Hi,
I feel realy bad those days and need to share what I’m hollding in me for about 14 years now with the people on this site. I need a bit help and suport but I don’t now how to begin. I never thought that writing a text about how I felt this last 14 years would be so difficult.
I spend already 2 hours on this site tring to writh something but I don’t know how.
Can someon give me some advice?
Thanks
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Hey what type of advice do you need?
I just don’t know how to start writing. I want some advice to know how to begin. it is so difficult to whrite about bad feelings and stuff. and I got so much in me.
most people start at the beginning, childhood and what not. My suggestion is to start with the problems you face now and work backwards. for example, let’s say you’re having issues with a boyfriend. start there then go back and talk about it’s your eating disorders and suicidal thoughts that are pushing him away, then analyze where those feelings come from
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tell what would need to happen in your life today/tomorrow/whenever that would pull you out of this depressive funk. What are you missing in life that you need to be here? We’re all here because we need this place to pour out the darkness. Just let your darkness flow buddy, let it out in a way that feels comfortable. Don’t try to get it out all at once because you’ll fail. baby steps
Just ask yourself a simply question. Calmly ask yourself where should I start writing. the first thought that comes to mind that’s it. Start writing from there. It’s okay don’t worry about it. There are no good or bad feelings. They are simply feelings and its okay to feel them. Simply let them out it’s okay we will support you. No judgeing it is safe 🙂 go ahead
everyone has a screen on them, like your faucet has. this screen’s function is to filter out information that isn’t socially acceptable from your speech/expression vocabulary. for this excersize- you are a plumber, and your job is to unscrew the nozzle on the faucet and detatch it from the sink, take a screwdriver and pry off the little rubber gromit, and then scrape all the crap off the inside of the screen. just for today pay attention to what you say to the people you interract with, the words you use, the sentences you repeat, the tone of voice you choose- these are all things that pass through the screen. tomarrow sit down in a comfortable chair and think for 1hour, you may want to do something active to keep your focus like twiddling your thumbs, or rocking back and forth, or chainsmoking, or any mindless repetitive actvity that doesn’t require your full attention. pay attention to your internal dialogue in the same way you payed attention to your external dialogue. everything you DIDNT say yesterday- that’s what you’re going to write down. alot of it will be stupid stuff like: “my ass itches” or “im thirsty” or a song you listened to or a trivial conversation you had with someone. What’s going to be helpful for you to share with someone else for feedback is things of a more confessional nature- things you feel guilty about or that have a really strong emotional resonance to them. you’re looking for things you don’t want to look at and it should probly feel very uncomfortable. you’ll know when it’s time to start writing in the same way you know when you have to take a shit- something will just start coming out and you should write it first in microsoft word or notepad or whatever you have and go over it yourself a few times first. alot of the value in doing this is for you to see your own thoughts written out, so you can make sense of them for yourself. you don’t have any choice over how you feel, but you can think clearer by understanding your own thoughts and that will help you feel better or at least less overwhealmed.