I see a lot of young people posting on this site, venting their frustrations at the world that seems cruel and callous to them. I’m not much older, I’m only 21, but I’ve survived multiple suicide attempts and dealt with self harm issues both physical and mental.
It seems trite, especially when talking about suicide to say, ‘stick through it, it’ll be better soon,’ but often that is the case. Depression makes us myopic. Depression and dark thoughts stop us being able to see beyond the next painful day of humiliation at school, the next day of living without a recent – or not so recent – ex-partner. The fact is though, human beings are strong, you CAN and WILL grow. All you need is the strength to grit your teeth and get through it another day at a time, until one day it gets better. Different things work for different people – I wouldn’t pretend to know everyone’s situation, and there are some terrible things out there that I shudder to even think of people going through. However, you have to try; if you have an aim to get to, or you go the route I did and simply devote your life to helping others (I figured, why waste it, if I don’t enjoy it, at least make use of it for others), and one day you might catch a smile in the mirror and begin to realise there’s more to life than just misery.
No-one can speak for you, no-one can get in your mind and know the real darkness that’s in there. But you can fight it yourself, and why shouldn’t you? Everyone should, without wanting to sound like a New Age advice book, be capable of loving themselves, and if you are feeling suicidal, it’s not you that is the problem, no matter how many times someone tells you to cheer up, to stop being miserable. Be miserable for as long as you like, but keep fighting it, and when you are happy, you can look back and know that you beat everything that was holding you back.
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I don’t think you sound like a new age book. I think you sound like an unexperienced adolescent. You have no idea what drives or motivates people to come on this site. You sound like someone who has no knowledge of mental health issues, sorry but true. Telling people to pull their socks up and get it together is older than the bible. SO I think you should get a new hobby or go to college and get educated. I would love to know what authors you get your information from. Although kids comics don’t count. So why don’t you just leave the people on here to deal with themselves and others. Also try, and I know it may be hard for you, but read a science book, it will do you good in terms of expanding your mind, which I am guessing you really need. Probably a republican American. Just respect other peoples will and find another pursuit.
Good advice, but I’ve felt like that before too; I’m back here just two months later. So if someone’s tried everything (traveling, serving others, remembering family), and that “it’ll get better soon” hasn’t happened in 10 years, any more suggestions?
In a way I agree with this advice. This sounds like the perspective of someone who is starting to rise above, or at least understand the feelings, and that’s great, but I can see why it may not be well received, or understood. Not everyone is in that place, or even feels like they CAN get to that place. Or that they want to.
DiminishingReturns:
I think relapses are kind of normal in dealing with this stuff, and what worked once won’t always get you through it. For some people, going to a doctor isn’t optional, but it’s great if you can. For those who can’t, dealing with it on their own seems the only way. All I can say is I’m here to talk if you want.
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