What Is And What Should Never Be

Things to be, things that are there, things to keep… They are the things that must exist. Because they stay unaffected by the evils of other things. They are like glass, even when broken, they keep shining.  They are different for each person. They may not follow standards or fashion, only the person’s soul. So they don’t necessarily have to be material (like dreams). But what is certain is they are always the dearest, cherished ones. We cling onto them, never let go of them, and cry, when we lose them, or when they’re suddenly taken away from us. And even then, when they are already not there, we keep possessing them, sometimes by only remembering them, and like this they are alive inside us as long as we’re alive.

Did you ever find yourself listening to the same tape or watching the same movie over years and not ever getting tired doing so? This is  affection. It has become a thing to die for. Why do you still sleep with your old tattered teddy bear? I bet not because you’re lonely or afraid of the dark, but because it’s  a part of you, an inseparable part. It gives you a sense of security,  consolation, and utmost trust. The more such things you have, the longer you live, and the happier you are.

It’s important to say that they are THINGS, not PEOPLE. However, they can be animals, like pets. A dog or parrot,  cat or bunny. They’re all equally lovable things that are worth living, and dying to for. The only problem is, to be sure, they all have a relatively short lifetime. And it’s very, very painful to watch them go, knowing that you have dozens of lonely years ahead, and every next time it’s harder and harder to put up with it. But the love that you get from them, like a sacred gift, keeps you away from harm, and helps you make the right choices.

Love. The happiest and most desired feeling for many. The wonder of love is that it can embrace anything at all, from your favorite toy to your adored sweetheart. But love can’t be permanent. It comes and goes. It is the most “unstable” condition one could ever experience. One single love can change itself a million times during the life of the person. Variation is one of the essential qualities of love that it needs to survive, and fight against hatred, its evil counterpart. (Hatred is very dangerous, especially prolonged one, because revenge can ensue out of it.) Love is very close friends with trust, when it comes to loving a human being, one can’t exist without the other. Love purifies the soul. It drives away fears (fear of death included). In true love, there’s nothing you can’t do.

Miracles. They are our mind’s way to perceive the marvelous things that suddenly happen to us and that we can’t explain. They ”fall onto our heads” leaving us in the state of euphoria and wonder. Miracles go along with faith and hope. Life doesn’t seem so hard when you believe in miracles, though they are not for optimists or skeptics, who tend to assess life more rationally. But for those in despair, a miracle is their last refuge, which they never stop seeking, even subconsciously. The miracles’ life-resolving ability is tremendous, plus the fact that they are granted to you, though you might take them as reward for your efforts and patient waiting. This said, all miracles have a very disappointing, but integral quality of being EXTREMELY rare. Nowadays, with the world being ruined from within, there are hardly any people left who haven’t lost their hope, which itself means we’re losing our miracles and one day, just like the sun, they will cease to shine upon us.

Dreams. There isn’t a person who’s never daydreamed. It’s built in in every person as an instrument for survival and can’t be extracted. Sweet thoughts, or reveries, they hit us with surprising frequence, at any time we might be unintentionally daydreaming. And there’s nothing wrong with it, moreover, dreams direct us toward our future, make us work out plans, keep us afloat. But the most important about dreams is, ultimately, they give our lives a PURPOSE. Living without a purpose is merely wasting your life and creating problems for others. Therefore, while you dream, you live, even if you’re not completely sure whether your dream will come true. But once your dreams perish, you will expire as well, slowly but steadily. So I can safely say to all of you willing to pull through, dream on! Only dreams can keep you alive. But be careful what you wish for, ’cause your wishes might fulfill.

Devotion, which is the fusion of affection, admiration and loyalty in their supreme forms. It fills one’s life up to the top, and can be blinding if takes over. If you’re devoted to someone or something, they’re the light of your life, no more, no less. Your fates become entwined. Their prosperity is your prosperity. Their demise is your demise. There are several people that I personally would devote my entire life to, but they will never understand, and I’m too shy to even tell them they mean something to me. So every time they walk by, I just watch, gaze at them until they’re no more in sight.  Look around you. There might be someone who worships you, but is afraid to get themselves noticed. Sometimes all you need to do is just say hi, don’t ever refuse them a chance.

