well  i’m  16 year old  and  my parents  hate me  they want me to die  .  i’m realy  sad  .  i have no one  to share my feelings   i have  friends  but  they  don’t  understand   wat  i feel .   it’s not that  i  hate   each and every parent in this  world  but only  my  father  he  demoralize me every time  . few months  ago  i failed to clear the  exams   my father demoralized me so much   i can’t  tell  i thought i’m  goin to fail  in re test but i cleared the  exam  . he  abuses me    and  so  on  …….      .  i realy  don’t want to die  but  it’s just  i hate my father  he got no spiritualty  ,  believe in god  ,  no inspiring  thinking  . i hate him  i just  want to see him in pain .  he campares each  and  every child  with me  and  say  that  kid is  better than  you  .  i help every one  even my enemy  in  bad times  i love animals nature    i have plenty of good  rocking best friends   is that bull****  ??
well  my father  hates animals  and everyone  who loves  me .    he  spends  all his money on himself   .   is there  anyone  with  same problem  ?  chat with me  help me ,  share  your  thoughts  please .
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Hello
you ask if there is anyone with the same problem. The answer is basically 2 out of every 3 girls and boys are in the same situation. everywhere . And 99% of the under 18 here in the site are in your situation.
I read you, and I can see a sensitive young person, with good values, naturally very hurt because if there was someone you would have liked to receive the love from that would have been a father.
It sounds to me, you are much more valuable as a person, with much a heart, soul and brain than your father, because a father does not do that ever to his child. A father brought this child to the world, and he is responsible for every bit of his happiness or lack of happiness. A father is to encourage, guide, advice, support, hug and love his children.
In England now they have started to require from persons, psychological tests before they are allowed … to own a dog! but they could not care less about what kind of person brings a child to this world.!!
So, there are 2 approaches to your case:
1) It can be the case that your father doesnt realize what he is doing to you, and he would apologize. But even so, that is no excuse.
2) Other is that he would have never cared or wont care.
You could however, write down the definition of a good “pater familiae” (father of a family) just as I was describing it to you and give a copy first to your counselor at school and then another one to your father.
It just cannot be that he keeps on making you feel miserable, depressed while he sits on his couch.
A positive thing is that you are “already” 16 and are somewhat more, at least, grown up than a 12 year old girl who is fully vulnerable. Or, the third thing you could do is just forgetting about him and plan your college as you will be there in less than two years. Then, you will start finding the good friend, with whom you can share life.
Because of the sorrow you have grown up with, you have become sensitive to the soul, and that will guide you into finding someone who is a good person, thus, giving you that love that you did not get when you should have.
hugs
Al