General Question by not-good-enough 3/20/2011 written by not-good-enough 3/20/2011 For all those who are in relationships: does it help? For all of those who are alone: Do you want to be in a relationship and why? 16 comments 0 Email Related posts :B P.R.I.D.E 10/25/2021 Biased assholes 10/24/2021 10/23/2021 Protected: Why i cant be your friend… 10/23/2021 Choose to live? 10/23/2021 Reasons to Live 10/22/2021 This photo perfectly summarizes how I feel 10/22/2021 Written on a cracked screen so sorry forspelling…. 10/22/2021 10/22/2021 How to make my own painkiller? 10/22/2021 16 comments whocaresanyway 3/20/2011 - 1:29 am I was in a relationship and in love and I was happy. It took away my bad thoughts and depression. I put everything I had into it and my future. Now, I have nothing and i’m worse than ever. Log in to Reply LittleMissNobody 3/20/2011 - 2:05 am I have two moods that i alternate between; really really happy or really really sad. When i’m really really happy, life is amazing and I really want a boyfriend just so I have someone always there who genuinely cares. When i’m really really sad, I remember how fucked up I am and that no one could ever love me. Log in to Reply stm1992 3/20/2011 - 2:09 am I have a boyfriend; I love him with all my heart. But I still want to kill myself. Not to say that it won’t help you. But don’t try getting into a relationship just because you’re trying to avoid hurting yourself. That’s just setting yourself up for failure. Log in to Reply not-good-enough 3/20/2011 - 2:11 am I’m just trying to determine if seeking a soulmate is worth the trouble, or I should just give up, I kinda already have but I get so damn F’n lonesome that I rather just die. Log in to Reply stm1992 3/20/2011 - 2:20 am Well, chew on this: You cannot help others unless you are able to help yourself. The point of being with someone is to make yourself and the person who are with into better people. Log in to Reply not-good-enough 3/20/2011 - 2:27 am Yeah that makes sense, I’m working on being ok with myself alone and stuff, I dont hate myself, I guess I should just work on self improvements and then…see what happens. Log in to Reply Bella_87 3/20/2011 - 8:38 am why alone? try to hang out with friends and with people around you who make you laugh. do you have children? Log in to Reply i dunno 3/20/2011 - 9:55 am Funny, I was sitting here feeling sorry for myself because I have no one in my life. Then some of you have special people in your life and want to die anyway. Maybe it’s not so funny. Log in to Reply loserr 3/20/2011 - 10:45 am if u already have someone, break up with em and kill urself. cause the purpose to keep on living when ur with someone is because of them. thats the reason to keep on goin, to be with the ones who love u, or u love. bu sometimes u can feel so like shit that u only think about urself in the moment and wanna die. its though Log in to Reply InconsistentlyGenuine 3/20/2011 - 5:11 pm I am “alone”, meaning not in a romantic relationship. Do I wish to have a relationship? NO! The common reason why people do not recommend them is because they have had their share of bad relationships. . . That’s not my reason. Yes, I have had negative/unhealthy relationships, however, I have held this belief WAY LONG before my negative experiences. I find relationships to be almost pointless unless you view the significant other in an objectional way, which in that case I STRONGLY do not recommend relationships. Relationships are for people to satisfy each other’s needs. These needs usually consist of: feeling needed/appreciated, someone to talk to, sex, etc. Now if both parties can satisfy each other’s needs, this would be great, however, this is uncommon (if even existent). Seems that someone is always on the receiving side, while the other person is being drained. Plus, these needs can be met without any other parties being involved in a relationship. (with sex you can just masturbate). Dang, I have so much more to say. I just don’t know what you SHOULD be in a relationship, you know? So I guess I’ll just scroll up now to see if anyone says you should be in a relationship, and prove why they are wrong. Oh, and to sum it up. Relationships are nothing but two people using each other, and they always end bad. (And when they don’t end, both parties are usually miserable) Log in to Reply InconsistentlyGenuine 3/20/2011 - 5:14 pm LMAO… Let me get this straight. A bad reason for not getting in a relationship is because of the inevitability of emotional (and possibly physical) damage? Hm, and that’s setting yourself up for failure? So, the implication here is that success is being miserable while pretending that you are doing what’s best. 🙂 Got it. GREAT ADVICE! Log in to Reply InconsistentlyGenuine 3/20/2011 - 5:14 pm LittleMissNobody: Boy do I know what you mean… Log in to Reply SomniumReality 3/20/2011 - 7:20 pm I find it great to kiss someone passionately. You can’t manage to do that alone, and kissing a stranger doesn’t really involve any passion (like clubbing and kissing a random cutie. At least I can recall some gorgeous ones i’ve kissed but that I couldn’t care less for in the end). The only way to achieve it is either by being in a relationship with someone you greatly care for or admire, and nevertheless someone whom you have a crush for a while (which implies being in a “i want you” state of mind…) It’s just so awesome to go on a date and kiss someone you’ve been wanting to. I’d love to be on a relationship in which we could enjoy each other’s company and have great fun (me and my partner). That would be great. I’m not a huge fan of being alone, but I guess I’m too insecure and , perfectionist and unstable to make a relationship work. The guy really needs to put great effort in order to keep me around. I need “a knight in shining armor” – When he finds me I’ll get my “happy ever after” lol ;p THIS is my favorite love movie-clip ever (from one of my favorite movies) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4d8CcQ7kMmg I can totally picture myself living that….*sigh, dreams away* Log in to Reply not-good-enough 3/20/2011 - 8:42 pm No, no children. And I’m torn between having any and not having any, I figure if I was in a solid marriage, I would lean towards having kids. Log in to Reply divisionday 3/21/2011 - 3:43 am I have wanted to be in a relationship, but lately I find myself caring less and less. I feel that my romantic desperation is fading away to cynicism and hopelessness. However, after I was first hospitalized and put on antidepressants in high school, there was one girl who always made me feel happy whenever we talked. If you really feel lonely, then finding a soulmate may just give you the motivation to live. If it doesn’t work out, well, would you feel any worse than you do now? Log in to Reply Open Diary 3/22/2011 - 8:56 pm I have a boyfriend. He’s the only one that make feel wanted in this world. But even then, I would have to say no. Because I don’t really feel anything anymore, and i feel incredibly bad whenever I let him down. But I guess it all depends on what’s wrong with you. We all have different problems, so I can’t say it’d be different for you. Log in to Reply Leave a Comment Cancel ReplyYou must be logged in to post a comment.Subscribe to comments: Don't subscribe All Replies to my comments Notify me of followup comments via e-mail. You can also subscribe without commenting.