Is there anyone in their forties out there ? I accept that depression is depression and is so irrespective of age; the quality of the thing, the despair, does not seem to me now to be any different from that ten, twenty, twenty five years ago. Where has all that time gone ?
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look hun, everyone gets depressed, if you dont want to feel alone, look around, there’s toddlers feeling suicidal.
I don’t think you’re by any means alone, cracked. Maybe on this site, I’m 26 and I sometimes feel like the oldest person here. But just because suicidal people in their forties don’t come here all to often for whatever reason, doesn’t mean they don’t exist. There is a very noticeable generation difference when it comes to the whole internet though… not just this site.
I’m 40- you are not even close to being alone, although it definitely feels that way.
I’m 44. I guess the younger ones have a lot more energy to write about what’s bothering them.
In my 40s. You’re not alone. Although I think by now you realize that “you are not alone” is a pretty meaningless statement.
IME the depression doesn’t change over time (been there 25 years on and off for me now), it just comes and goes. We all fill our lives with pointlessness and try to endure. All you can do is hope to find and hold on to something that gives significance to your existence.
I’m in my 50s if that counts. No you aren’t alone, as everyone else said.
Clover, I do know and I remember what it w like to suffer as a teenager, Angel, yes, I remember the thing when I was 26, the intent was in it’s infancy and not much a resource in terms of community, otherwise, yes, the depression though is no longer about single things, an accumulation, whotfami, yes, I do get rather fed up with the ‘your not alone ‘ thing though people do recover and stay received, I dunno, yes, your fifties count.
I’m 40 and have been depressed since 18. I’ve still had a lot of fun though. Never got married. If it wasn’t for my nephews I’d off myself. I just don’t want to get old. Also, I just keep thinking if I kill myself hell will be just more years of this crap. In the last 5 years I’ve lost my best job, the love of my life, my home and a brother (who I really loved more than life). My parents are in bad health and will probably pass away in the next 5 years and leave me A LOT of money/assets but I’m so emotionally dependent on them I can imagine living without the only people who care more about me than themselves in this world. ANYWAY, this is more than I wanted to write but basically YOU ARE NOT ALONE in your forties and f’d up.
@ yellow dog
Most families go through the same thing. What’s left of the roman empire. Things change, people die, drift apart. It’s a natural process and nothing lasts forever. You can embrace the change and help the rest of your family start a new chapter.
@ cracked
I’m in my late twenties and I’m at serious risk of what you and yellow dog are talking about. This is a red alert situation and I’m trying my best to turn things around.
Hello Cracked,
Did you ever read the magazine by that name? And if you did…then you’re really effin’ old…hahaha….just kidding…but wow….look at the old ones crawling out of the woodwork….this is amazing. I am 50 btw…and how have I made it…my first suicide attempt was before the age of 4 and the last one at the age of 40…the answer is simple.
Live, Learn, Love and Laugh…always laugh…and usually at myself
Amakua
They say life begins at 40!
45 here cracked – Thanks for your response to my post. I agree that there are specific challenges to feeling this way later in life. I’ve been down or ‘blue’ before, but never anything like this – it is new to me and very, very frightening.