Interesting… I must admit it is painful but then again I myself lost my loved one… I still have my friends however and some even who would protect me no matter what… I’m sorry I must admit its one of the most painful pains but not the only one
Loneliness is at least a huge pain.
As I always said to myself before cutting; The physical pain is easier to handle than the mental pain.. And that I believe is the most true words I’ve ever spoke.
I feel you vincent213. Had the same problem.. Feeling bored, getting depressed.. Whenever I’m with people, doing stuff, I’m not bored, neither depressed and above all – not lonely.
When I had very little friends, I actually played world of warcraft, and that made me happy a little while 🙂 Any kind of socialisation “helps” against loneliness, if not forever, at least for a while 🙂
Even being here on this site, talking and sharing stories with you people took away all my boredom and loneliness today 🙂
Loneliness is an issue but not the only one – I find the fixation with the internal dialogue the most painful element, the constant self criticism, lowering self esteem, ability etc. Being engaged in something, staying busy helps, alas too often one has to struggle to do anything at all.
“The physical pain is easier to handle than the mental pain.”
I dunno, post-wisdom teeth w/o painkillers was one of the worst things of my life. So are migraines. I mean, being lonely is pretty terrible, but when I’ve had a constant headache for days, that’s just as bad.
Loneliness, for some people (myself included) isn’t just about not being around people. It’s about not having people who understand how you feel, or not having people willing to listen without judgment. That sense of isolation encourges the negative self-talk that Cracked mentioned.
I don’t know that loneliness is the only real pain, but it’s multi-faceted; many other causes of depression are merely factes of loneliness.
I completely agree with cracked and zebrasoul. When you are your only company you there becomes so much in your head and it is almost all negative, you want to scream but no one will hear it. For me this feeling is there always now, even when I am around other people, unless I am physicaly in conversation with them my head is exploding or I am fighting off tears
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Interesting… I must admit it is painful but then again I myself lost my loved one… I still have my friends however and some even who would protect me no matter what… I’m sorry I must admit its one of the most painful pains but not the only one
Loneliness is at least a huge pain.
As I always said to myself before cutting; The physical pain is easier to handle than the mental pain.. And that I believe is the most true words I’ve ever spoke.
Very true Lixie
I’ve always thought it was boredom that leads to my sadness/depression.. but I guess my boredom comes from being lonley.
I feel you vincent213. Had the same problem.. Feeling bored, getting depressed.. Whenever I’m with people, doing stuff, I’m not bored, neither depressed and above all – not lonely.
When I had very little friends, I actually played world of warcraft, and that made me happy a little while 🙂 Any kind of socialisation “helps” against loneliness, if not forever, at least for a while 🙂
Even being here on this site, talking and sharing stories with you people took away all my boredom and loneliness today 🙂
Loneliness is an issue but not the only one – I find the fixation with the internal dialogue the most painful element, the constant self criticism, lowering self esteem, ability etc. Being engaged in something, staying busy helps, alas too often one has to struggle to do anything at all.
“The physical pain is easier to handle than the mental pain.”
I dunno, post-wisdom teeth w/o painkillers was one of the worst things of my life. So are migraines. I mean, being lonely is pretty terrible, but when I’ve had a constant headache for days, that’s just as bad.
Loneliness, for some people (myself included) isn’t just about not being around people. It’s about not having people who understand how you feel, or not having people willing to listen without judgment. That sense of isolation encourges the negative self-talk that Cracked mentioned.
I don’t know that loneliness is the only real pain, but it’s multi-faceted; many other causes of depression are merely factes of loneliness.
I completely agree with cracked and zebrasoul. When you are your only company you there becomes so much in your head and it is almost all negative, you want to scream but no one will hear it. For me this feeling is there always now, even when I am around other people, unless I am physicaly in conversation with them my head is exploding or I am fighting off tears
caring = pain