Hi, im new here. Im going to explain one big reason why im hurting in the inside.
Since I was 11 I’ve always been depressed cause I never had a GirlFriend and that goes into the reason of me having social anxiety.
I’ve always been nervous around people and I never had friends. I wasn’t diagnosed with social anxiety until I was like 13 im 15 Now.
I’ve made a plan that if I don’t get a girlfriend by this Christmas im done.
I need a girl to love and I want to be loved for being me, I need a girl so i can enjoy life with.
Ok i told a little about my life, if you stick around Ill tell the entire story.
Until then schools coming up and my goals are:
1.Get good grades
2.Make friends
3.Get a girlfriend
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Welcome to the club I’ve been on the boat for 17 years now, passed the half way mark and now turning into 18 the year mark, yay. Some people on this site have been on this boat for nearly 30 years now… The last guy I saw was like 27ish
Oh my gosh, I have the same problem. I’ve been depressed since I was 12 for various reasons, but more recently it has been because I don’t have a boyfriend and it seems like everyone else I know has one. I’m 15 years old, and I’m going to be a sophomore next year. Last year my depression was at its worst. I cut myself a few times and one day I was seriously considering suicide, but I have a friend who always stops me before I go too far. However, she’s also a major cause of me being depressed because she has a really great boyfriend. Anyway, the point of this comment is that you’re depressed because you don’t have a girlfriend and I’m depressed because I don’t have a boyfriend. Maybe we can talk sometime. 🙂
PS: If you are a girl, please tell me. I am only into guys. I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with being a lesbian, that’s totally cool, it’s just that I’m straight.
Alright how are we going to talk?
I like to relate to problems.
Hi! I have the same problem as you. I get extremely depressed because I don’t have a boyfriend. I have been depressed since I was 12 for various reasons, but in the last year or so it’s been because I don’t have a boyfriend. I am 15 years old, and I’m going to be a sophomore next year. Maybe we can talk sometime 🙂 Please reply to this if you want to talk.
Oops didn’t mean to reply twice, I thought the first comment disappeared. Sorry
Welcome to SP!
Well 16 years old and I had only 1 boyfriend but he went away from me, I don’t know why. I never hurt him so … he does not count as a boyfriend… but trust me, if something I ‘ve learned is that you should not put your happiness in someone , almost always fail you , well to me has happened many times…(do not make me much attention, that happen to my not mean it should happen the same to you)
i really hope you find someone who loves just as you are c:
Note: sorry for bad english.
You should try to be more specific with what you’re looking for. Do you have high standards or looks don’t matter to you? Do you care about personality, intelligence, etc. Then ask yourself what do you bring to the table and try to match yourself up with someone who you think could be at your ‘level.’
Then you need to put yourself in situations where you can meet this person-either online like a dating site or some place in person like a club or class. Of course it should be a non-stressful and neutral place and strike up a conversation.
If you have social anxiety, I think everyone has it to some degree. I get nervous when I meet someone new-but it passes, especially if the conversation is going well. Once you do it a few times you’ll get more comfortable. Remember no one can do this for you-you have to do it yourself.
I have a friend who was single for a long time, not the best looking guy but he has a good sense of humor and education. He asked some random girl out-who’s on par with him and they’ve been together for years now.
Also remember girls are people like you and sometimes girls can have a bad personality, be illogical, etc. So I’m just saying don’t hype them up in your mind. If you are more open-minded you could look into transsexual women-they’re into straight guys and possibly less picky than natal females, just an idea.
I’m single also but I take things in stride. While I’m lonely now, I know I’ll find someone when I’m back in the dating field. Fortunately though I dislike my parents I did get some benefits in terms of genetics. Presently I’m more focused in getting my career established and getting myself back in shape. Then I’ll find that special someone and I’ll bring more to the table at that point.
Yea,thats why i said stick around.
Lol im a lazy writer.
Im looking for a Mix introvert girl who has long hair and sweet. She going to be thick and pretty.
Hopefully my advice and others’ helped. Given your age, it’s unlikely you’ll be able to form a meaningful relationship since teens are still growing and are immature and self-centered. They still haven’t picked up basic social skills-things will get better in your 20s but I wouldn’t expect too much from girls your age.
I think you should just take it easy and try to have fun-don’t put too much pressure on yourself and you’ll meet someone. Don’t get into relationships for the wrong reason because you’ll come to regret it after. Good luck.
Shit your only 15 just go to school get good grades make friends go to parties with them hangout. Why such a need for a woman so young you got your whole life ahead of you. The right one will come along eventually.
That’s what I don’t want to hear but I do understand.
you can do better than put up a craigslist for a gf.
the longer you wait, the better they are… trust me :3
Why wait? I know im 15 and still have much to come but im ready for a girl Now I’ve been ready. I want to actually fix the problem.
Please don’t kill yourself over a girl at 15. you are too young for that
Males typically lie about how much sex they’re getting, how well endowed they are, and how much money they’ve got. At 15, chances are that few (if any) of your peers are hitting home-runs in any of these areas.
Just do what every other male in your situation has been doing since the dawn of time: Masturbate.
There’s nothing wrong with experiencing a special moment alone, and you’ve got plenty of time to get anchored down with a ball-and-chain (woman) later on in life.