Hi, I have never really been any good at expressing myself in writing so I am sorry if this passage does not make much sense.
When I was younger, around 12 years old, I was sexually abused by a man of the age of 22 at the time, I was young and naive, He was a friend of mine and sometimes I used to help out in his workplace, Due to family experiences in my childhood I had to grow up at a very very young age and look after myself, and also my body matured at a very young age, by the age of 11 my body was ready for sex, not that I am saying it is right.
This guy was a friend of mine, He was engaged at the time to a female friend of mine she was 18, At the time I liked this man, and was a virgin, I wasn’t aware fully of what sex was, or the meaning of it.
I used to stay up his partners house and we used to drink, quite a lot, then he decided to take advantage of that, and after awhile he pressured me about my virginity after a period of time that we have been “doing stuff”, He really did start pressuring me about it, and I got it into my head that if I didn’t give it up any time soon he would of taken it any way, Once he tried to but stopped, I had a close friend of mine at the time that I could trust and gave it to him willingly, but of course after I lost my virginity this guy took complete advantage of the situation, Over a course of nearly a year, He used to threaten me and completely manipulated me, but that close friend at the time that I have previously given my virginity to kind of saved me from that dark situation.
But over the course of the past 4 years, I had developed Bipolar Depression Disorder and also a complete case of PTSD (Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder) which I have been suffering from since, But the sexual abuse was not the only reason I have thoughts of suicide, It is a complete build-up over the course of the past 4 years, Because this was not the only event that has happened to me, but the abuse more acted as a trigger for the build-up.
There are points in which I can be happy but that is extremely rare, Due to failed relationships, partners, friends, family, no money income,no education (I failed high school due to the PTSD which greatly affected my attendance) for example at this current moment of time, I have many friends and my family is back together, but recently after being used for sex once again by another man of 23, who lost interest in me when I hit the age of consent in this country, it is just getting harder, I am terrified to allow a connection between me and another person, but what I want is a stable relationship, which I have at the moment, he also suffered a lot of bad experiences, and we both are taking it slow, but It just does not seem to be enough.
Some nights I just lay in my room listening to music thinking of the easiest way to end my life, It would be a lie if I said I wasn’t scared of death, I am not scared of what happens after but I am scared of the pain, and the pain I will cause others, I know my conditions will take years upon years to recover completely but even people like me who have recovered do not recovery completely, I just wish I could end this life and be free within my own little reality. And each day it seems more and more possible.
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I am….so sorry.
I am a man, 21 right now. I can not imagine a man being 22 and actually having the intent to have sex with someone that young, willing/ready or not. It doesn’t matter. It was wrong. Period. I am very sorry that you’ve had such bad experiences, but I would hold on to the good, however little of it, you have. You have someone who has made a relationship stable for you. That is a plus, right? I think you both are in a situation to help each other heal. Yes, we may never forget the terrible things that happen to us, but you CAN CHOOSE, to not let them rule your life. They will always be a PART of you, but they never have to BE you. I hope you give yourself the time to heal. and sweetie….STOP HAVING SEX. I don’t care who he is or how perfect he seems, SEX is NOT what you need right now. It will always plague your mind more, and your so young. Let sex rest, and come back to it when you are ready. You may have been ready physically, but you now know how mental sex really is. I hope you heal, recover, and find happiness somewhere along the way. If you can make it through all the bad, then you can find the good. Best of luck to you.
Vincent.
@Vincent: Wonderfully written and I agree with you completely. Kitto, listen to Vincent here..read what he said a few times…