My ex husband walked out on me because of my severe mental illness that happened 6 years into our 8 year marriage. He left me for being sick. For trying to get help. I has to leave my son for a month to try and get help. I thought I was doing good and so was our marriage for the month before he left. I wasn’t cutting and I was happy and didn’t want to die. He walked out on us.
Now I’m married again and I don’t feel my husband is attracted to me. He accepts my mental illness because he has it too. My bipolar is quite more rapid than his is. So I had one man who treated me like shit beat me and leave. Now I have one who can’t “perform”. He says he doesn’t know why, but I can tell by the timing it’s me. Why can’t I be loved or attractive?
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well, for an argument on your side:
if he takes meds they can really kill your sex drive..
and if it is during times that makes you think it’s you..
it could be that his thinking is just messed up from past experiences in his life..
so it still might have little to do with just you..
I had a point in my life where I couldn’t stop my thought process.. even during sex..
I had to learn to relax more so I could enjoy sex again.
I was too messed up..
and the meds made me feel strange.. so I stopped taking them and focused on
clearing my head.. it worked for me, but everyone is different of course..
Actually there is a good chance it isn’t you. This is common with men with anxiety issues and men who are afraid they aren’t good enough. So.. even though he may be very attracted to you when its time to “perform” he may get insecure and start thinking he wont be good enough and those thoughts will put an end to intimacy fast. And if that is it then it will take time to get over it. And the only way to get over it is to get used to cuddling and stuff a lot.