I am thirteen years old, made fun of constantly. A little while back about a year ago I met a boy from a town close by at a local theme park. One day we were texting, he was with his friend Joey. Me and Joey started talking for a while’ added eachother on Facebook and became close. We have been talking for quite some time now. About a while back he asked me to play “21 question” with him, if you do not know what this is, it is when you ask eachother 21 questions of your pick. He asked me how far would I get with him. I said “probably just make out” he said “well honestly I would probably bang you, but the first time I met you I would go up your shirt.” terrified I told him I wasn’t that type of girl. It was awkward talking to him after that so for a while we stoped. Come to find out he is my friends cousin. She found out and screamed at him. We swore to forget it happened and we moved on. Now we are close again and we still have not met. He is so sweet he says things like “babe” and “baby” and “beautiful” and “perfect” im starting to fall hard for him. I told him I loved him like we normally do. An he said “prove it” I asked how and he said “well when we meet very soon (alone) you can prove it however wayyou want” I said “how would you want me to do that?!” he said “well maybe some kissing and hugging but delete your messages after this” i said I would delete them and that it wAs his job to start the kissing. He said okay. I like him alot an we haven’t even met. What do I do?! Is he playin me? Help me! And another this is he only texts me at night now. An I have no idea why :/ and he randomly stops texting back 🙁 help!
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Wow a guy did this exact thing to me when I was thirteen! He ended up using me for disgusting sexual things and would kick me to the curb until he wanted more. I came to realize a guy worth being with would never nake you have to question their intentions ever. So maybe that you need to question his intent towards u is a sign maybe to find someone better … I hope this helps! 🙂
Honestly though my friend tells me so much story’s about him and she says he’s NOTHING like he say he is. She thinks he was just tryig to act cool
You should never have to prove your love to someone! And definatly not in that way. Remember this one key thing:
Someone who truly loves you will never try to make you do something you don’t want to do.
Also don’t ever meet people alone. Not until you trust them 100% anyway. 13 is too young to be dealing with this sort of thing. Relationships at that age should just be fun, nothing serious. You’ll have time for that later. For now just have fun, and stay safe ok? Talk to someone who knows you well about it (parents, teachers etc) if you need further advice. Just don’t rush into anything ok?
Can we chat sometime? I’m gonna try to email you
Me?
I’m sorry to say this, but I don’t think you “found him.” The guy you talk about just seems to want to use you. While you’re feeling depressed, having someone like that might be what you think you’re falling in love, but it might not be. You’re 13… I don’t think you should be doing anything like what he said he wanted to do with you. You’ll just regret it more and even hate life even more after you do. I don’t think you should talk to that guy again… since he might try to persuade you to do something you’ll regret. Just my opinion though. As a guy myself… based on what you said about it, it just seems he just wants to have sex with you and then leave you after he’s done using you for awhile.
Okay, it may *sound* like he’s just trying to be cool, but I would not take the risk. People don’t make “jokes” like that.
It really does sound like he’s just using you. Even that young, there are guys who pray on girls, who have sex with them and leave them. The risk is too high. Especially when you’re so young.
Look, he hasn’t even met you yet, and he’s writing you like your his sex fantasy. Now, doesn’t that sound suspicious?
Basically, I agree with what everyone above said. Please don’t take risks. If you decide to meet him, meet him with an adult present. Don’t fall in love just because someone calls you “baby”. He’s acting just like a womanizer. And, from what it sounds like, he’s not changing. I know a girl who got pregnant at age 13. Don’t take the risk; it’s not worth it.
You can email me if you like. neverknown(at)hushmail(dot)com
Hate to break it to ya hun but sounds like he just wants sex! Be careful
It’s great so many people here are looking out for you….In the end it’s your decision. You need to ask yourself, Do I want to be taken advantage of? Do I want to be with a guy who has alternative motives other than liking me for me…
You do not deserve to be taken advantage of…and if one of your 1st intimate experiences is negative, it may discolor your view of guys in general. What does your gut tell you. No guy validates how special you are, you are already. I’d intend on attracting someone that makes for a real simple, easy going relationship. Any relationship, best be simple and drama free. Hollywood and media put to much stress on the whole thing. All the sexual stuff best happen in it’s own time and you’ll know when you feel safe and comfortable with yourself in that situation, whoever that may be with. Good luck to you.
Cheers!