I’m sorry to bother you guys again, but I really don’t know who else to turn to at the moment.
   I just found out today that a friend of mine and my family’s, who I’ve known for the past ten years, has advanced cancer. No one expects her to live very long. She’s already battled it at least once before, but it wasn’t this advanced.
  I don’t know what to do. I feel so helpless. I’m literally a continent away, and I can’t talk to her or comfort her or anything. I remember her only a few months ago, and she was so cheerful and happy, this breaks my heart. She’s always been my mentor, I could talk to her about hopes and fears I didn’t tell my own parents. She’s sweet, wonderful, contributed so much. So full of life.Â
   I’m hoping I’ll be able to talk to her. But I can’t accept the fact that I’ll never see her again. But let’s face it, I doubt I’ll accept it at any point in time. But I truly wish I could be there to comfort her and ease the pain. She deserves that much at least.
  There’s so many things I want to say, so many meetings that we’ll never have. I wish now we’d gone out to lunch more, that was one of our favorite things. We could talk about everything, and often did.
 Best wishes, Carol. I’ll be praying for you.
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I wish and pray for a terminal disease so that I could be free from life.
I know there are so many people that want to live and these disease’s ravage their life and the lives of all around them.
My father died of pancreatic cancer, for him it was very quick, 3 weeks from diagnosis.
I have a friend who just survived surgery after finding out he had a tumour.. he’s only in his early 20’s. When I found out I was in shock and wasn’t sure how to be around him.. what to say or do. I was so afraid of upsetting him. I finally got the chance to see him and it was as if nothing had changed. He was his same old self. (Minus a few physical changes from surgery) it was like the tumour never existed. Sadly, that’s not always the case. I hope the best for you and your friend in this tough time. Try your best to be strong for them.
I’m in more or less the same situation. When your time comes, nothing you can do about it. Sounds like she’s well loved, anyway, that’s one of the greatest acheivements anyone can hope for in their lifetime.
I’m so sorry. I will pray, too.
My mentor died from cancer, and I never knew. Never got to tell him all that he meant to me. It haunts me. Tell this person, if you can.
When we get the news of a fatal disease, or terminal, or a job less (to a lesser extent-not trivializing it) there is a natural turning away from people. They become untouchable, it seems, when God knows they need more, more and more. Because we fear we will become like them. No hope. Just reach out through email or skype or however you can. You’ll be glad you did.
SO MANY are dying of cancer now. I hate this filthy disease.