Hi,I’m a guy and I been very depressed lately. It started back in late Febuary and has not stopped and not it is April. At first I thought it was just a phase I was going through, but it’s clearly not. I don’t know what to do? I feel like I become so isolated with everyone that mean a lot to me, like I use to talk to this one girl a lot and I’m going to admit, she was the only girl I would feel comfortable talking with. But I think I been “replaced” as friends when this new kid came to our school. I’m in high school so it affects me a whole lot. This is going to sound really sad and I’m afraid to admit in real life, but she only friend that is a “girl” that I talk to, that’s why it’s so devastating for me. Along with that, I think I creeped her out and when you creep girls out, you will always remain that type of person? I mean I talked to her recently and she says were still friends and I ask her why she ignores me at school and she says she doesn’t know and nothing is wrong. Like I use to flirt with her and she would do the same but then things just went downhill from there when I started to say I was going to kick that new kids ass but I never did because I didn’t want to hurt her feelings as a friend. And so then she stopped talking to me, etc. It’s been really depressing. Aside from all this, I have to worry back at home, with my parents yelling at me and my dad called the police on me several times. All for stupid things. I told I’m depressed and they are not helping and all they could tell me was, “your making us depressed!” and then they just snicker laugh. Then basically gave me hints that if I was to commit suicide, then nothing would really matter. Right now, I cannot rely on police because I hate them now really nor can I really on anyone. I don’t have friends to communicate to, I don’t have anyone, I don’t have a cellphone, I recently stopped being friends with my best friends because he does is smoke pot. I smoked pot too but I quit a while back ago. All I wish right now is for everything is to go back to the way it was, or at least get better and I do admit again, I do “love” the girl because what I need is support from her right now but obviously she doesn’t see that and she’s too busy with her new friend. And on top of that she broke up with her bf like a long time ago, last year and she says she doesn’t want want to be in any  relationship with anyone, but she told me I would make a good one for her and I think I creeped her out by saying I underestand but then I go back and do it all over again by just complimenting her postively on everything she has to offer. Now I don’t even know what’s going on. Now half the time, I don’t even know what I’m doing or saying, my grades went down from A’s to F’s. If I don’t have the motivation then nothing can happen. Please, don’t tell me to move on. I’m lonely, I have aquiantances. My parents will not support me in regards to entertainment or socially if you know what I mean? I wanna die really bad cause there is nothing worth living for. And again this is not a phase, it’s lasted way tooo long and please dont say i need a therapy as well.
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I’m so sorry narcotic ice. I know how you feel man. I do…
It sounds like you have lousy parents. They should be helping you instead of making your life worse.
I had some pretty lousy parents, too. What I did was focus on graduating so I could get a job & get the hell out of there. It worked.
About school, it sucks I know. I think you should give up on that girl because if she’s so shallow that she would ignore you just because she has a new friend, then well you don’t want her as a friend. It helped me to join some clubs, like jazz band or track team or chess club, whatever interests you. That way you can keep your mind off things for just a few more years till you graduate & get out.
One thing to keep in mind is after graduation, nobody will care who was friends with who. You’ll all go your separate ways & forget the whole thing. So all this crap you’re going thru will be buried. If you can just hang on a little longer, you’ll be free.
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I hear ya.
I have been through a lot that is why I am here.
when the days pass so long they start to blend into one long sadness this doesn’t last long you ether go to one extrema or to another… you get over it… or it kills you… It starts with not caring if your grades are any indication you seem to be sliding down that hill….the hardest part is that you know no one understands… and that the world is awesome but its the people who are fucking everything up… with the girl… you seem to want someone who will understand you someone you can share everything and be gental with guys its different you can’t say or do somethings…. you need a friend that understands…
me?
I have fucked up my life over and over again….
and thought about everything… it’s why I am here
When you get to a point where nothing works and everything seems to close in be someone different forget the past make yourself a new
forget what people say forget what you have been make it a new even if you have to make new friends everything will come again
but if you dwell here and you get stuck it will seem endless and it will be painful thinking that you could have had a chance with her who is wounding you with her uncaring with you…. she may not be ready yet and you sound like you are assigning meanings to things that may not be true… thing is this will never be the end… life continues you may hate it… or you may love it… sometimes I listen to the most painful songs I can find …. and let me think of her…. like cleaning out a wound my mind goes crazy… but after the pain I pick myself up and move on… I wait to die…
because I know I am going to die you know?
I will die
life is not endless
no one has made it to 130
this is just starting think about how old you are
and assign a number like 100
that is how long you will live
– your age
= how much time you have left
you are dieing why are you wasting your time thinking of killing yourself
your dieing!
go live life be happy
your dieing there are over 5,000 people who died in Japan they wanted to live more than anything in life today… your not maimed and still have a chance to have a wife….
children
and an awesome life
I remind myself every day I feel like killing myself
It will happen give it some time….
but while your waiting
have some fun
everyone you look at today is going to die
you don’t have to kill anything
or yourself it will happen
I even give thanks to my food
because I start to feel sorry for it but I continue to eat breath and dream
I will find love again.
you will find love just wait for a moment
and when you feel close to the edge
e-mail me
I guess everything will be buried.
Maybe I should give myself some time?
Yeh, probably the people fuck it up.
I still don’t know how to deal with not having friends during high school to support me? I mean I do have a little bit of friends but they all seem like aquaintances to me because I’m never invited to do anything with them.
Facebook is also is a curse when it comes to socializing.
What should I do about that girl though? I really don’t want our friendship to end? I mean she doesn’t ignore me entirely, like she talks to me but is more like avoiding me?
Everyday, there is no “Second” that I do not want to die and feel free of pain.
In high school, girls can be pretty strange (I am a girl and just graduated high school recently). Sometimes the things they say are not what they really mean and sometimes their mood can change so quickly. I know it may be hard, but the best advice I can give you is to give her some space. If you pass by her in the halls be polite and say hi and ask how she’s doing but don’t push it unless she initiates more. This is also something that I hated hearing when I was in high school but there really are so many more girls out there. There are so many girls that WISH a guy would ask her out. She may not be way outgoing but when she is one on one she opens up a lot more. You could try looking for these type of girls and plan a fun date. Get to know a lot of girls and just have fun (in a clean, good way). Go play mini golfing, make dinner together, go on a scavenger hunt, have a themed date, etc. Have fun. You are young and there is so much you have yet to experience in life. You still will get married and have kids. Don’t give up for them.