It gets better. Suck it up. That’s not something to end your life over. Live goes on.
Fuck you. That’s my summed up answer to that.
I don’t want your correcting, I don’t want your tone policing, or any “it gets better” shit. What I want is for people to understand and respect my choices and emotions and feelings. Stop telling the victim to change, and start actually listening.
Every interaction with any to-be friends becomes a disaster when this comes up. I trigger from it. And they don’t even respect the trigger and go “Sorry, I won’t say that again”. They just call or think me irrational. And so I barely have any friends or people I can talk to. Because explaining why I’m triggered or suicidal or depressed over and over and over again is hard. I don’t think they get it. “But its normal to expect anÂ answer why” Yeah but it is not healthy to expect things of me that is hard to do. You want to be a good friend, respect me. Let me say it if I want and you can handle it, but don’t expect me to pour out all the ache for you and dish out explanations to why its triggery. Because its hard to explain, and its triggering just having to explain after the 15th time. So give me a break and go “Okay, I respect your triggers. If you ever feel like telling me then its okay and I will listen”.
I just hate when people will tell me they will be supportive and be a good friend when they disrespect my triggers, and dismiss my feelings by telling me to “suck it up”, and telling me my life is not my own to choose the life span of. I mean that’s just beyond discouraging, getting friends who turn out to trigger you and push all your buttons and don’t respect your answers and feelings. It just makes the whole thing worse.