I have thought and battled trust me, I have got myself out of some really downward states. the thing is though I cant change my life, my external life, Ive changed my internal one but my external one remains empty. I struggle to accept that while I am good looking/ wise/ good hearted/ fun (if im in the right mood) my looks and who I am just means nothing to the majority of women. I guess my problem is in my empty life that I have come to rely on dating sites instead of real life.
Im 34 , good looking and the only woman who seems into me at the moment online is a 45 year old that I dont fancy. All the others trash you so easily because they have alot of options, its all about the quality of your message and Ive got a brain disorder and dont always wright good ones. Ive also got a twisted personality thats become twisted because when I was in a real down bad way it worked against me, so maybe I am counteracting it and thats working against me too, women have such an advantage and it does piss me off. I guess Im in a position because of my empty life where I probably want/need it too much which also works against me. added that to the fact women work against you aswell because its all about them and you get the almost zero chance that ive been battleing against for ages. I think alot of men are in a similar possition, some guys make a killing on online dating but they are generally the ones good at playing them and saying the right things and who have good lives and probably money.
For the last 4 years Ive had a really low quality of life which is ever since I broke up with my ex and she put me through living hell. I got extremely hurt by her because the hell went on for a few months with her rediculing and rejecting and laughing and sleeping with other guys almost infront of me and I was so wounded inside that I couldnt show my real self to people. then I spent 4 years on the dating site and no matter what Id do, funny profiles, profiles with wisdom, little profiles, big profiles, the results were still pretty much nothing. this has led to me doing insulting profiles and insutling women but to be honest most of it is true. They dont want you for you, they want you for either your money or they  want you for what you do to them with your words, its almost as if they are glove puppets and you have to pull there strings! Like they are royalty and we have to bow down and give them what they want in order to get somewhere and im crap at doing that, then they say they dont want players but they create players by needing to be played! Im not insulting the women on here, you are probably far better than the ones on dating sites in my area who look good just because they pose like wankers (which is what they basically are) and gain off us (men ) having the eyes to see them as beautiful, which they dont return to us and there is the gap right there, theres the advantage they have. what we give and what they dont. what we see and what they fail to.  Ive learnt that guys are just as good looking as women as Im a bit bi when it comes to pornography lol our bodys are just as good looking as theres , I so wish they would see it. they’d then start desireing us for us intead of how we make them feel with our words and ways. I know most women say they dont want to be wanted just sexually and look down on it but thats the very reason why you have an advantage in dating - sex appeal.  If we didnt fancy you for that then we’d probably be just as selfish as alot of women. Sit back and need you to do something, because if you dont your just a nothing. I do believe that things are beautiful and I believe both genders have a beauty in both there own ways, but I also think that you need to be looking through good seeing  eyes to see it, many women in  my area have absolutely nothing to give and its very hurtful to be seeing beauty in women  and desireing them and having them constantly not do it back, its very hurtful to be thrown on the scrap after a mistake in your messages time and time again. Women dont have this problem. they are released from alot of hurtful and rejecting things that would put them in a position of having to tread carefully because of us I would say and the whole advantage thing. ( this is a generalization by the way) the amount of girls Ive just looked at and thought yeah I could love her , Id like to. but can they love me? do they want me? all I am is a message and my messages arent always that good . Give a good one get a good responce cos you made em laugh and then send another which doesnt and they dont reply again. sometimes you send a good message and there so cuntish that they dont even look at your profile. I just fucking want to get a relationship so i can fuck this whole thing off, Im s ick of being alone in an empty life its killing me, ive already died twice so nothing new there. 4 years being available and no one wanting you is a bit hard to take. even if they do temporarily like some have, they are usually not the ones Id want but Ive dropped my standards so much to see beauty in girls I probably didnt use to, but like I say get chatting to a girl, build up a raport, and all it takes is saying one thing they dont like which because Im fucked up and in a bad possition it happens with me and thats it. I mean thats wank isnt it? negative things just hit there head like a bulldozer and they’re the bull.
They want confident men but they arent good for our confidence. They say they want honest men but any bad truth is enough to get them running. they say they dont want players but they need to be played. they say they want a decent bloke which usually means doesnt want sex, or really doesnt show that they do., ofcourse men want sex! we wouldnt be men if we didnt!
With women its all about already having one or just breaking up from having one, because then you are more fullfilled, and so its like sharks in the water. hungry start to fall, eaten eat again. I aint really much of a shark but I have developed a bite. bite bite gone bite bite gone, Its fucking rediculous and I need to come up from this war zone of an ocean and get some air!
