Hell everyone.
It hurts my heart to read the degree of pain and torment of so many of these posts. I think maybe a little perspective might be the medicine you seek. There is a massive world out there and not everyone it is horrible. There are wonderful people all over this planet and not everyone is out to hurt.
The truth is people can and will believe what they want to. And its they’re right. Most of us are just trying to make it through this journey the best way we know how. It doesn’t matter what they believe and its kind of a scape-goat to say that you’re ‘leaving’ because people have hurt you or you don’t like what they believe in. There’s no need to change these people. its up to you to define whats right in your world.
My husband’s father killed himself when he was 45. My husband was tweny one. I can’t tell you what happens after you die -not with any certainty anyway- but I can sure tell you what’s left behind when you kill yourself. It devestated the family. It devestated his children and his wife and his parents. It broke things in them that will never heal and i hate him for what it did to my husband. The damage that is left behind is colossal.
There are alot of angry people on this board. There are alot of angry posters here who feel they have been wronged in some way, yet they seem to pursue the very people who make them angry. Situations can’t change unless you change them. period.
There are children sitting burn units right now that need volunteers to read to them. There are kids dying of cancer that would LOVE a toy or a video-game after a chemo-treatment, or even to see someone else’s face besides a nurse or a doctor. They have nothing but hope because there’s nothing else ‘to’ have. Kids are being kidnapped in thailand and forced into sex-slavery. A woman is being beaten by her husband somewhere in the world right now, and a man just lost his job and doesn’t know how he’ll feed his family as I type this.
i just wonder if any of you have thought about donating your time to a cause that might need your help. Something bigger than you, something bigger than your anger and despair. Its a big world out there and their are many, many ideas floating in it. Don’t make ‘your’ world too small. Get out and really see what’s going on. And Get involved. It just might save your life.
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I’m sorry for your husband’s loss, but, with all due respect, I don’t believe you have a clear understanding of what depression is and what it does to you. If the solution were as easy as what you propose of course everyone would do it, but sadly, it is not. Clinical depression is a disease, just like cancer. I don’t believe you would say to a cancer patient, just get out there and get involved, and your cancer will go away. I know your heart is in the right place, but … well, enough said.
so in short there’s someone in a worse position then you are is that what your trying to explain?
No I’m not giving the “look there are people worse off speech’ But I think that people who are depressed having a narrow lens that they see the world through. I believe depression is a treatable disease but medicine alone doesn’t solve all your problems. Helping others is an excellent way to build self-esteem and give indivduals who are suffering with feelings of anger and self-loathing something to fight for. They realize that just little gestures can mean so much to people and it ofetn *begins* to improve their self-worth immediately. dylan and pretty boy; 1st I know more about depression than you could ever imagine so watch what you say with such confidence. As I said medicine is the first in a host of treatments available for depression. sadly many people DON’T get out there and see what’s happening in their world. They prefer their dark little cave where they can sink deeper and deeper into isolation. THAT is not a cure. Getting out and seeing how important you cfan be someone else, and how with just small contributions one person can be so valuable, THAT’s what I’m suggesting. Suicide doesn’t just take one life. It takes a wrecking ball to many lives.
appreciate your post very much, Woodro.
it definitely widens up my perspective on depression.
maybe it’s true that what I need is, really, to get out there and to actually CREATE my own Reality..
I don’t know though,..I’m kinda scared of going outside into the real world, because it’s often ugly and bad,..but at the same time, I know that what you said is also true: it’s a *BIG* world out there, and not every human out there is there to eat you up or hurt you. I think this is very important to realize, and to experience it by myself, one by one, slowly but sure, until I regain back my old confidence & hope to live in this real-world.
thanks for the post.