My husband of fifteen years left me without warning on November 4th, 2004, we had both just celebrated our 50th birthdays . No sign, I saw nothing coming, neither did his or my family. We have no kids.
He assured me no other woman was involved. In the weeks that followed I discovered on the internet that he had been registered since June on a web dating service and had found someone.
We have a company together to which I no longer have access. Many things had been hidden from me there too.
In the last four years, I have had some strange health problems – accidents ending with a broken back bone when he left (I fell, he was not violent).
It has been six months, and all the news I get from him is that he has gone to Bali (never enough to go on a trip with me) is he has never looked back. He never asks about me…he has dropped me like a piece of garbage.
When I met him he had no money, no car, furniture etc, had a record. We lived in my home and always complained that I didn’t want to sell him part of my home (my parents home).
Now that he has left so abruptly, I cannot get over the sudden , and to me, heartless departure. I have been taking anti-depressants etc, and seeing a therapist but these suicidal thoughts and thoughts of desperation are getting worse. I live alone and am at my wits end trying to encourage myself not to do anything.
I am an only child and my parents are dead. I don’t know where to go or what to do. If I could only be sure that I would do this right, no problem, the thought of messing my suicide attempt and staying gaga I suppose is what is holding me back for the moment.
Have always felt less that perfect, never good enough, pretty enough (although I seem to have no problem attracting men), my heart and this voice tells me otherwise.
I miss my husband, but cannot believe that the only person I trusted and shared my life with for 15 years, and built a company together has been cheating and left with someone else as if it was perfectly normal. just writing about it turns my stomach.
Sandra
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Hi there – I am sorry for what happened to you. I am sure it really hurts…i hope you find someone that will love you a lot.
I’m sorry for your loss. Betrayal is painful. I’ve had it happen twice. Most unscrupuluous people don’t have the decency to tell you what they plan on doing and can you blame them? Working through the stages of grieving (denial, anger etc.) was helpful for me. Good luck and God be with you.
Hi there, I’m so sorry for your loss. I hope things will get better. Be sure that there are people out there who care for you! Be strong and positive. Love
Hi, Im really sorry the happened to you. this year my mom took me and my sister to a shelter without warning we were there for 3 months i couldn’t talk to my dad and I don’t know where he is. if you ever need someone to talk to. Im here.
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Hi, I am very sorry to hear about you’re husband doing that to you. It seems the people we love the most are the ones that often seem to betray us. It’s a sad thing. I am also suffering with trying to stick through hard times, without killing myself. It is a scary thought of what if it goes wrong. That’s one of my concerns also. If you need someone to talk to, about anything feel free to email me. I am here to listen. No one needs to grief alone.
I sympathize with your separation anxiety, Also agree the way he left was wrong, you sound like a decent person, I did notice that you state you were with the man 15 years, he was your husband, with that being said I also seen your statement that he lived in YOUR home?? Also it was your parents home… when you marry someone and you plan on sharing your life with them and the fact he had to ask to buy part of the house??? you say its your home, that is a red flag to Me.. If you were married you loved him and your parents are deceased IT WAS in fact his home as well, I paid for and purchased the home I live in before I even met my wife, but it is and will remain to be our home even if we divorce, things of that nature will give a person doubt in a relationship, if you really loved him it wouldn’t and shouldn’t have ever even been suggested it was yours and yours alone, and legally after 10 years he could have taken you to Court and taken half of the value of everything, as women have done for years, seems you may be a bit petty and selfish…
A spell caster to get someone to come back?? If someone leaves because they want or wanted someone else, respectfully it sounds crazy and just plain wrong to me, If someone isn’t in love with you why would you want them back? There had to be someone better for you and better to you even if you had them in your heart forever, In my opinion you should work on having more self esteem and self respect, I am however glad your now happy but won’t you always have a little anger and resentment for what she did to you, cheating and leaving you? I’m not at all bad mouthing you so please don’t take my statement the wrong way.. just wondering how it makes you feel? Aaron
Sandra are you still on
LOL@ PPL bumping posts years later.
i wonder what happened to her 🙁 i hope shes doing fine
Hope you feel better now. 10 years old post. I’m still new to here. 🙁
This is so sad