I’m really confused right now, I told my closest friend today for the time that i cut, and she didn’t even seem to care. She just kinda blew it off, like I had just told her what I ate for lunch or something. What if my parents told her I had killed myself? Would she have cared then? I just am very confused on the whole situation…/: someone please help.
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So you want attention? Or someone to confide in?
How does one react to it?
She may have just been shocked or felt awkward about it. I know the first time I heard a friend say it to me, I did the same thing your friend has done because I didn’t know how to deal with it or want to know that that type of thing was happening to someone I knew. My reccomendation is to tell her if there’s any ways she can help you and just generally how you’re feeling from time to time.
I have you exact same problem. You try to trust someone your most deepest secret about your pain and suddenly they just dont’care/tell you not to think to much/think you’re crazy or all in all just defriend you. Luckily for me, I happen to meet a psychologist along the way in my life. It was a group session for a religious group, so it wasn’t a private session that i paid for. She broke me down completely within a couple of hours. She really cared for my situation and told me to make an appointment with her because my case was serious. That made me realize something. That we shouldn’t expect our friends/family to be counselors even though we expect them to me. I lost alot of friends this way. One would argue that they aren’t my true friends. Well, it’s a matter of perspective. It’s a big burden to anyone because nobody is trained to handle these kinds of situations. Although i don’t see the psychologist anymore, I would really recommend it to anyone. Not all of them may help, but for some they might.
You need to talk to her about it more. Ask her why she reacted like that or more importantly, ask her what she thinks. Be straight up about it.
people have done this to me aswell, i have found out that it is because they dont want to think of someone they care about hurting themselfes, they dont kniow what to say or do to helkp and they are frustrtaed they cant make it better and that noone told them before, just say to her that you want somone to talk to about it, say wheather or not you are trying to stop at them moment, if you are trying to stop and want her to support you, you must tell her to remember there will be slip ups and that it doesnt mean you have failed, maby send her some links to websites that explain self harm, it can be a baffeling thing to understand how it helps a person, she will be able to be more supportive if she knows a bit more about it.