hello everyone….
i feel really dumb and stupid. i have this boyfriend but i want to brake up with him becuase i love someone else. I dont know what to do? he makes it so hard for me to brake up with him. And another thing is tha my family has no respect for me just my mom.
love esmeralda
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Well without much experience in relationships my advice probably wont be right… All i can say is do it to his face. Give him all the reasons, be nice about it and if he starts being a bollix dont rise to the bate… I not sure about telling him about the fact u love someone else tho, anyone got ideas on that?
Tell your boyfriend that it’s over and you love someone else. Then stop talking to him. Refuse all phone calls block emails etc.
As far as yr family goes… Respect takes a while to develop and your only 14. You haven’t had the time to try to earn respect. So as long as yr family aren’t hurting u physically or emotionally, I guess u just have to learn to live with it until yr old enough to move out
Thats a bit harsh on the boyfriend. I mean what did he do to recieve such a harsh course as being blocked?! that prob turn him into one of us… make it sound like a group of vampires or something lol
@procel I would tell the guy that I love someone else because in my experience, until they hear that, they often think I just need more time to fall in love with them
I agree with procel
@procel once again I block them because after the break up there’s really nothing else to talk about, and continued talking ends in more fights, tears and emotional blaickmail. I love to remain friends with my exs but experience has taught me this simply isn’t possible straight away. So I try to keep distance for 3 to 6 months and give the guy a chance to move on before trying tO be friends.
Not all guys… Id take it at face value. Id be devistated and prob drink myself unconcious but id respect her wishes… Doesnt he deserve the benifit of the doubt?
@starstorm cheers but do u tell the guy that u inlove with someone else or not?
Procel sure sorry I am short cutting on my phone so it’s all sounding a lot harsher than it should. Obviously if the guy respects yr wishes to have distance for a while there’s no need to block. But the other thing is.. Blocking also removes the temptation for her to go running back into his arms in a mOment of weakness. Sounds tough but it’s best for both parties to have distance until the hurt subsides. It’s alsO hard for both parties. Personally I have a bad track record of staying with the wrong guy for years, because I am too soft to break up cleanly and properly. I know this doesn’t help anyone that’s why I also know when u do it u have to b sure to do it properly
I wouldn’t tell him. That causes so much unnecessary heart break
She never said she was involved with someone else, she’s just innlove with someone. If you’ve been cheating best not to tell him, that will just make him feel even worse. Unless he won’t leave u alone then u might want to tell him
@one_day No ur talking from experience, im talking bull from the bottom of a bottle so… i suppose it really depends on the guy. @starstorm Id be inclined to agree with u on that score unless this guy not get the hint and leaves no choice?
Well, yeah… if he really doesn’t get the hint than it’s better to just make a clean break and get it over with. But if you can avoid that, then power to ya
and this is one of the reasons i never been in a relationship
The poster said that her bf ‘makes it hard to break’ so I am assuming that this is the kind of guy who u can’t afford to leave a grey area with.
Procel relationships aren’t only about breaking up that bit only comes at the end there’s
Good stuff before!
Honesty is the best policy…you can only think for one person and that’s you. Relationships of all sorts unfold or fold up in many different ways. The more you freak out about it, the harder you’ll make it for yourself. If your family doesn’t respect you, that’s their issue, not a reflection on you. Take care and think well of yourself. Good luck.
@one_day, I know she probably end up having to be brutally honest but it best to leave it as a last option… Does the good in a relationship outway the bad? are they really worth it???
Procel yes yr right brutality is a last option.
Does the good outweigh the bad… Hm well yr talking about infinite things and trying to weigh them up against each other in finite terms. You can’t do that. Also can’t put finite value on things like good, bad, love or emotion. So in short, I can’t answer yr question because it is an unfair question. But I will say, that until u experience a deep meaningful relationshi (not necessarily a sexual one) you haven’t lived. For better or worse. Life is about experience so if yr not going to try to get these experiences yr not well equipt to talk about life.
Guess ill shut up so
@procel I didn’t mean u should shut up… Yr free to talk about yr feelings like everyone else hope u don’t take it wrong way. Guess I just mean… If yr looking for meaning in life, many find that meaning in a relationship, or in education, or in… MOney??? The point is, in the pursuit of meaning, there are risks and heartbreak might be one of them
@one_day I know u didnt mean it that way but the fact is ur right… Ive done fuk all with my life but the problem is ive no real interest in education or money, relationships i dont know about… haha i just realised i kinda hijaked @14 years and thats all’s post so im sorry kid hope what we said helped. nd cheers One_day for the food for thought, much appreciated
Yeah sorry Esmeralda, post about love and yr guaranteed to generate a bit of traffic around here! Procel I hope u can find something meaningful for yrself… Don’t worry about what others tell u is or isn’t meaningful. Just be true to yrself
At 14 do you really know what love is? I am sure you think you do, but if anyone here is in there late 20’s they should be able to recall what teenage love is like. I think you should keep on living, fair chance… this is puppy love
@one_day cheers nd i hope u find what it is u need aswell
@blackmist While u are probably right u godda remember to the puppy the love is 100% real
Yes the heart break I had felt when I was about 14yrs young, tragic. But the “love” for her was not serious, of course at the time I felt as if it were. Later in life I realized the truth. Pain though, one nasty b word. I think emotionally we are too young to have fully developed them. I may be incorrect and she may have grown faster than I did. I just think 5 years from now this guy and this issue may not even be a thought. I wish you the best Es…