) but if I exit ( which I so desperately would like to ) then I know the hurt and knock on effect that will have, especially on my 15 year old son. A man I knew had a brother who took his life and over the next ten years two of his brothers sons did the same. The knock on effect it had was a truly tragic one…yet this chaps brother was in absolute torment within his own mind. Maybe the only way around that would have been for his bro to have agreed to be doped up on meds indefinitely ( under doctors orders) so at least he isn’t feeling the chronic depression…rather he is detached from everything yet his family know he is still here & there is still hope. Would the man in question have chosen that option had he known the carnage it would cause? I don’t know, it’s a real conundrum when it comes down to the core of it, thats for sure.
Of course, even if you don’t have kids, you could leave a parent in absolute ruins. How many mums & dads envisage burying one of their own offspring, its just not meant to happen is it.
Personally, I can see how my Wife and two sons could easily see me as selfish if I were to finish my own personal pain. I can see how they would crave one more day with me ( because thats how i’d feel if I lost someone i loved ) It WOULD hurt them so bad…and that’s why i’m still here.
I am so sorry you feel such in-depth despair, reader11. It’s not a life what we feel. Every day seems like the same as the previous miserable day and we know chances are tomorrow will be another of the same, but we’re still here….lets keep fighting this monster….NO SURRENDER !!! (not yet)
Suicide is seen as a selfish act! I have lost loved ones as a result of suicide and I have always thought of it being selfish and sometimes still do. I have even experienced this myself however, no one can ever understand the feelings of the person and why they decide to do so.
You might believe that suicide is the best option but being someone coming out the other side, you may see things a lot different in a few days/weeks/months. Something to remember is that someone who does decide to take their life believe the world is better off without them/no one would care/its too painful etc… however, what they don’t realise is that as result of these actions it leaves a ripple affect on their friends and family. This is something that happens and can take a lifetime to come to grips with.
If you are really feeling as though this is it for you… then I would recommend speaking to someone to trust or even speak to the doctor as it is always better out then in.
No matter what, after suicide, somebody or something will be left behind. Suicide isn’t selfish because if families and friends understood how much pain a person is in to do suicide then they should feel that person is at peace now. Instead, they talk bad and are ashamed of that deceased family member. I’ve met those same people who claimed suicide as selfish and cowardly, but when they faced issues and contemplated suicide then they understood how suicidal people feel. Do what you want reader11, just know I won’t judge you and will understand.