the man who told me he would there to support me and love me forever and help me get through what I am going through just told me that he will be here for me but cant be with me until i get better and that he is going to be seeing other people until then. how is that helping me get better?? how am i supposed to get over being depressed and suicidal when the man i love is out living his life. how am i supposed to get better? i understand i completely fucked up and i hurt him but if you say you are going to be there for me, be there for me fully… dont be there and half the time and be out doing whatever you want the other half of the time. he said he would be my strength and take care of me and we would be together for a very long time, and now he throws this on me.. how can i possibly get better knowing that the one person i love in this entire world wont be there for me and is out looking for someone better, less fucked up, to be with. he said we could be together if i get better.. it may take a very long time for me to get better.. i know he is going to get sick of waiting and stop loving me.. i know he will have found someone better for him before i get better. how can i posisbly have any motivation to get better when there is nothing to get better for? why is this world so shitty sometimes..
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try group counsoling im in it everyweek unfortunatly they prefer me 5 days a week. maybe you could try something like it to have new friends and new hobbies you could try getting insurence get counseling and maybe a day treatment facility where they do outings get ideas for intrest and family lifestyle be a family person maybe you and someone can bennifet from it
yeah you are right… i go to therapy twice a week but its just me with the guy. maybe it would be good for me to get out and meet new people and have a life of my own and keep myself busy.. never thought of that but thank you.
Wow. He’s an asshole. I say off with his head! Sorry to hear of your situation, HopeForMe. I would suggest moving on if he’s just another fork in the road. Get better. Be better. Deserve better.
But wow. Really? He did that? What a fucking asshole. Get better and then beat the shit out of him. Kidding. I don’t think that would get you very far.
Hmm..I..Suggest..Not doing it for him. Forget him. This is about you now. It’s always been about you. These are YOUR problems. You need to find YOUR answer to these problems. YOU can only save YOURSELF. YOU have the STRENGTH to do this on YOUR OWN. Who needs him? Not you. In times of desperation and need, you have only yourself to rely on.
I know this is out of my character to respond like this, but it’s what I suggest. Don’t do it for him. Do it for yourself.
Here’s my e-mail if you want to chat it up sometime with your progress.
albert.j.robinson@live.com
goingup2godown, 20 minutes after he told me all that he was here and we slept together.. how stupid on my part and his.. he said we are going to get through this together but you are right i need to do this for myself. its kind of hard to do it for yourself when you dont feel lke you should even be alive, thats why i was doing it for him.. i figured he was something to live for but because he is so unreliable i guess ill have to learn to live for myself. it seems so difficult to think i should do it for myself but when you say it, it makes a lot more sense… you are my voice of reason and because i am my own worst enemy, hearing what you had to say was absolutely what i needed. you are good, you are good. and ill deffinatly keep your email in mind. same for you too.
Not stupid on your part. Never stupid. Not you. It’s nothing. Keep moving forward.
Good luck. I apologize I can’t offer any better advice.
you literally just saying keep moving forward is good advice. any positive advice is better than no advice.. its greatly appreciated. and dont apologize you are a breath of fresh air!
Not just “a” breath of fresh air. I am “your” breath of fresh air. 😛
haha thank you! if you need anything, please let me know.
HopeForMe
I was so sad and dissapointed reading your post, but you know u are the one person that u can truly rely on. And as hard as it may be to do it on your own you deserve to make it through this. I’m older and wiser and have had my share of hurt over the years and times when i thought I would never get over someone. But u do and it eventually makes u stronger. I have felt depressed before, but not to the extent that I ever contemplated suicide, so I’m not going to pretend otherwise.
Keep reaching out honey and get as much support as u can whether it be a councellor, friend or the people on here that care about u and what u are going through.
As you start to heal and your self confidence grows, then you’ll make the decision whether u want this guy in your life or not.
Stay strong and keep fighting sweety..u are worth it XXXX
There’s much hope for you, than you can imagine.
Like they say “when there’s life, there’s hope”.
When you’re done fighting, you just might look back and thank God for your friend leaving you.
I heard of someone who says he’s happy the ladies that left him or refused dating him dis so, ’cause the woman he has now is just perfect for him.
Remember this: Do it for yourself, and you’ll find tremendous happiness, with or without your present bf.
i dont feel like i can get through and i dont have the best positive thoughts but you guys flood my brain with enough of them to keep getting me through each day and thats all i need… when i have these negative thoughts i come on here and read what you guys write and it gives me hope that i can be independent and strong and it will come to me…. and just knowing that (because of you guys) gives me a small amount of hope.
Just keep hanging on to that hope sweety, I wish I could give u a big hug and let u know that u are worth it….but know that I would if I could.
Take care of u love X