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I think the thing is most people are just deserters.
Money in my hands is like water. Imagine Evian spelt backwards.
whats that supposed to mean? you calling me nieve ? I dont think so , women are just cunts on the large. theres nothing wrong with wanting someone to be with you so you dont have to go through all your life battles on your own. desire is a good thing, its just this world is generally backwards so dont be cheeky to me .
I want to love someone and usually when your a loving person you do want to use it, its just most people are fucking nobodys and im not . there nobodys so they provide nothing possitive and they see nothing.
Boo hoo. ‘I am not popular therefore women are to blame’.
Get over yourself.
oh god, not you again, i thought i already prooved that you wont win in a debate with me. ooh im a woman and women cant possibly be to blame because were so great. get over yourself, half a day .
I am not popular, therefore conformity and the idea that material belongings correlate to the value of an individual are to blame.Boo. Hoo.At least, that’s how I read it.
I never said women are so great. I just think its a bit pathetic to sit and whine about how hard done by you are as a man, when we clearly live in a mans world. Get a lifE and stop freaking innocent women out. Yes, those innocent women that you freaked out on this website, thy told me about you and asked me to help. Start treating women as people and not just a way of gratifying your ego. You might find yourself less lonely.
mans world?? your joking not on the dating scene , thats womens territory because they are generally worse in the heart and takers . FACT
You think i was always like this?? this is because of how ive been treated and im not the only guy either, women dont care about us, they dont care about how we feel its just allo about them . there are some nice ones but alot of cunts who dont know they ‘re cunts because there that cuntish
Youre a sad person. I won’t waste time on you. But you are completely illogical if your perception of the world is limite to Internet dating. Women have more options on I teensy dating therefore it’s a women’s world? Yes, you are indeed deluded. Good luck finding a woman to love you who doesn’t mind you calling her a cuntish ****.
AND by the way I am very popular thank you if i could ever get out enough, get a life!? thats why im on here obviously . your just picking this as a way of getting revenge because I made you look like an idiot, wasnt hard actually.
My ego has been well earnt, you just love trying to bring men down its all you fucking ever do.
IF i find a nice one I wont need to.
what part of that didnt you read? Ive got a low quality of life that i haven t been able to change so small things become im portant. thats what low quality of life means.
anyway it was nice to be met with such attacks, I dont think ive upset that many people since ive been on here. maybe said a few things without thinking, luckily im pretty sure of myself so it dont bother me
I actually share a big part of myself which alot of people cant do . Ive worked hard t o be able to do it, thanks for the understanding
funny two people who i think ive upset before, just by being honest. come along when i open up for a cheap shot. NICE
Well … I’m not a woman … so i can say with certainty … women don’t want a combatant … if you’re going to see relationships/dating like a battle/war, you’ll get no where. also, once upon a time, there was no such thing as “dating sites” … which only a very small percentage of women use anyway.
dating hint: drop the “women are cunts” dialog and attitude … go out and do something and meet people … try to make friends then network off that.
gigolo dawg
You attack women, then you are surprised that people attack you back?
Make no mistake: most of my friends are men. I don’t have a problem with men at all. My problem is with you, personally.
If you want so much to be loved, stop flinging hate. It’s easy
@dawg… Did something happen to orangish?
@one_day – i don’t really know – i heard tell that he bailed from sp and chat … but i don’t know first hand. i’ll see if i can find out more and give you an update when i know
@painman – despite one_day’s abruptness … if her words are taken objectively – they’re pretty accurate … every woman out there is not your ex – quit holding them all responsible and trying to exact retribution.
dawg
Hey Painman; No offense meant, but it does seem unfair to judge an entire group of people based off the actions of one person in that group. There’s a cliche: You can’t find the right person until you become the right person for somebody else.
what a douche. no wonder he’s suicidal.
I am not a douche thanks who ever knew **** is. I am suicidal or have been no thanks to women. when i was down and lost everything they would just see me for was what id lost, and now ive gained its again negative. the truth is this . MEN ARE ABOVE WOMEN. we are the special ones who carry the life that they need. but they dont want to know it because with the world becoming fucked up by evil influences that came directly from satan. YES. hearts in women were lost and they reigned above men because they had not the heart to see the beauty that men could. I am no douche mother fuck. I know more about the world than you would in your day dreams that are REALLY THE NIGHT THAT YOU CANT SEE. Yes i want to love and when i go out i am not like this but there are alot of cunts out there and men are at the bottom when they shouldnt be. women are supposed to be are lovers not the cunts in a high chair. SIMPLE. Love to all, kiss kiss.
and you knew dawn fades you got fuck all to say you just come like a twat and think you reign FUCK OFF.
