I’m only 21 years old and have my whole life ahead of me. I’m in school to be an elementary teacher. I have a girlfriend who treats me like I’m the greatest thing alive. I have a good job, a loving family, an adorable iguana, talent, so many hobbies it would take an essay to name them all…but I feel absolutely incomplete.
I broke up with my girlfriend of 4 years in December of 08 because she treated me badly quite often. However, despite my attempts at being with other girls, I miss her and want her back. I tried talking to her about it but she would have none of it…because my (now ex) best and most trusted friend decided to sweep her off her feet. It’s been over a year now and they’re engaged. I don’t see myself really accomplishing anything in the future. I have goals, dreams, plans for great things, but I feel like I’m stuck in a hole. I don’t see living past 25 as a big priority anymore, but I couldn’t hurt my mom or family by killing myself. They’ve been through enough.
I put on a face and help my friends with their personal problems in my free time and it almost helps me to feel better. At least I can help people.
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No, you dont have to have her back, she treated you badly and that is not a game. You did the right thing by breaking the binds with her. I expect from you that you must have the intelligence to understand that your present emotions regarding the past are lying on some unbalances still unsolved in your personality. You will be mature when you are able to dedicate yourself to truly pure heart people while being strict with those who degrade you morally or lack in values.
Because people have a selfish tendency to satisfy their instincts they act against the common sense that even may appear to their understanding. This is what is happening to you know. Most people don’t understand their feelings. Worst than that, they are completely mislead by them. They mistake emotional dependency with love, and that is permanently seen in people who will stick to others who treat them unfairly and even cruelly exploiting their situation of emotional unbalances. You must not choose yourself as a victim.
There are millions of people with pure hearts yet (particularly children), help the ones that need it and forsake the bastards.
have a nice day
You have intuitively sought out some very effective treatment…helping others. It has helped a bit, it sounds like…so don’t stop. Even though it doesn’t get you back to normal, it helps and that’s what matters.
Also, I have to justalvaro above – you don’t need her back…she was wrong for treating you badly and you don’t need (and shouldn’t have) someone like that in your life. Having said that, though, I want to acknowledge that a person’s bad actions don’t make you stop loving them. You’ve experienced profound loss! It’s going to take time before you recover from that.
I encourage you to seek out a good therapist…and to continue to bless people by helping when you can.
Just don’t spit back what you felt the girlfriend from four years ago spit out on you. This new girlfriend who is there for you deserves better than that . . . stop passing this on. Play it forward. . .