There’s no fancy title today, unlike the Wrecked-It-Domino parody I did of Wreck-It-Ralph last update post.
Lo siento.
But anyways, tomorrow starts the week long vacation from my computer. I’m trying to make some VERY big decisions in my life currently. Mainly, the male I’m with (Yes, MALE, not female, homophobics.) currently is going away. The thing is.. For 2 years he’s been with a young lady in Conneticut, a long distance relationship. She’s going over to his home for the next 6-7 days. For 6 months, he’s been with me as well. I’m now allowed to see him until I’m 18, or get my liscense (won’t happen since I’m scared to death of highways.) I’m a long-distance relationship for him as well. The young lady knows me as a straight artist, because if she knew of my bisexuality, she’s flip on him and be, as he describes it, “even MORE overprotective, emo, and depressed about it.”. Apparently some guy before me and him, hurt him very badly, and she just wants to protect him.
I just want to try and think out, if I should really be with this man, and when the time comes, have him decide, whether it’s me or her. Or if this relationship is not worth another dying heartbreak. I’ll be completely honest, I’ve cried for this man, I’m given comfort, I’ve let him make up lies about me so the lady won’t freak out. I draw for him, I would take a million bullets and one more for him. Protect him in anyway I see fit, even if I have to hitchhike to his house for a night just to make sure he’s okay.
So tonight, before I turn in, I ask all of you with the needed experience to give your honest opinions. Should I leave him before he has this young lady, even if he’s told me he would leave her for me? Should I tell him I’ll always be here, so when the time comes, he can decide peacefully? Or something in between?
Please, I need all of your help in this situation.
-DOMINO
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its hard to say what you should do really…
the rational side says leave him, but maybe you should talk first about if he really would leave her for you or if he wants to go on with this circus. but your heart that loves him wants to do anything to keep him… i dont know cant help you really.
It’s a horrible predicament I’ve gotten into this time. Sadly.. This isn’t the first time, with another male, when I was younger… 13/14 maybe? Only difference is the male from before is now my closest friend, above him is this man.
love is love, you can never know when it ends bad or good if it ends or not… its not because you been on one bad relationship that will make you stronger to deal with the next it doesnt work that way :/ unfortunetly
love is love, you can never know when it ends bad or good if it ends or not… its not because you been on one bad relationship that will make you stronger to deal with the next it doesnt work that way :/ unfortunetly
Domino Jays, to much going on let the situation run it’s course what is meant to be will be don’t over think it!
Actions speak louder than words. If he was going to leave her for you, he would have done so already. I hate to say that because it’s so harsh, and you obviously care for this guy very much. So, I’m sorry, however, it’s the truth. It sounds as though he’s stringing you along, and it might be best for your sake to make a decision, rather than leave it up to him. He will probably never make the decision, because he wants to have his cake and eat it too, so to speak. It’s up to you what you want to do. You have as much right to make a decision as he does.
Domino Jays, dammit i was wrong again!!! 🙁
TheGoodGirl is right!! she has good advice!!
Hah, thanks rocketman, but you were right too! If it is meant to be it will be. I always say that.
Thank you all! I love the advice! I just don’t want me talking to him like this to be during a bad time. I might just wait until this all passes, and we both have some free time. You know what I mean?
Well i can tell you one thing, long distance most of the time will not work. I’ve tried it. You get very insecure, considering you dont know what he is doing there and he doesnt know what your doing where your at. What kind of person is he? Is he the type that stays out of trouble or the type that is always in trouble? I can tell you from my expierence of a long distance relationship, I was with a guy that liked to party yes, but we were so in love it was crazy. He left me twice because of drugs, he would always call me in the middle of the night drunk off his ass and then when i would tell him he needed to go home and get some rest because he had no fuckin idea what he was doing roaming the streets he would scream and yell at me and tell me not to tell him what to do. It was difficult. I seen him once in the 8 months we were together, i talked to him on the phone everyday, sometimes all day. Yet i still found my self missing him so much i couldnt deal with the feeling, i couldnt deal with the stress and it brought me down and made me depressed as fuck. If you believe you guys truely love each other you can make it through any situation your put in. Follow your heart girl! 🙂