Hi! My Name’s Hammad. When I was in my 3rd year at university I met this girl. We started out as friends but then before I knew it we connected more and more…till finally we started dating. We were in a relationship for a year…both completely in love with each other (well atleast I was and still am). I proposed marriage to her right after graduating and she said yes…..The issue was that Im a muslim and shes a buddhist…something which my mom had serious issues about. But I loved this girl and in no way was I gonna back down. I fought with my family….argued…..ended up with so much stress in my life that i developed intestinal ulcers for which I spent 2 months in the hospital for treatment. It didnt help matters that all this while I was skyping with Sonam (the girl I love) and she kept crying because she was upset about all this. Eventually I broke up with her because even though I was in pain I didnt want her to suffer at least. We broke up but I was still in love with her and I told her that many many times….eventually after 2 years of pain and disputes I convinced my family that this is the only girl I eill ever marry. They conceded but when I told her she said no…..so much so that she blocked me on facebook….through friends in common I wrote her a letter explaining the situation but she replied by saying Ive moved on maybe you should too. I dont hate her for moving on…its understandable….but after 2 years of immense physical and mental torture being rejected by her when I finally am achieving what I strived for is just heart breaking. Hence I see no point in continuing my life…..because a) I fought for what I believed in…sacrificied a LOT….and in the end got nothing 🙁 I really dont know how to go on….
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You got to move on
Wish I had your enthusiasm…but its not that simple
Hey man,
Sorry to hear it. Thanks for sharing your story. I don’t know how to help you go on, but at least there are a few lessons here:
In my experience, girls don’t like being broken up with, even if you feel you’re doing it “for them”. They will also move on quite quickly, often more so than men.
Also, they look for a man to stand up for himself, and for what he wants, which you did. But I’m guessing she probably wanted you to put her before your family right from the start. And that sounds like a really hard thing to have to do.
Good luck moving on!
Best wishes,
Daniel
Thanks Dan….means a lot 🙂