Like the song I see many people on this site trying to do that, promising all these things and getting people to hold on, like with anyone’s post about peoples problems and feelings it seems everyone or many people can offer advice, but isn’t offering people false advise and false dreams also an act of cruelty it is with this in mind I have not made as many positive comments that I could of, but after all the FAQ for this site tells us that this is not a place to look for salvation and to expect to be saved it is a simple place for telling your story, I by that some people at least know that I understand what its like to have the same pains as them and I can do is tell them I know that feeling, there are a lot of kids on this site that all they really need to do is open up to their parents and tell them whats going on or communicate with them better, I don’t like seeing teenagers on here; I hope they at least give things a bit of a go before they decided to give up. Ultimately I’d like to be happy and I’d like to see everyone else happy but we don’t live in fiction land and reality is what it is, I’d feel it would be often more cruel to give people false hope and try and buy the stairway to heaven and make themselves feel better.
Realistically cynical. William
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I don’t say it will get better, only that it can.
if we could buy or have the stairway to heaven..everyone would be willing to have it.
uncertainties, complicated..that life is. And it’s not as easy as we thought, just be open to their parent and so on..if that’s an easy thing to do, they’d tell their parents.
Most likely the majority of people that post here that want to die, will not be able t follow through right away including me, unfortunately. So if I see ways for someone to have a more bearable life or a way out while they’re alive, I will bring it up. Teenagers always! If people have really made up their minds I wish them peace and love wherever they go if anywhere.
I’d love for everyone to be happy and there was no ‘wrong’ in this world.
People generally set them selves targets and keep going because they they have hopes and dreams some of which are unrealistic and unattainable. If people on here are offering false hope then that’s no different to anyone else because humans need something to work towards otherwise we would be fairly limited. everyone has a motive for being here you don’t have to take long to deconstruct them. People always ask me that as if I was put on this earth to make them feel better about themselves all the time. Its obviously something you felt strongly about, enough to make a post about it at least. I understand. I think that when you are able to attach very little weight to what people say and do, your on the road to recovery.
There’s a guy on here that calls himself The Guardian. He gives sound advice, never oversteps the boundaries and sticks around so not everyone is like that.
Every person here is an individual case. I try to use my disgression to Suss out who needs to hear what. To the teenagers I mostly say hang on, because they have barely even started living yet. Some people are trying to hold on, and are clearly needing encouragement. Then there are older people, who have clearly given up, and just want some forgiveness or support for their decision.
Everyone has a unique story and if you listen carefully, you might actually give them what they are looking for.
@ One_day – I think it’s different for people that have been on the site a while. People that post for the first time are in a desperate state.
I’m just some guy that works in an office.
@duke I disagree. Even the old timers consist of a mix of those who are (unconsciously or unconsciously) ambivelant about suicide, and those who have made up their mind and are just waiting for the correct methods.
Anyway that’s beside the point. The only thing that matters is making sure people get the right kind of help for whatever decision theyve made
Are there people here hat will say things like “It gets better?”, “you will find love”. etc … sure … is it true? that depends on a myriad of factors … mostly from the reader. truth is, there is no guarantees in life … but like it’s unlikely that anyone’s life will be perfectly happy, nor will it be a complete disaster – both very unrealistic scenarios. but if someone completely gives up and no longer tries, circumstances will snowball into a very daunting hurdle that becomes difficult to overcome – but not impossible.
i think most get here when they see no other options and they are considering the only thing perceived left to do – and even that, they don’t know the answer to … the unknown – whatever their beliefs may be.
and no matter what is said, or how it’s presented, they leave or at least discover a different perspective and/or point of view but more often that not they find a sharper focus on whatever it is they need … whether it be renewed belief that there is a stairway to heaven or to simply shift focus off the big picture and simply focus on the next step forward … either way, and everything in between, they gain a quieting of the mind, a reduction of the swirling din of cacophony within the mind that drowns out their every thought.
ans sometimes .. despite the platitudes and irrelevancies – just giving pause … a simple moment to catch one’s breath … is enough … but none of it is “false” – each comes looking for a piece to add to their puzzle … many here will offer a puzzle piece … some will fit, and some won’t … and sometimes we ask others only to realize we were already holding that missing piece in the other hand.
jigsaw dawg