If you think your life sucks because you don’t have a boyfriend, or you’re fighting with your current boyfriend, or your boyfriend left you… get a real problem.
I used to cry over that crap, and then I realized that relationships are S-I-M-P-L-E.
If you want a guy go get one. If you can’t find one, you’re not looking in the right places. If you’re unhappy with a guy leave him. If a guy leaves you, it wasn’t meant to be.
A little insensitive? So is telling someone who can’t have children that their life is gravy and they should just go to bed. So much for this site.
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People want different things. Personally for me, loving someone who was in front of me and showed me love affects me a lot more than a child I have not given birth to. I read the response you were offended by; but I am curious, what is wrong with adopting children? There are many babies out there who want love but aren’t given any.
I can’t say that I know what you are going through.
I do know that for personal experience, I had a miscarriage gone wrong last month where I bled out rotten blood for a month and then had to have the remains of a baby taken out with forceps because it was stuck in my body.
Yet for me, losing the man I love was a lot more traumatic, as traumatic as the latter experience was.
There is no reason to lash out at everyone else who is suffering over romantic love, because you disagree with how someone responded to you.
I am curious though, why does it matter to you so much to have a child by birth?
I am not trying to offend you, I would like to understand you.
It’s all I’ve ever wanted. I can’t explain to you why I was born with strong maternal instincts. I know that I could love an adopted baby as my own, but I want to carry my child. It just means a lot to me. I’m from a small town. I live in the city now, but I still carry around those country values.
I’m very sorry to hear about your miscarriage. That would be the end of the world to me.
I apologized to black swan for lashing out, I know that’s not what this place is for. I saw that you were a little upset before too, so I know you understand how I was feeling.
Losing anyone you love is traumatic. But there’s almost always a chance to find someone else. I’ve lost my ability to have children. You haven’t lost your ability to find another man. You may have lost your will to do it, but you’re still capable. If he died or something, I’m very sorry for you. My best friends father died suddenly this summer, and I’ve watched it rip her family apart.. I hope that’s not the case with you.
As an aside… A lot of the posts I’ve read on here are people who are infatuated not in love. I used to get the two confused, but I know better now. I’m not saying that’s your case, I don’t know your story, but some people just need to let go. When you find the one, they’re gonna want you just as much as you want them.
I’ve learned that issues are only as big as they are to you. Each of us gives a different level of importance to the different aspects that make a life. It wasn’t that clear to me, from your earlier post, that having kids was the main source of your pain. It seemed like it was your illness what was making you depressed. I didn’t mean nor have the right to depreciate any problem people might be battling with but I thought your illness could be manageable since the rest of the things you wrote were mostly positive and that’s why I responded the way I did.
You can adopt so they want be your’s biologically. Or do a madonna adopt a africain or adopt a cat. Get a helmet.
I went off on a tangent, I tend to do that. My insecurities come from my condition, and those are what keep me down I think.
But where you were wrong so was I with this post.
I guess it still comes back to the things we obsess over, the things we really want. I want that one person, not just anyone. I have thought about adoption before, so for me, I can have any baby, it doesn’t have to come from my womb. For you it’s the opposite. You do love the person you love now, but it doesn’t have to be him. But as for a baby, you would like it to come from you.
If we could only control the things we wanted.
I envy your ignorance, Donnie.
If only…
i don’t know how to take that a insult. I envy your wisdom.
haha way to make a sad girl smile
I lol’d
African baby: no. Cat:no.
Time to get a helmet.
wow, i bet i would totally get along with a lot of folks on this site, all of us depressed people should get together and take over an island or something….lol.