My life in a nutshell currently. I live with my partners family they are muslim I converted to islam to stay here because I had a baby his family had more room at their house and support as his mum stays home so it seemed like the ideal place to be right. The thing that gets me in the dumps is that I have caused more trouble here then I expected ever since day 1 his family had expectations of me and had their mond set that i was like every other white girl, they are very judgemental towards white people. They always made home feel so unwelcoming. I had to fight my family to be here which is a hige bomb dropped they caused a bit of trouble at his house my partners sister is so sour about it blaming my mums actions on me. The family is very rude to me no one ever tells me what is up. Im always feeling so lost and awkward I talked to my partner about it we are looking for a place to stay because they dont want us here but so far thats not happening i’ve been looking at house when I go to the viewings I come back and it feels lole everyones mad at me. Heres the dlow about going out we are not allowed to go put at night bevause they get paranoid and if I go out during the day I come back and everyones so rude. I have no where to go because at my parents house I get so depressed, tell you in the story about my house. My partner he goes out alot at night just to have sessions with his mates I get so devastated because I wish I was allowed to be free and fly my wings before I moved here when me and him were together it was wonderful and honestly here when we are good we move mountains but now i’m Muslim I feel like I can not do anything at all but he can do whatever he wants its unfair, I talked to him about it he gets angry and says go do whatever you want in this salty way. Being here I can’t stand it without him everyone hates me the only people to ever hate me. They also have this disgusting afghan community inwhich is so judgemental they make me so mad. Every day feels like im walking on prickles
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its like who cares , gosh i hate religion its pointless..
Me to I don’t believe their is a God or Devil. I think the wrong thing about religion that people do is take it to extremely and literally like that bible was written how long ago ? Times have changed since much it’s okay to adapt. Religions can be good in terms of having a sense of belonging and other things. My partners family are to black and white about it and their community is to nosy worrying about other people’s religious journeys and lives like bruh bud your noses out.
however, your right.. i dont doubt that there are many people that have a big heart including you, your husband. im not a psychiatrist, and neither are these people in SP. Um, i hope you will be okay. Take care..
Object and subject are the same… God or devil are both you and they both are everyone else at the same time, even the earth. Yes, the one you came out of. Not the one you dream of, but the one that depends on you and vice versa. The notion of belonging can come out of Love. not Religion. Get things write or right 😉
im really sorry if i seemed rude.
That’s truth right their
This is rough. Not sure what kind of plan I could give you. Depending on what country you are residing in things could get tricky or down right dangerous.
New Zealand their over board right now my friend came over said hi to my partners mum she didn’t even say anything back i swear one day I’m going to punch her in the face but I’m better than that wouldn’t want to scoop down to her level but still how disgusting
We have a few kiwis here at sp. Luckily you aren’t in Afghanistan.
Is that where you are how ironic that my partners family is afghani right
Request “clarification”: were you born here in NZ or did you shift here to NZ from abroad with your husband who’s an Afghan national? I’m old and my eyes fail me, so forgive me if I’m missing the obvious.
On another note: nothing goes a man or his family the right to belittle a woman who, in every which way, is also family. Quite a thing you did by converting to the teachings of Islam and surrendering yourself to Allah — especially for someone who isn’t religious per se. If I may speak freely, you may want to reconsider your current situation.
…and yeah; it kinda pisses me off that this is happening in my backyard, but that’s life
I’m European/maori so I’m from here him and his family immigrated 11 years ago I meet my partner through mutual friends
Gotcha. I’m Maori myself predominantly.
Had a couple friends flee the fighting in the Middle East to settle here with their families. Good folks for the most part, if not reserved.
You in the Big Smoke or elsewhere?
I haven’t had the greatest experiences with islam believers here but. It’s just then as people been really shut off and judgemental
Auckland is where I’m at so yeah and aw that’s good to hear they are.
That doesn’t mean that they should become outright bigots and alienate others such as yourself who, pretty much, sacrificed everything to be a part of their family.
I’m in Auckland as well. Nice to have a local on here for once. The rest have buggered off