@Painman, I am a girl and I understand how you’re feeling. I think the perspective you have of yourself and women isn’t helping. I grew up thinking that looks were the ultimate weapon to conquer men’s hearts but I’ve learned that it isn’t so. They can spark an interest at first but personality counts a LOT more, specially to maintain someone’s interest and develop a healthy and long lasting relationship. If you have a bad self-image, you’ll end up projecting it and that’s not attractive. Having a low-self esteem is like adverting that the product you’re trying to sell is completely flawed, who will buy it? I have that same problem and I know the only way out of that vicious circle is to fix myself, but it took me a long time to develop these distorted views and patters, so the thought of changing them seems as difficult as climbing mount Everest. Just like you I feel pretty lonely.
That is a good motivation for “Euthanasia….â€
Sorry very sick sense of humour…. I do not agree with him at all….
“Respect….†That plays a huge part….. Good manners!!! It’s not that hard….
If you can’t accept me at my worst…. You do not deserve me at my best…..
And strangely….
I’m someone who hates himself!!!!
Always have and always will…. No Ego…. Nothing to prove to anyone….. Not looking for acceptance from anyone…. If you do not like me…. It is not my fault… Nor is it yours…. Never asked you to like or except me…. Just do not expect me to change for anyone…..
I knew your dawn faded as soon as you came on, little **** acting big man joining all the fannys. yeh you go there and you stay there ****, join marma spade, you can be low grade together! its where you belong. but dont expect to be a man at the end of it. your just a couple of suckers up. well suvk up baby but dont expect them to do it back
You are not trash.
Everyone deserves to be loved. I can see that you are hurting.
Just remember you can never make anyone love you. The females you refer to in your post they are clearly not what you want or need in your life.
Still it doesn’t give us the right to judge them.
You are not trash.
Everyone deserves to be loved. I can see that you are hurting.
Just remember you can never make anyone love you. The females you refer to in your post they are clearly not what you want or need in your life.
Still it doesn’t give us the right to judge them.
ive been where you are now.
@AmorEMorte, you’re right, I think that Painman is just suffering and extremely hurt and pain and frustration are often exorcised by being “insulting”. He’s right about a few things though, women at first just like men look for shallow qualities at the beginning, that can change with time and getting to know someone better. It’s like saying that men are completely indifferent to a woman being physically attractive or not. Most people don’t admit it and conceal these types of feelings cause it doesn’t make them “look good” but denying this fact is like denying one of the elements of the true nature of human beings.
haha nice, pain”man” but its pretty douchey to say “im not a douche” and “MEN ARE ABOVE WOMEN” in the same sentence. haha you being so crass is very amusing. thanks for letting me know how much better i am than you. i needed that. haha funny how you need to use insults and profanity to try and lower my self esteem. well i think i’ll go make love to my fiance now, how bout you pain”boy”? gonna scroll thru the spank bank haha? and why you calling me a ****? from the sounds of it you dont know your way around one.
I hate it when I see these fight on here! I am sure no of you is better off than the other otherwise you wouldn’t be here.
@ndf: ‘. well i think i’ll go make love to my fiance now’
TOLD.
The rules Of this site clearly state don’t post hateful things. Painman always posts fairly hateful things towards women on this site, sadly he is too ignorant to see how hateful he is. Normally when people post hateful things I report them: I don’t bother reporting pain man because he’s so pathetic it’s comic.
Yeah, I know what you mean black swan. If someone says something considered outrageous especially contrary to how people should behave they are automatically a jerk. People don’t bother to see beyond the irrationality. It’s easy to hold prejudice toward a certain group if in your own mind at least a person that you are able to identify is partly responsible for your suffering. We all hold some sort of prejudice based on assumptions but most people are just afraid to admit it. I can’t think at the moment what mine are because I’m too detached but I have them; I’m not super human or anything. I think I’m entitled to think illogically once in a while.
Women can be awful and manipulative, but let’s be honest, men sometimes treat their significant others horribly too. I don’t think it’s a men/women issue. People in general are just very selfish. Even the best of us have all probably treaded on shaky grounds a time or two.
And I’ll just second what BlackSwan said and add that nobody posting here is *not* fucked up.