Things that should never be. They are the reverse of the things to be, and interaction with them can be devastating. Unfortunately, they are always there, and never fail to be noticed. It is unknown where they come from, but everyone knows how much damage they can do. As a rule, they  destroy the good things (it’s their pet hobby),  hide them, or make them unseen, to make more room for themselves. Ultimately, they get us all lost.

Misfortune. It’s always the number one. A really queer thing. Works in mysterious, twisted ways, the reverse side of luck. It strikes everyone one day or another, but with each person getting a different share. It’s totally an inexplicable, intangible, and to some even unbelievable thing. It is measured in chances. A chance itself as a measure unit, is absolutely neutral thing, as it offers two opportunities with different, and usually contrary to each other outcomes, and gives the person the freedom to choose. And still from the point of misfortune, that freedom is quite questionable, for if the odds are already stacked against you, or if you are a failure, no matter which way you go, you end up at a dead end.

It is mistakenly believed that misfortune is provoked by risks. No way! It’s the other way round. Risking is the attribute of fortune. Only lucky self-assured people tend to take risks. Failures do not dare. They fail by simply trying. Remember how many times you’ve heard them say: “come on, give it a try, there’s no harm in trying…”, and moreover, you can see it written all around with persistent determination. You may not take this into account, but in fact, there IS harm in trying, because “to try” is just another way of saying “to take a chance”, and there you go “trying your fortune.”

Lies. Those tricky little things, they reside everywhere. There isn’t a place in the world that is not tainted by lies. Why? Why do we lie? There’s no easy answer. Consider two kinds of lies. The first and the meanest of them is self-accredited lie, when the person lies out of their personal interest in making profit, gaining success. Deception is their strong point, but in all other respects, deceitful people are mostly weak.  Another one, is the  enforced lie, which is more a way of survival, when the person is compelled to not tell the truth. No matter what kind, the lies alone are hardly harmful, and don’t usually entail immediate consequences, all because they are not easily recognized, and even less easily disclosed. But at the same time, lies can give birth to a bunch of other more severe and destructive things.

Regrets, the heavy burdens that weigh you down and keep you living in your past. You regret things you had done at some time in your life, and cannot change. Regrets are there to place all the blame on yourself. As a result, you begin to disapprove of your being, and seek an escape out of the restraining web of  your regrets (your past), doubts (your present), and misgivings (your future). It all forms a vicious cycle that carries on going, and going. The most intense regrets transform into “sins”, which are the regrets perceived to be too tremendous that they are the hardest to cope with. It’s the final stage after which the person is either dead or reborn. The key resisting them is only letting go, which is probably your ability to forget, or to not care. It turns out the more oblivious you are, the more chances you won’t be affected by regrets. However, this state very closely neighbors with insanity.

Unfairness, or injustice. Why is life treating you like that? Do you really deserve it? It seems like unfairness is very much like misfortune, though it’s somewhat different. The matter is, injustice is controlled strictly by people, which is not the case with misfortune, that is not at all controlled. But injustice is well connected with the choices people make. And most people are fully aware of what they’re doing. This is, however, not to say that they’re doing it on purpose. Like in lie’s case, they might be forced to do things that cause others to suffer. If I were to draw a portrait of unfairness, it would be a bird whose wings have been cutoff. This is the very condition we’re left in when we’re thrown out of our right tracks. When we’re unable to do what we were born for, to be where we belong, and thus everything we do goes wrong.

There are no people that are good-for-nothing. There are millions of things we’re capable of doing masterly, but are prevented from realizing our potentials for various reasons, the majority of which arise from the society we have to live in. Unfairness makes you feel miserable, unnecessary outcasts. Unfairness is so hard to beat because it makes you feel lonely and helpless around thousands of people. And it leads to chaos within the society and within each of its individuals.

No matter good or bad, things do appear in combinations, and very often develop from each other. In every person the degree to which those things manifest themselves is different. And the degree controls the level of happiness and satisfaction in each particular person. If you’ve managed to read the entire post, you’re not that hopeless as you consider yourself to be. There’s still a spark left in you, don’t let it die.