Divorce

I respect you for not wanting to hurt her… It’s admirable. I can also respect you for wanting to be happy. If a person or situation is making you depressed, it’s definitely good to make adjustments.

I don’t know a lot about your marriage… length, etc. Perhaps my first question would be whether you’ve considered marriage counseling. It could be spiritual if you belong to a house of worship… or it could be provided by someone in private practice. If you have decided concretely to end it, I’d speak with her in person and be honest. While the conversation, by its very nature, wouldn’t be pleasant… I’d let her know of your decision and your desire to keep things amicable.

I would encourage you to think about this before taking any action… and it seems like you have. If you are spiritual, I would pray about it. No matter how this turns out, I wish both of you peace.