You are told your entire life, all the research says “don’t go running after him, leave him alone, don’t talk to him..he will come back”…but he doesn’t. He stays gone. while you are left wondering if you should have chased him.
You’re told to not be the crazy ex, not to bash him, or spread your business to everyone…everyone forgets, they love him and support all of his new relationships…you’re left wondering if you did the right thing.
You’re encouraged “don’t worry, you will find someone new! He’s out there. You will forget all about that loser!”… he’s dated other girls and is now with a girl you grew up with…and you’re alone. haven’t been on one date( not for lack of trying) since him.
There are books and advice all about how to deal with breakups…but i haven’t found one about how to deal with losing the perfect guy because he didn’t want you anymore…you were too focused on being mature to just have fun.
No one tells you about the constant ache.
No one tells you about how you can be 110% sure he’s the one, and then loose him.
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I’m really sorry. I know these words don’t do much for the pain that takes hold in your life after something like this. However I’m not sure if there’s much I can say that will ease the pain, but I do understand what that feels like.
honey i am sorry. i dont know what to say. there is nothing that can really fix you. yeah you shouldnt be the crazy ex, but that doesnt mean you should be able to forget about him completely. i dont know how to help. youll have to go on and live your life, whether or not you want to. eventually you will find someone else.
zdeathchancz is right, the only real solution to post-love pains is time. it sucks shit, i know. youre probably not gonna stop thinking about him for a while, hes still gonna bug you. it took a good 2 months for me to calm down and stop trying to kill myself after my girlfriend left me, and i still think about her often. but i met someone new, and life goes on, you know? i know it seems incredibly bleak, but just know that the pain WILL go away with time.
Thank you all for your support and kind words. I am so sorry that you all have to also know what this ache is like.
Each day brings a new challenge… I just thought after 8 months it would be a little easier.