I’m a single parent with two boys one which is autistic other very active…. but I’ve about had it, there are days I just contemplate if what I can do to just end it all , the worse is taking the boys with me ending their lives and mine I can’t and don’t want to live with this pain
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Hello. I’m not sure if I’m out of line, but you should really reconsider. Taking your life is one thing, but doing it to your kids is another all together. Really think about what you are going to do. I suggest you go get some sort of professional help if it is this bad. Hope everything turns out all right.
Drop your kids off somewhere safe do not take them with you to your doom. Your an evil person if you do in my book, depressed or not. If one of my friends even mentioned that thought I’d seriously consider calling the police so they can notify ACS and get you help the hard way, I don’t give a fuck. This is an alarm bell statement and you better realize what kind of mindset your in and what this illness is doing to you. Think about what you said, would you ever in your wildest dream imagine hurting your own kids? Because you can’t handle the feeling of failing your kids you feel like ending your lives together and living happily ever after. Leave them out of this! They do not deserve to die with you, find out what is wrong with you and fix it. If you your too weak to then go, but don’t drag your kids along with you that’s so wrong.
Hey listen if I sound harsh I make no apologies. But you took this to another level involving your kids. Even if its just a thought, with your condition it’ll manifest to a reality before you realize what happened. So I’m sorry if you expect me to listen and validate your comment but I just can’t do it considering what you said. I don’t encourage you to commit suicide or murder and I’m not stand for any excuse you give me. Please get help and stop focusing on these thoughts they will get worse the more you entertain them.
I understand where your coming from.
I have a relative who is a single parent with an autistic child. Life can be challenging especially with no help. She finally reached out and just said if nobody will help take this child a few days a week so she could get a break she was going to kill the both of them. It’s not like she didn’t love her child though more the opposite she knew she couldn’t trust anyone to look after him and not abuse him and shit. So the only logical thing is take them with you. I never thought I’d ever see anyones point in doing this but I did. I was disturbed at my own thinking that yes maybe she was right.
Family members stepped in to help though and she’s coping much better.
Do you have family that help you? It’s hard being a single parent and everyone just needs a break. Ever thought of finding someone to take the kids for awhile well you go and have a holiday a break somewhere even just at home by yourself to rest and have time out to think about how you are going to proceed in life. What are your dreams for you and your children? You can achieve them and you can do it. I’m sorry but your not allowed and have no right to kill yourself if you have children in this world it just ain’t fair. You must find a way to stay and help your boys succeed in life.
I hope your feeling better today, you really had me worried. I agree with all of what soulsister stated and recommend you try her advice if its possible. THINK HARD, reflect, and find a solution to this dilemma there are answers out there but its not always easy finding them. A break from your children might be beneficial but if I may, I’d recommend you just hang out with them and participate in all their activities, making sure to make it the best day ever. Grab coloring books, arts and crafts, cheerios, sand, paper planes, footballs, drums, water balloons and just let them be loud as loud as you want. Let them break stuff running around. Have them playing ball in the house, accompany them anywhere they want to go. Buy them toys, splurge, spoil them rotten. Use this time with your kids to remember that you love them and are willing to be there for them rain or snow. This chance won’t last forever. They will grow up so fast and you might miss out on this opportunity before having the chance to join in on the fun. Dedicate this day to your kids and just consider yourself on vacation. The point of this is for you to manage your stress, worries, and to realize how much you love them. They’re the only thing that matters so fuck everything else that gets in the way of that. I think this is a better alternative than the previous wouldn’t you say? Be well and stay positive.
Don’t listen to this people’s bullshit. Fucking morons who sit on this site to preach and who don’t have any idea how hard it is to be a parent of an autistic kid, let alone a single parent! But I do know. And it makes my blood boil when I read this shit! My brother is autistic and it takes shit out of my mother who’s a single parent and how many awful things happened because of him.
Suicide is never selfish. It’s your final call and don’t let anyone impose these stupid thoughts on you, as if you had no right to decide on your own.
I’m sorry