What the hell… I’m so tired of this. Everybody says they care.. everybody says oh Amanda.. I love you, I wouldn’t do anything to hurt you… and yet.. go and talk shit.. GO AND SAY SHIT ABOUT ME TO RUIN ME.. and they know they can do it SO easily. Take away the people who care.. and just turn them against me. I once had a person in my life.. who.. I could go to with anything in the whole entire world.. the person I could trust with my absolute life.. we talked for so long.. and about EVERYTHING.. and I… I loved him a lot.. so we dated.. for 2 weeks.. and then cheated on me with his ex… and I was crushed.. I still want to die.. I know.. its not worth it.. but I gave him everything I had.. even now the people who care.. are turning around and back stabbing me, and I can’t stand this.. IM IN 8TH FRIGGEN GRADE.. and I dont care what you think about me, cause I know what I know, and I feel what I feel.. I shouldn’t feel this way… even if I deserve it..
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Have you tried talking to your mom or another close relative about how you feel ?
I would have been taken aback had someone told me this when I was your age, but I’m going to be that insufferable older person who tells you this: please don’t take the vicissitudes of middle school life so seriously, because you’ll be able to laugh this stuff off in a couple of years. This isn’t to say that the pain you feel over your cheating ex-boyfriend and backstabbing friends isn’t very real or valid, but that you mustn’t be shortsighted and consider throwing your life away over these people. The things that are important to you at the age of thirteen or fourteen will seem positively frivolous soon enough; that’s the way it is for everyone, and that’s the way it’s supposed to be. You’ll get over it in time, and life will be bearable again.
Your ex-boyfriend was wrong to betray you, as is anyone who gets their kicks making your life miserable, but you’re better than these people; you can’t let them get the better of you. You can’t forfeit the rest of your life because a lying asshole of a boyfriend cheated on you on eighth grade. In the years ahead, you’ll have new relationships — truer, deeper relationships — and you’ll find someone who loves you and treats you right. This boy was obviously not that. He’s sure as hell not feeling any remorse; don’t grant him the ability to wound you so deeply. If snobby girls at school are bullying you (And, ugh, I hate the term “bullying” as well — so trite!), tell a teacher and they’ll protect you. You can’t grant these assholes the satisfaction of hurting you so deeply. Sure, the people who have wronged you might feel some remorse if you killed yourself, if they’re even capable of feeling shame, but you won’t be around to savor it. You’ll leave a lot of pain behind you for the people who love you.
Not gonna lie: that time of life sucks a lot, but please believe me when I say that the years ahead will be so, so much better. I know you can’t see that right now, but I just know that you’ll start to realize what matters and what doesn’t soon enough, and you’ll be able to look back at this time and be proud of yourself for enduring.
You might want to consider asking your parents or someone at school to help you seek counseling; many people I know have found that speaking to a therapist and/or taking antidepressants has made all the difference in the world when they’ve hit a pothole. Nothing wrong with that. Please, whatever you do, don’t take your own life; call a suicide hotline, call 911, just do anything to live. You’ve come so far. Don’t be like I was; ask for help when you need it. I wish I had. You don’t deserve to suffer; you’ve just drawn a hell of a short straw.
Feel free to laugh me off as another condescending older ***** — I would have — but I hope that what I’m saying as someone who’s been in the same place means something to you. I care about your life, even if you don’t. You have a lot to live for. Stay strong.
Everyone has been cheated on and if not then they haven’t been fortunate to find love. You are so young honey and you have so much more to look forward to in life. Believe me when you get older you will realize that your days in school were nothing compared to what awaits you later in life. I was teased in school and backstabbed and cheated on but I’m a proud 34 year old mom. I was cheated on by my first husband but it made me stronger. Turn all the bad things in your life into lessons and let them make you stronger. I’m way better off now and when I see people from school I’m shocked at how pretty I’ve become and how much they’ve changed for the worse. There is satisfaction in that even if it is wrong. It would break my heart if either of my boys felt the way you do. Please try talking to someone. It will help! I will listen if you want to talk!
don’t kill yourself. it is wrong and though it is your choice to make in my opinion it is a bad one. im a total stranger to you but i can talk if you want to. Makenziejackson123@yahoo.com. think about what your friands and family can do for you.