I’m 20 years old, I study at university in the UK.
I changed course after my first year, and now im on a new course, but its still not much better. The biggest issue i have is my parents, they’re always saying ‘when you graduate’ and assuming that i will graduate all the time, i dont think they quite understand that you have to actually work a lot to graduate, but i struggle for motivaton because i really hate the course that much.
Also I dont really value my friends at university as much as the ones from my home town, but they’re all at different universities now.
I’m not sure if i want to  drop out, because my home town is a total shit hole and theres nothing there, no good jobs or anything.. I’m totally stuck as to what I want.
I just need some sort of support, Thanks
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Listen,
College is hard i know. I graduated last semester. What you need to do is to talk about this with your parents. Tell them how you feel.
I am sure there is SOOO much pressure on you that you can’t take it anymore. Talking about it with relieve a lot of it.
Remember you if do not want to do something DO NOT DO IT. You don’t have to try to please anybody.
Take a little time out, think of it like this your 20 and at uni you can do any course you like you may upset the rents but I’m sure they will get over it. Or you can sit there go through the motions fail your course then end up with a shit job that you hate get stuck with that then you’ll really be suicidal and for a good reason. You can change this! I’m you 20 years on if was talking to my 20 year old self I’d say grow a pair and get a grip!
I know exactly how you feel about the “when you graduate” stuff. I think it’s really hard to see the end of the college tunnel when you are depressed, suicidal, and have no support group where you are. I understand. I feel you and I are a lot alike.
What are you taking?
Hi,
I can relate to your situation a bit because I too changed course at University during my first year (University of Oxford – changed course from Maths to Experimental Psychology), and then discovered that the course I had changed to was boring and very silly. I stuck it out, although I must admit that I attended very few lectures, and I graduated with a 2:1. I then went into work for which a University degree wasn’t even necessary!
Since then I have become a Christian, and I am amazed at how God can use things that seem useless (like a degree in a subject you don’t even like) to smooth the way for other more important things. On a purely secular level I guess I would advise you to continue with the course, because University degrees are increasingly required in order to apply for even quite basic jobs. But my best advice would be to pray about it and follow the guidance that you get from God – He alone knows you, and what lies ahead, and what is best for you.
If you want to e-mail me privately, I’m at petra@plucien.net.
All the best,
Petra
You know, I’m in a similar dilemna. I don’t know what you’re taking, but I would recommend trying to make it work to complete it. That way you at least a degree after it’s all been said and done. I can absolutely relate with your frustrations with your parents’ ignorance to particular hardships.